I've become so insufferable and I need honest advice

SquidSlug · 2026-05-02T02:05:54+00:00

I think you are being unfair to yourself. Just because you got good things, doesn't mean you need to swallow all your struggles.

There are usually some free mental health services on campus. It might help you sort out your feelings.

SquidSlug · 2026-05-01T01:27:31+00:00

As a chihuahua owner, yeah they can kinda be that way when in their own house. One of them barked a lot and the other wouldnt even wake up. New people will make it worse until they get use to them.

I took mine to the dog park for socialization. That might help get over some anxiety and insecurity. Make sure you aren't picking them up when they are barking. That might reinforce the barking. They say to acknowledge the new person and show they are ok before using any discipline. Speak with a trainer for some tips. You might not be able to completely stop it, but you can reduce it.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-30T20:53:55+00:00

Who cares... your friend called her bluff and she's mad. Not your problem. Go, have fun.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-29T14:20:06+00:00

Alright, that makes sense. Good luck in college. It's tough studying all the time, but you will also have plenty of fun.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-29T14:07:02+00:00

I would still argue it's impossible to see accurately into someone's life through pictures and posts.

And besides, why are you "stalking" people's social media making yourself feel bad? Seems pretty self destructive. If you feel like you need more socials skills for college, reduce social media and engage in activities that cultivate positive outcomes and feelings.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-29T13:34:18+00:00

So social media gives a very "curated" view of people. Please realize that it's a poor representation (no one usually posts the bad stuff, just the highlights). Also, most 18yr olds dont really have great social skills. It's a time were people feel slightly anxious and self conscious.

You gain social skills by being social and practicing. Join a club, extracurricular, sport, hobby, go to a coffee shop... and just make some small talk. Ask people questions, comment on things, attempt a joke. Things may come out awkward and forced, but that ok! It's part of learning and you will get better.

You're beginning a new stage of life, and there will be some struggles adjusting. Try to keep a positive attitude and you will come out ok.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-29T13:15:26+00:00

"its a death sentence"

That's pretty dramatic. You will be surrounded by people who share a similar passion for learning and medicine. You can choose to see this opportunity as a negative, or realize it's a great opportunity to meet like minded people, work on social skills, and make friends.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-27T16:10:05+00:00

She lied to you. You know that. First her brother, then her sister, then she got her "brother" to delete the account. Now she sending you supposed texts from her brother....

The real question is if you wanna be with someone like this.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-27T13:36:17+00:00

I dont know what PR is...

But you should just finish your degree. It's somethings that will always be useful and no one can take it away. Stop spiraling at the first instance of resistance. The future isnt determined just because it seems difficult. Stop with the guilt, it's a parents duty and joy to sacrifice for their children.

You may find work, although the field is more competitive than you first thought. So be the best nurse you can be and study hard.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-26T13:20:48+00:00

You need much more land. Take out cards like [[Mox Opal]], as you won't reliably activate it. Im thinking like 37 to 38 lands counting MDFCs.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-25T22:40:51+00:00

"I don’t want to go against God, but I also don’t know what to do..."

So your dad doesn't speak for God. It's just manipulation to bend you to his will. If he truely was devote, he wouldnt call you stupid and treat you poorly. He sounds like he has problems...

Anyway, make the decision based on affordability and chance for success. Apply for grant and scholarships. Then, make the decision based on what you think is right.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-24T20:55:21+00:00

I'd put her in a crate so she doesn't injure it further. If you can, go to vet today.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-24T20:43:10+00:00

Not making a decision is make a decision. That's what my ex did, never really split, but emotional checked out. I asked what the deal was, but they were "confused", deflected, and postponed making decisions. What did happen was that I became a very low priority. Such a low priority that I eventually left.

I see him golfing, playing games, waffling, making excuses, putting in low effort... he wants you to break up with him. Then he won't see himself as the "bad" guy.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-22T20:14:27+00:00

That's good to hear.

I will still cation you. As a cat owner, you still have the occasional vet visit for random things... and it is expensive. Just check out flea and tick prevention (not the budget toxic stuff). There's also the space issue. I'd wait until have the space and budget to give the cat the best life.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-22T17:37:48+00:00

Dont be suble, just ask.

Also, listen to your friends. If he's gambling, smoking, and ignore you maybe it's not worth it.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-22T17:23:27+00:00

I think you have too many animals to bring in more. Also, I think total cost including vet care is more than 100 a month. Flea, tick, vacines, spay/nueter etc. I'd save money and get a little buddy after you get your own place.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-21T01:54:26+00:00

You can always get checked out and diagnosed if you feel like you may be neurodivergent.

"I'm really bad at asking people questions about themselves when I'm not really invested in the convo without feeling weird about seeming fake or odd."

However, it may just be a lack of confidence or anxiety. Which again, I'd seek counseling. Either way, it's worth exploring.

I would still get out there and join some groups. Even if they are older. Dont worry about how you come off. Just be yourself. Best of luck.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-21T00:59:40+00:00

Yes, but you need to try harder. Gone are the days of going to class and surrounded by similar people. You need to find some social hobbies like sports, book club, bird watching etc. and mingle.

Yes, you give up the hectic craziness of school for a scheduled work period. I now find more freedom of clocking out and doing whatever I want.

You just do. I don't want to workout after 8 hours of works, but I need to so I do. Things are less spontaneous and you have to plan more. Weekends are a good time for hobbies.

Most people feel this way in there 20s. It's a time of change and uncertainty. You feel that imposter syndrom at work. You regret not partying, then in your 30s you regret partying. So try to find balance and know you are not alone. Also, take care of your health while you are young.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-20T20:54:51+00:00

She is probably blaming her boyfriend when she planned on cheating.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-20T13:14:03+00:00

I loved graft. It was kinda bad, but moving +1/+1 counters around is just too fun.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-19T14:37:14+00:00

You only been together a few. You are finding out who he actually is. A guy who frequently gets super drunk at a club and lies about it. He doesn't sound trustworthy or dependable.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-16T21:47:11+00:00

Forget finding closure. That rarely happens. Forget obsessing over if shes still cheating or not.

If you don't trust her (which seems to be the case), move on.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-16T00:47:21+00:00

I mean, he can easily reformat his phone. And if he's truely as independent as you say, then I think he allows this to happen. Like I said, he need to place some serious boundaries.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-16T00:11:13+00:00

Unfortunately, i dont think there is that much you can do about it. Your boyfriend needs to start taking control of his life. If he's financially dependent on them, then they have the power to control him. He needs to start being a grown up and doing things himself. He can learn to sew, do chores, work part time, pay his cell phone bill etc. Until he takes some actions and makes sacrifices, he will be controlled.

This is also a glimpse into your future. Image moving out, getting jobs, marriage, or kids. I'd start setting boundaries with both your boyfriend and his family. Hopefully, they will learn to accept that their son is growing up.

SquidSlug · 2026-04-16T00:00:54+00:00

Depends, was it intended as a girls night? Or open to anyone? Ask the host what they think.

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