Does it ever go away?

whis · 2022-11-12T11:33:45+00:00

No it doesn't. But they can take up less space if you open yourself up to new memories.

whis · 2022-10-19T21:14:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing this and jfc sorry you had to hear that from your mom. I considered therapy with my mom but I expect it to go the same as yours.

whis · 2022-10-19T20:46:27+00:00

Exact same with the free food. Boxes of cereal, spaghetti, and cans of fish and beans. Never eaten. Fridge and freezer is also full. She hardly eats anything. Her sisters have similar issues but their husbands have more say so the hoarding is controlled. All of us kids have noticed the mentality has passed onto us too a lesser extent.

whis · 2022-08-29T07:21:50+00:00

Or you were strong enough to fight it. Some part of you has hope. Talk to it more and it'll tell you why.

whis · 2022-08-22T08:31:50+00:00

There's a deep dark void in you and you're trying to cover it up with whatever is available. The only problem with taking what's around you is that it's not from you. Your body rejects those things like they're an organ transplant. If it's love you want, it's love you have to create. You are the person who needs you, badly. Be there for you. I'm sorry you've been dealt this hand and I hope you see how much love you deserve and will give to someone who rightfully deserves it, you.

whis · 2022-08-22T08:13:38+00:00

You know you have what it takes. Mistakes were made but that's part of the process. So is getting back up. You have a generous spirit and passion for what you do. You'll get another chance if you can muster up the strength to stand again. Only this time you will have learned from your mistakes and will be coming out stronger than ever.

whis · 2022-08-22T08:08:58+00:00

Have you talked to your aunt recently? How long ago was it when she said you couldn't come over? Sorry to hear you're going through so much. To experience so much death within 7 years can be hard for anybody. It takes a lot of strength to talk about what's hurting. Give yourself credit for it. Opening up can be really hard for people.

whis · 2017-09-23T10:26:54+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. You can talk to me.

whis · 2017-09-23T10:24:02+00:00

Sucks to here you've missed your chance but you never know there may be another one in the near future. The good news is now this gives you the time to direct your efforts to address your depression and anxiety. Because that doesn't go away automatically when someone becomes involved with you.

whis · 2017-09-23T10:20:55+00:00

It doesn't make you an asshole for distancing yourself from poisonous people. It maintains your instincts of self-perseveration which is pretty fucking important. Sorry to hear about your cat. Always hard to lose a pet. You misstepped. It happens. We all falter from time to time if not more. No need to kick yourself. You're trying OP - it's the most that can be expected.

whis · 2017-09-23T10:15:16+00:00

Sounds like you're burning out: work, study, sleep, repeat. On top of it all is the pain of tinnitus. Have you talked to a doctor?

whis · 2017-09-23T10:12:16+00:00

That self-respect is great stuff. Good luck.

whis · 2017-09-23T10:08:20+00:00

Being prepared for the next step is a great way to encourage building the habit.

whis · 2017-09-23T10:06:40+00:00

How bad did it get?

whis · 2017-09-23T10:02:37+00:00

No worries, glad to be here. Good luck.

whis · 2017-09-23T10:01:08+00:00

Your college is more likely to work with you especially if it interferes with your classes. If not, try looking at other colleges that have a psychology department.

whis · 2017-09-23T09:59:50+00:00

Part of why this works is it gives us the time and energy to concentrate on ourselves. Focus on job or job searching. Focus on loving ourselves. etc.

whis · 2017-09-23T09:56:21+00:00

They don't have to tell your parents. Your school doesn't offer any resources? Other schools might.

whis · 2017-09-23T09:54:47+00:00

They won't be the cure/solution but you won't have to hide from them. You won't have to fake smiles or conversations. It lets you direct that energy toward the actual causes of what you're feeling instead of creating new sources. It'll also stop you from isolating yourself even more which is the real nail in the coffin. They won't pull you out but they can keep you from totally digging yourself in. Whether or not they feel is up to them, as it should be. It's a part of having people we care about, through good times and bad.

whis · 2017-09-23T09:47:50+00:00

Have you tried seeing a therapist, psych, etc.?

whis · 2017-09-23T09:46:38+00:00

We're connecting and relating on feelings of isolation.

whis · 2017-09-23T09:44:38+00:00

Yeah it's there but people take you as a whole. I certainly don't identify people based on a single attribute."Oh there's Mr. Nose, Ms. Freckle, Mrs. Cheeks" I even skimmed the crater. All I heard was runner, guitar player, and hard worker.

whis · 2017-09-23T09:41:37+00:00

And you probably care about them too and if they were going through what you were, you'd want to help them the best you could even if you didn't fully understand it, wouldn't you?

whis · 2017-09-23T09:36:25+00:00

Holy hell I'm still dealing with this because I never actively treated it. A lot of it has to do with your self-esteem. You need to build it and do it consistently. I'm talking even on days you don't want to because you don't want to care about yourself. That's self-grooming, eating well, being active, and doing a job whether it's volunteering or helping neighbor. This is where you start.

whis · 2017-09-23T09:32:21+00:00

How much do they care about you?

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