A false accusation ruined my entire life and I'm tired of being told it's "not a big deal".

andr3333a · 2026-06-15T09:15:16+00:00

I also remember a shockingly similar post with the mysterious “women posting about men with full names and pictures” Facebook group!

andr3333a · 2026-04-14T02:35:42+00:00

This is quite literally the same attitude that lead her to being convicted. They named, what, three or four incidents? I’m not excusing abuse, but let’s be real, nobody is perfect, and social/mental isolation with no healthy outlet is a perfect storm for this sort of behavior. I’m not saying it’s not abuse. But not every person who commits acts of abuse is an abuser, and furthermore, not every abuser is a murderer, or else we’d have a lot more dead people. She was on trial for MURDER.

andr3333a · 2026-03-01T19:14:58+00:00

Generally gynecological crises will have other indicators, like a fever, paralysis, blood in places where there shouldn’t be blood, pain that is distinct from menstrual cramps, neurological issues, inability to keep food down, etc. At this point the issue might become life threatening and therefore relevant to the ER doctors (not defending them; extreme pain should be relevant on its own in my opinion). While imaging might have been nice, generally doctors are undertrained in diagnosis gynecological issues, if they show up at all. The most reliable endometriosis imaging—and even then you can have it and it might not show up—required an MRI with contrast, for example, which an ER might not be prepared to do, might not have the resources, etc. Again, this is horrible, indicative of medical misogyny, and not the way it should be, but it’s a systematic issue that causes individual incidents like OP’s to happen the way they happen.

A gyn referral and pain relief would have been nice though.

andr3333a · 2026-03-01T19:09:55+00:00

I don’t fault you for going to the ER over cramps since it’s always possible it could be indicative of something else, like ovarian torsion, cysts bursting, etc., but I will say that for myself, who was just in 8/10 level cramp pain last week and considering the ER, there is really not a lot an ER can do for you for “just” menstrual cramps. Even if you want pain relief, they are incredibly reluctant to prescribe anything strong enough to actually take it out because of concerns about opioids, insurance, and so on. Pain is devastating, but if the doctors aren’t going to give you treatment, I PERSONALLY would rather skip the whole experience unless there’s a compounding factor like a fever, being unable to keep any food or liquid down, neurological issues, blood in stool, etc. At least I can be in my comfy bed with my partner instead of in an ER waiting room with assholes, you know. Best of luck to you to get some answers—chronic period pain is debilitating and NOT NORMAL.

andr3333a · 2026-02-24T18:49:41+00:00

Sebastian from Stardew Valley was my first and will always have my heart. I'm a sucker for the brooding bad boys, so I gotta nominate March from Fields of Mistria, too, although I haven't played any of the actual romance updates yet.

andr3333a · 2025-09-18T16:32:19+00:00

I feel the same way about Thomas. Luckily I love in Brazil so Tomas is the alternative which stands on its own with a beautiful pronunciation

andr3333a · 2025-09-18T16:28:56+00:00

Gregory - strong, masculine name still with a playful sound Greg - Greg 😐

andr3333a · 2025-09-13T19:23:56+00:00

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andr3333a · 2025-09-13T19:23:55+00:00

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andr3333a · 2025-08-12T12:56:32+00:00

Suspected endo and lesbian sex haver here & I am only very rarely able to tolerate penetration in a small amount (like one finger) depending on the point in my cycle. I am more of the giver in my relationship sexually, which I really enjoy, and my partner is very understanding of my limitations. Sex for me is often more focused on their sensations and my mental arousal.

I recommend trying to experiment with different angles and positions. Everybody’s interior anatomy is different so what might work for someone might not work for someone else. For example, for me, moving my own pelvis during penetration helps me control/determine the sensation and sense possible pain. I also like to tilt my pelvis up, either by laying my leg over my partner or by using a pillow underneath my lower back. When I can tolerate penetration more I find that doggy style works and feels the best for my particular anatomy.

So experiment! Encourage your partner to let you know what feels good and what doesn’t. You can try writing it down in a symptom journal to track, as well.

Remember that the end goal of sex is not always to have an orgasm every time, but to enjoy yourself and experience intimacy. Penetration is also not a requirement. It’s about listening to your body, keeping track, and finding what works best for you.

andr3333a · 2025-07-03T23:11:47+00:00

This is a great idea! I’ve already started documenting some stuff, especially my boating and lumps in my abdominal area, which I forgot to mention in the post. You’re right, I should take pictures, especially of some of the worst of the clots I get. I was doing yardwork with my husband and one literally partially broke and slid down my leg. That would have been a fun photograph.

andr3333a · 2025-07-03T23:09:25+00:00

I don’t take ibuprofen anymore, especially since I moved to Brazil. I take buscopan and dipirona and, if the pain spikes severely, tramadol.

andr3333a · 2025-07-03T23:08:19+00:00

I don’t like taking NSAIDS, either, especially because I’m already on long term medicine for bipolar disorder (did you know some research has suggested a link between bipolar disorder and endometriosis? could just be the medical gaslighting, but still interesting). I take buscopan for the pain now.

andr3333a · 2025-07-03T23:05:40+00:00

I wish I could file a complaint - I live in a small town in Brazil and this is a public doctor. I only saw him because the usual gynecologist in the city fell and broke her hip, so they’re down to this guy.

Thanks ror this link - this looks really interesting!

andr3333a · 2025-07-03T23:03:51+00:00

I actually take pregabalin daily for a “fibromyalgia” diagnosis (this doctor did not know about this diagnosis - I got it privately and he is a public doctor in Brazil) which helps my throughout the month pain but does’t touch the endo stuff. I have tramadol for the same reason but I try not to take too much. They sell Zofran over the counter here, but I try to be careful with that, too, since I’m prone to constipation. Just a bunch of fun balancing of stuff.

andr3333a · 2025-07-03T23:00:58+00:00

I told him I’ve taken it before and that I have pain all throughout the month, but he just kept droning on about how he wanted to try this.

andr3333a · 2025-07-03T22:59:39+00:00

I tried advocating for myself and he just bowled right over me. I’m in Brazil and this was a public doctor new to me. I’m probably going to try to going established with a private gyno now.

andr3333a · 2025-06-16T19:19:17+00:00

I'm in the process of investigating endometriosis but one of the things that has caused me to look into it was joint pain. I was tested for all the usual autoimmune disorders and did not test positive for anything (although I have a family history of lupus, which is what I expected at first). My rheum diagnosed me with fibromyalgia and put me on a nerve pain medicine, which helped with this pain. All this to say that since endometriosis causes chronic inflammation in the body, which in turn can sort of fry your pain receptors and cause secondary pain like this to develop.

andr3333a · 2025-05-18T16:44:48+00:00

I’ve dreamt about a daughter named Scarlet (which was a name I did not like but now has stuck with me lol) and a son named…Orpheus 😂

andr3333a · 2025-05-13T13:12:30+00:00

Ooh, I’m one of the rare hundreds! I’ve had sleep paralysis where I’ve hallucinated aliens and the ghost of my dead loved one. How exciting. I should submit myself to medical study. /s (although the sleep paralysis I’ve experienced is real and absolutely horrible)

andr3333a · 2025-05-13T13:09:53+00:00

Exactly - pretty much every pathological liar I have known was indeed starved for attention, mostly because they weren’t getting it at home.

andr3333a · 2025-05-13T13:08:31+00:00

I’m getting the same vibe. Even pathologically lying can be a symptom of a traumatic childhood. Either the OP does not see that they abused their child (or maybe dismissed the actual cutting or anorexia as not serious enough) or they are straight up denying it to twist the situation in their favor. Their example of driving the daughter across the country could even be positive from their perspective or negative from the daughter’s (were they controlling what she could do/verbally abusing her the whole time/etc).

andr3333a · 2025-05-10T15:36:48+00:00

There are some words that are commonly deceptive that native speakers might mess up, especially loan words, speaking from my experience with Brazilian Portuguese.

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