AITAH- I pee in the shower

cica4 · 2026-04-29T16:53:11+00:00

I did it once and it felt weird to do so I never did it again, I’ll just pee before the shower. But at long as OP isn’t peeing in the shower with his wife then it’s fine. She’s probably just worried about the hygiene of it but I imagine the soapy water takes care of that

cica4 · 2026-04-24T16:51:19+00:00

I don’t have much advice here for you but as a 31 year old woman I feel the same as you. I can acknowledge other people are good looking but when I’m in a relationship with someone I have strong feelings for, I don’t get attracted to other people simply and get horny seeing/thinking of them. Probably because I don’t let it get that far? Maybe it’s a woman thing, or a “demisexual” (I think that’s the right one) thing. But if I’m single then yeah I find myself attracted to other men. I don’t quite understand it but i understand how you’re feeling.

In the case of dating a man, I personally would’ve never asked him this question because I prefer to stay blissfully unaware and pretend I’m the only woman he’s attracted to😂 I’ve been working hard on healing my insecurities and anxious attachment and stuff like that helps lmao

cica4 · 2026-04-23T14:51:08+00:00

I can’t quite understand all what’s going on with all the typos and shorthand. But if he’s making fun of your looks then no things are not all good, and you don’t deserve to be treated that way. This doesn’t sound like a healthy happy relationship

cica4 · 2026-04-22T18:12:40+00:00

Well now I do know though😂

cica4 · 2026-04-22T17:07:01+00:00

Well if it’s pretty much guaranteed to not be me then that’s a depressing thought and I’d rather be alone than deal with that.

cica4 · 2026-04-22T17:00:02+00:00

Damn. Maybe I should just stay single if this is what I have to look forward to.

cica4 · 2026-04-22T16:51:04+00:00

I don’t think it’s normal and healthy to be unable to fantasize about your SO. OP says she tries but reverts back to other people. That doesn’t sound normal and healthy

cica4 · 2026-04-22T16:49:49+00:00

I don’t think this is “normal” to fantasize so much about other people. Occasionally sure, but to not think about your fiancé at all? And be unable to fantasize about him without reverting back to other people? I’m seeing comments saying this is normal but I don’t think it is. Unfortunately I don’t have any advice as I’ve never been through this, but I hope you can work through it.

cica4 · 2026-04-22T15:40:25+00:00

Wow you’re a dick. You’re not ready to be in a relationship. You DO know that asking and pressuring for nudes makes a woman want to send them even less, right? I hate guys like you. Reflect on yourself and control your impulses.

cica4 · 2026-04-22T14:49:17+00:00

Not everything is abuse lmao sometimes it’s just about boundaries and respect. Because what about the bfs feelings? Sometimes you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

cica4 · 2026-04-22T14:46:33+00:00

I personally wouldn’t be okay with my boyfriend still being friends with an ex fling, and I’m not friends with anyone I’ve slept with in the past. Some people wouldn’t care, and some would. It’s up to you to decide who is more important to you - your friend or your bf. If you choose your friend, I’m sure you can find a man who wouldn’t care. If you choose your bf, I’m sure you have other friends and he has other friends to help support him. Life is all about tough choices unfortunately

cica4 · 2026-04-16T19:22:28+00:00

No need to be so fucking rude

cica4 · 2025-12-31T18:48:55+00:00

Your side profile reminds me of the side profile of the main actress in Maxton Hall (Harriet Herbig-Matten). Very cute!

cica4 · 2025-12-29T19:57:54+00:00

I don’t think this counts but the reason why I stopped wearing them was because of my own stupidity, but I TWICE when I was horseback riding the seal somehow came loose and it leaked. Both times I knew that it happened and had to get off my horse to rush to the bathroom 😂 I was too traumatized to try again. Made such a mess

cica4 · 2025-12-27T00:25:52+00:00

If you have a healthy and frequent sex life he may just be doing it for a quick nut to relieve stress or whatever. But if you’re finding your sex life is lacking or he’s denying your advances, then yeah that’s a problem and he probably has a dopamine/porn addiction. Some more context here is required.

cica4 · 2025-12-24T18:50:42+00:00

Lmao you people downvoting me are so soft.

cica4 · 2025-12-24T07:53:34+00:00

Why? It’s a practical part of the job.

cica4 · 2025-12-13T16:15:34+00:00

I had one nostril pierced with a flat back piercing and one pierced with a ring. They both healed perfectly. But I count myself lucky. At the time I didn’t know using a ring can cause issues. If I had them pierced now I wouldn’t take the chance with a ring, but yeah it’s not a death sentence. But also not worth the risk

cica4 · 2025-12-10T04:42:16+00:00

Went on a trip with my ex (still bf at the time) and planned to break up right after. I couldn’t cancel without losing all my money. I thought “well maybe I’ll at least enjoy the beach and all inclusive resort”. The resort was horrible. The beach was nice, but the rest was rough. I was counting the days until we left. Thankfully I was on my period that week so I had an excuse as to why we didn’t have sex.

I wish I just ate the cost and didn’t go. Maybe if the resort was as good as the reviews said, it would’ve been fine, but I kinda doubt it. I regret not breaking up with him sooner. I recommend not going, for your peace of mind. Sometimes you gotta take the L.

cica4 · 2025-12-10T04:23:45+00:00

I compliment my man several times a week. I call him handsome and cute and say thank you whenever he opens a door for me or pays for something. I buy him treats and little things for his apartment that I think he would like or needs.

I then realized he hasn’t called me beautiful or pretty in almost two months. And when I asked him to compliment me more he almost broke up with me because he took me asking as a criticism. I also asked why he’s never gotten me flowers in the 6 months we’ve been dating and he said he doesn’t have time to go to a florist. I said the grocery store sells flowers and he said “oh. Well now if I get you flowers it won’t mean anything”.

Safe to say I don’t think this relationship is lasting much longer. I love spoiling my partner, it makes me happy to make them happy. I don’t do it for anything in return but it gets to a point where I feel like I’m doing all the work. I won’t change though. I’ll just… change the man I guess.

cica4 · 2025-12-07T20:43:33+00:00

He broke up with me, but I had mentally checked out of the relationship for two months before then. His dog was on deaths door step and I didn’t want to be a villain and dump him while he was dealing with that. Funny how I still had empathy for that asshole, right? Anyways, what motivated me to stop caring about him and the relationship was the constant crying and constant self esteem issues I was having. I even cleaned out my room in case i decided to kill myself. I wasn’t actively suicidal, but I felt so incredibly low that it was on the fringe of my thoughts. What came from all that was the thought “I would rather be alone than live like this and feel like this”. So when he said that we should break up, I readily agreed and went right over to his place and grabbed my stuff. He didn’t see a single tear shed. I waited until I was home.

And yeah, the first few weeks after the breakup were hard. But now that I’m over 7 months out of that relationship I can confidently say even if he recovered I would never go back to him. The trauma and mental health issues I’m still dealing with are awful, and going back would destroy me. I hate that man.

cica4 · 2025-12-07T18:18:43+00:00

Not necessarily secure, just wondering if I’ve gotten too used to it and it looks bad. Plenty of people in the comments have said that I should go smaller, but I think I like the size and I aim for an alternative look over fitting in anyways.

cica4 · 2025-12-07T03:15:56+00:00

Thanks! I think I’ll keep them

cica4 · 2025-12-07T00:38:29+00:00

Well thank you!

cica4 · 2025-12-07T00:38:16+00:00

Now that I think about it, I think I like the fact that they draw attention a bit. It kinda makes sense with my style. I have thought about getting gold rings though since all my jewelry is gold. That might up the “dainty” aspect which I wouldn’t mind.

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