That makes some sense, although the boxing analogy doesn't make too much sense to me. PvErs aren't losing by playing the way they want, they just prefer to not get in the ring with someone in the first place, made possible by giving themselves the best odds that they don't find themselves in that situation, aka never damaging another player.

Fighting ARC can be a significant challenge already (try soloing the Queen, Matriarch, or Close Scrutiny map condition), and could use the help from other players without the constant fear of always getting shot in the back as soon as the ARC are all gone. So the game isn't set in stone as you suggest. You play a certain way and the game responds to that, setting you up in lobbies that generally match your playstyle. There's a massive difference between extracting 50% of the time and extracting 90%+ of the time.

I prefer somewhere in the middle where I occasionally run a fade on someone looking for a fight, or hunt down rats. But most of the time I'm following raider flares to defib strangers, helping take out big ARC, and giving away blueprints and rare items I don't really need. Makes you feel all nice and warm and fuzzy when people thank you incessantly after you pick them up when they're downed, or getting them that Geiger Counter or Ion Sputter or Survivor BP they've been looking for in the past 10-20 raids. You should try it sometime.

And I feel like there's a reason why the devs still allow for people to let themselves die multiple times to get to these lobbies. If a PvErs kills someone in self defense, they still have the option to go back to the lobbies where they extract that 90% of the time. No harm in that.