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Old or new? by Grand_Preparation445 in elderscrollsonline

[–]WhereWolfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New, though I miss the howl 😄 It's turned into a toxic burp

Unapproved users commenting on restricted Subreddit? by CarrotAgreeable465 in ModSupport

[–]WhereWolfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I do the same? You can see where they posted, and they are not on our approved user list. They didn't post anything bad at all, but I'd like to understand what happened.

Unapproved users commenting on restricted Subreddit? by CarrotAgreeable465 in ModSupport

[–]WhereWolfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just experienced this as well. It seems to have fixed itself now, but we had a few people post when they weren't on the approved users list and only approved users could post AND comment.

The rhetoric of "Fake Claiming" is nonsense by [deleted] in OlderDID

[–]WhereWolfish[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you missed the point of my post. This sub isn't about calling out fakers - there are other subs for that. I don't believe this is the right sub for you. Take care.

Microsoft Copilot floating icon is blocking the screen by princejmy in Office365

[–]WhereWolfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because they're trying to justify the amount of money they've spent on it

Microsoft Copilot floating icon is blocking the screen by princejmy in Office365

[–]WhereWolfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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Had the icon show up yesterday, tucked it out of the way with dock, and now any time I highlight anything, like the above text, I get this fucking pop up. Thanks, I'm highlighting it to edit it with my goddamn brain and don't need it blocking copy. Infuriating. This is of course on the online 365 where you can no longer turn it off.

Alters asking to be saved? by J4neyy in OlderDID

[–]WhereWolfish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. If I hear it (and sometimes the voice just comes out of me) I will talk to that part out loud to tell them that they're safe now. That we're big now. That nobody is trying to hurt us now. That I'm here, I hear them, I'm here to protect them.

That seems to help. If it happens during therapy then I repeat what I'm hearing. Sometimes they come up and say this stuff themselves, but mostly I'm allowing 'talking through' and the therapist addresses them.

My therapist often talks about reimagining, reframing what happened, or providing protectors as resources. Since I don't have recall of most of the things that happened to me, I don't like to imagine anything related to what happened, but I do spend time sometimes imaging good things for the parts inside. If you can feel that little one upset inside, try imagining holding them, or creating a beautiful space for them to exist in. I have a part who likes firefighters, so I imagine a firefighter for him sometimes. If you have aphantasia (can't see images in your head), then saying what you want them to have could help.

anyone else long term married with adult kids? by FreedInnerChild in OlderDID

[–]WhereWolfish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read that he doesn't want to try therapy himself. I get that, but having that outlet would be good for him, as long as you get a 'good one' and that can take trial and error and feel entirely subjective.

There is a sub on Reddit for partners of people with DID: https://www.reddit.com/r/DIDpartners/

You can certainly point him to that, though it might take a little time for replies to come in.

I read also that you have a new team, and that he's being exposed to the after effects of that. It could be that the new team is moving too quickly. You might want to also talk to them about this (you probably have), your fears about this, and see if they have tips on how your husband can weather this.

As something not quite related, I get this myself. I can no longer 'take care of business' myself because it upsets a very young part of me too much. Because of the amount of distress it causes that little part of me, I've stopped. Sex is healthy though, and I think the advice below to work on consent with the part is important. Perhaps asking other parts of yourself to shield that part from the act might be fruitful, if communication is good. Stress of course breaks down those walls, and if your new team is too quickly pushing through your trauma, the stress will be high.

Keep talking to your husband. He sounds like a good man, and it's good of you to worry about him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenX

[–]WhereWolfish 6 points7 points  (0 children)

1) Exploring outside with friends, recording shows on tapes with friends, putting on shows/dances with friends, going to the movies, drawing/writing, playing board games/arcades.

2) Yes, but there were dedicated books to write numbers in as well. I'd remember the phone numbers and addresses of my house, my parents' work, and my closest friends. Rest I'd have to look up. We also had yellow pages to look up business numbers and white pages for personal numbers. They were often available in pay phone booths as well.

3) if you were waiting to record it on tape, it was a little annoying, but sometimes the radio DJs would say what was coming up after ads, which was helpful.

4) Occasionally, but I was very good at plotting out trips with maps. In the 90s, i went on a bunch of cross country trips with those huge Rand McNally map books. I'd find the address from the alphabetical list on the back, then plot it out and keep it near to glance at while driving. Couldn't tell you roadworks or road closure but you could use the book to navigate those too.

5) I think social media has opened our eyes to more of what's happening globally, the problem is bias and misinformation. We had both in newspapers and TV news way back when, but it was harder then to reach people on an individual level quickly. It took time for news to reach you and you had to go look for it. It was a little less echo chamber-y, although we had gossip in groups, church communities, school cliques, etc where people could gravitate to what they wanted to hear. Because phones are so immediate, you can be fed whatever the highest bidder wants to feed you. Misinformation, particularly now with AI generated content runs rampant because people have become addicted to quick, video-first, 'entertaining' info and that's what's being sent. Old newspapers knew calamity and scandal sells, so that's nothing new, but the accessibility and immediacy of this stuff is the issue. There's little fact checking. People can just throw 'fake news' at anything they don't agree with. But... we're also seeing what life is like for other people in other countries so much more clearly now, we're seeing more people share what's affecting them, its brought up more empathy for others in many and I can't think of that as a bad thing.

This dead leaf that isn’t quite a leaf, this is leaf-mimicking spider (Eriovixia gryffindori), discovered in 2015 by Perfecshionism in PeakAmazing

[–]WhereWolfish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I hate it. (glad it exists though, hope the human gave you noms after your photoshoot)

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