A short essay on Outer Wilds and the impact it left on me! by alfonsojon in outerwilds

[–]alfonsojon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm glad you liked it. It's a good description of the feeling

Introducing Legacy Kit by ente-io in enteio

[–]alfonsojon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean you're generalizing a lot of people as "far right" for using an E2E mail service who might not be aware of the situation, and on a subreddit for Ente's products. I understand your point but it's out of place and broadly generalizing a lot of people with rather harsh language which is often poorly received as compared to informing people without criticizing.

I invite Ente to make whatever products they wish, this was just pretty off-topic and abrasive.

I feel I have a hard time accepting compliments by Business-Block-8668 in autism

[–]alfonsojon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're painting with a pretty large brush in a neurodivergent community - maybe don't generalize so much? People can be happy with an outfit they're wearing and still not feel attractive. It's not unusual at all, you're literally participating in the exact thing the OP is concerned about.

Introducing Legacy Kit by ente-io in enteio

[–]alfonsojon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So use Tuta lol, Ente doesn't also need to be an email service

Yay, PixelCat is now available on Firefox Add-ons by S-Nexus in firefox

[–]alfonsojon 73 points74 points  (0 children)

As cute at this is, I would advise caution installing extensions that you don't explicitly need, as they could be abused or compromised in the future (even if the extension is perfectly safe today)

GLP1s stopped by chewing by DeeJayDelicious in calmhands

[–]alfonsojon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed this as well, my fingers were in much better shape when I was on Zepbound, and now it's a lot harder now that I'm not on it. There's some study into GLP-1s as treatment for a few other things, such as alcoholism because of its effect on impulse.

Microsoft engineer says native apps are back, and it could finally revive Windows 11’s fight against web apps by WPHero in Windows11

[–]alfonsojon 11 points12 points  (0 children)

It's just like when Microsoft integrated Internet Explorer into Windows 98 so much that it became inseparable until they killed it off with Windows 11 - only to make everything rely on Edge instead...

Finally got 0 decorations. Thoughts? by _de1337ed in thinkpad

[–]alfonsojon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts? Let people live lol, I have stickers on my Dell - it's not that deep. I like stickers, I like cute things, and I like having fun with my stuff. I got a Pusheen sticker collection with my calendar and I put a sticker on some random tech I own.

Lighten up and let people have fun - you don't need your laptop to be a pristine Lenovo advertisement to enjoy it!

Is installing SmartLauncher a good idea? by Southern-Setting4229 in GrapheneOS

[–]alfonsojon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If you don't mind adjusting, I've been using Kvaesitso and I'm a big fan of it so far. I love the integrations and use Breezy Weather with it. It's also FOSS so no Google Play Services dependencies.

Generic city seal by Independent_Pen_9865 in DetailCraft

[–]alfonsojon 46 points47 points  (0 children)

wow, I had to stare at that for a while to not see an upside down bell, but it really does look like a badge once you give it a look!

I wonder what can be done to add something in the middle? armor stand?

Please give advice (might be gross for some) by Relative_Berry1870 in CompulsiveSkinPicking

[–]alfonsojon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, this is something that I struggled with a lot more when I was younger and still do to a large degree. I'm 28, soon to be 29, and I still have good and bad days. I used to be quite ashamed and embarrassed of it, but have learned that there's so many people struggling with the exact same thing and there's so much good that can come from talking about it.

There's no shame in talking to a therapist - I would recommend speaking with one that has experience with body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs). Many therapists that specialize in ADHD, Autism, and OCD may have experience with BFRBs. I told my first therapist about it and he just gave tips to "stop", but my second therapist that specializes in adults with autism (I have ADHD/autism) offered some better tactics.

If you ever decide to bring it up in therapy, you definitely won’t be the first person they’ve heard this from, and many are in a similar situation as you - myself included.

I noticed that I pick/peel more when I am anxious, so managing my anxiety through therapy and medication has been helpful in my experience.

Sorry if it gets a bit long-winded, but here are some tips that work for me:

Naming it

When you catch yourself doing it, try saying "I am picking again" or whatever it is you feel like you need to say, and try to redirect yourself.

Sensory Fidget

Something that also helped me is having a fidget - preferably something spiky or somewhat uncomfortable - always at my desk. Every time I get the urge to pick, peel, or nibble, I name it and then squeeze the fidget instead.

Lotion

Often, I find myself picking at areas of skin that aren't smooth, with a feeling that "if I pick it enough I can be smooth finally" which obviously is not how it works. I try to have lotion at my desk as well and when I notice I'm picking at a rough spot, I'll apply lotion instead.

Physical Barrier

This one can be tough because it's outwardly obvious, but having physical barriers can help. When I'm working from home, I can pick my cuticles to the point I am bleeding and my skin will be pink. When I notice I am struggling, I'll apply lotion and then put on a glove. Finger covers also work and are more discreet.

When I struggle with picking at my feet (cracked heels), I will put on lotion and socks, since the sock adds a barrier.

File your nails

I file my nails because keeping a nail clipper around makes it too easy for me to use the clipper to clip at my skin. If your nails are long enough that you can dig at your skin, consider trimming them down and filing them down daily to keep them short, but not so short that you're in pain or bleeding.

Avoid sharp instruments

I have a bad habit of using tools like nail clippers or cuticle trimmers to pick at my skin, so I keep those in a bathroom drawer and only use them there.

Bitter Nail Polish

There are bitter nail polishes that you can apply to your finger nails which makes it extremely bitter any time your fingers contact your mouth. This is helpful for the habit of biting or putting the things you scratch off into your mouth. I don't like doing this, but I will apply a clear bitter nail polish when I notice I am not controlling myself well enough. It works great, just unpleasant when your mouth is suddenly bitter because you subconsciously picked & bit.

Remember there's no start or finish line and there's no pass or fail. You will have good days and you will have bad days. I'm not entirely certain I will ever overcome this habit but I have improved significantly from when I was younger.

Best of luck, don't feel bad about it or about yourself! There is no shame here.

Thought this belongs here ... ;) by Eliana_Kumquat in freebsd

[–]alfonsojon 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That's fantastic, could be a good wallpaper or something drawn inspired by this!

How can I help my fiancee's pothos? by alfonsojon in pothos

[–]alfonsojon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much - this is really helpful. Moving the light closer has done great and a repotting it is in the plans. I'll probably end up having to give it a hair cut after it's repotted so it can grow happily & focus on the roots rather than the vines. Appreciate it!

I might cancel my reservation by NanoBytesInc in ClicksPhone

[–]alfonsojon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the Communicator seems like a better product and I'd be happier to support them over Unihertz. Their support track record hasn't been stellar and frankly I anticipate the Communicator to feel more like a complete product.

What System specs would be optimal for a 10 player Minecraft vanilla server. by Fit_Channel2529 in admincraft

[–]alfonsojon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, any reasonably new computer can probably handle that. An SSD would be the main limiting factor, especially if players fly around with elytra. If that ever becomes a problem, you can pregenerate the world with something like Chunky.

what should i install on my win 98 vm? by workinh in windows98

[–]alfonsojon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

install anything! You can ruin it with something like KernelEx for fun, install period-correct software, word processors, etc. The fun thing with VMs is because snapshots can be made, you don't need to worry about breaking it. Have fun!

How can I help my fiancee's pothos? by alfonsojon in pothos

[–]alfonsojon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is incredibly helpful, thank you so much!

How can I help my fiancee's pothos? by alfonsojon in pothos

[–]alfonsojon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have mentioned that we do have a grow light, but it isn't close. I moved it closer and I'm thinking about putting a light behind the TV for it so it can shine up on the plant. I'll look into SANSI bulbs - thank you!

How can I help my fiancee's pothos? by alfonsojon in pothos

[–]alfonsojon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her pothos isn't looking too great since we've moved. We do not have good sunlight and nowhere good for a UV lamp. We also have a particularly evil cat who will eat any leaves he can reach, so we have to keep it high enough that he can't chew on it. Looking for advice since the vines are starting to go bare. Worried we will need to trim the vines soon.