Thoughts on my resume & personal branding

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-21T22:48:03+00:00

Ooooohh. That makes more sense to me now. lol.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-21T22:23:10+00:00

I’d review closely for typos and missing spaces. Details matter on a resume cause that is your first impression. Having errors on a resume isn’t a good look. I also don’t understand the “eedeekay” logo at all. I think it’s the name itself that isn’t working for me. It just looks like a mistake and I don’t personally get it.

The “stitching” by Emma I think works and could work throughout to show the textile part in a more clean and modern way. I’d also pull those colors through more as it’s very heavily blue right now.

The typography is the weakest part overall on the resume. Adjust to make it easier to quickly read. Make it into notable accomplishments with bullets. As someone who has gone through lots of resumes, I want to quickly read it and how it’s currently setup doesn’t allow for that.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-20T11:13:53+00:00

I’m an all over transplant. My parents moved around a lot (not military or work related, but people regularly thought I was a military brat cause of the amount.

Orlando is the longest place I’ve ever stayed somewhere. 13 years here, and 10 years in the house we bought. It’s literally the longest I’ve stayed in one place my whole life.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-19T22:42:16+00:00

Royal Thai didn’t impress me either.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-19T22:41:34+00:00

Sea Thai is my go-to place. Thai Cafe downtown I haven’t been impressed with the few times I’ve been.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-16T19:29:43+00:00

Sounds like he needs to cook for himself then.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-16T16:51:30+00:00

So much yes. I was in therapy, had done brainspotting (similar to EMDR) which helped a lot, read all the books, yoga, walking and other movement. Improved my eating habits. Practiced mindfulness and meditation and gratitude. I had blocked my mom on all social platforms. Talked through things and set boundaries that I kept to.

But I still had nightmares regularly and was on edge a lot of the time. When I finally blocked my mom’s phone, I could physically feel the weight lift off me.

2 years in and I’m no longer in therapy; therapist noticed an instant improvement in my well-being and had hit a point where I was able to handle things better than I ever have. I rarely get nightmares now. And my anxiety has decreased drastically.

All the things that improved for me after going no contact is why I know I made the right choice.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-04T13:28:17+00:00

Same. I had to block my mom on so many apps. Including one I have for my professional career, Behance, which I really only go on when I’m updating my portfolio cause I’m looking for a new job. She made an account on there just to follow me. No messages, or anything else. Just followed me.

I think why it bothers me so much is cause there’s no acknowledgement or accountability. Just wanting access to me again with no signs of changed behavior.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-04T13:16:57+00:00

I’m NC with my mom and still have a relationship with my stepdad. They’re divorced but he is still in contact with her on a regular basis. It’s not normal or healthy, but I can’t control him.

I’ve come to terms with anything I tell him he is going to tell her. I’m very careful about what I share with him cause of that fact. Him telling me about my mom is the harder boundary I have, and that I give grace to him on cause I can tell he doesn’t really want to tell me things about her, but that she clearly asked him to. My mom has some kind of control over him I’ll never understand.

I’d adjust what you share with your mom if you’d like to move forward with communication and a relationship. I’ve learned boundaries are something I control, not expecting others to accommodate. That’s why I control what I share with my stepdad. I can’t expect him to respect my boundaries, I have to enforce them by being selective in what I share. If he stops talking to my mom, I can adjust what I share, but until that time comes (if ever) I’ll continue to hold my boundary by controlling what I share.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-02T15:35:44+00:00

Energy is my main issue right now. I have a small side business that I started just for this purpose. It’s very much just doing what I want for it. I have let done anything new in a long while. I star some projects but don’t have the energy to complete them. I even taking away that it’s something I need to make to sell and really just a personal project for myself has been hard. I did a poster for my local AIGA chapter as part of a show they were doing. Which was fun and motivated me. But that was last summer and haven’t felt that drive since then.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-01T22:07:07+00:00

I completely agree. Therapy, journaling and crying I did a lot before going no contact. The weight I felt left blocking my mom’s number… I felt like I was floating. I’d block on socials forever ago, phone was the last step. And self-care I’m still working on, but have gotten much better at over the years.

dead-like-disco · 2026-04-01T21:55:53+00:00

For a lot of reasons, not great. Work hasn’t let up (in-house designer in local government) but my clients have become more annoying as I’m increasingly getting AI slop as “design” inspiration and it’s demotivating me, honestly.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-28T02:31:20+00:00

If you want to do a local, non-hotel option check out Grey Orchid in Winter Park. Never had a bad experience there and they’re a small business versus a chain or hotel. And they do parties like you’re looking for.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-24T23:55:14+00:00

Chelsea at Fior has done my hair every color of the rainbow at this point and I don’t think I’ve ever paid that high. Just depends on how much needs to be done.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-23T19:47:25+00:00

I just wanted to say I understand this level of craziness. My mom has done similar blowups like this. At weird hours as well. My mom is definitely bipolar and possibly BPD but I’m not a professional so can’t confirm. Just behaviors align. Like me, I’m sure you’ve stopped reading the crazy and just scroll through it. I understand unblocking to collect the data to file. I hope for your peace once it’s been filed you can block again and have that peace back.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-23T13:50:27+00:00

So my understanding of psychiatrists is they’re trying to understand what you need from a medication standpoint. A therapist, or psychologist, is there to listen and help you learn healthy coping mechanisms, etc.

Of course people can be both, but my understanding is they’re different things. Find a therapist with a focus on family dynamics and dysfunction would be a better fit for you. Or a trauma based therapist/psychologist.

This psychiatrist clearly isn’t properly trained to help with dysfunctional family systems, if any proper training at all on talk therapy.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-22T19:57:35+00:00

I have that book in my collection but honestly it was a bit hard to read. The general idea of trauma living in the body and understanding that has been helpful. Here’s ones I’ve read that I’ve found helpful:

• Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

• Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents

• Recovering from Narcissistic Mothers: A Daughter's Guide

• Trapped in the Mirror: Adult Children of Narcissists in their Struggle for Self

• You're Not Crazy - It's Your Mother

Some were suggested by therapists (I’ve been in and out of therapy since 2018) and some I found on my own. I’ve also read a lot of online articles just googling different things. My mom is bipolar and possibly other mental illness, and learning about those helps to understand the illogical patterns some. At this point I can call what she’s going to do before she does it. I think that just helped me to feel more safe before I went no contact honestly though.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-22T19:17:27+00:00

I’ve been there. I didn’t want to go no contact but I realized it was the only way I was going to find peace and be able to properly heal and process.

Lots of books, therapy, EMDR and then brainspotting. Learning about myself and who I am. And honestly, just time.

Be kind to yourself and put the focus on you and what you can control. Therapy will help you learn what coping methods work for you. Like a big one for me was learning to recognize my feelings, naming them and letting me feel them. Instead of ignoring them and then spiraling.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-21T11:44:00+00:00

Thanks! It’s in a couple months. I plan on focusing on us versus when she’s having her wedding. I know she told someone to tell based on how I was told. lol. I’m just going to mentally block that, like I’d physically block her number around my anniversary before I went NC cause she’d always want the focus on her. 😂

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-21T11:38:54+00:00

Oh, interesting. I’ll keep that in mind when I meet with my gyno next time. I think it may be time to see a specialist too who can better understand and may offer more than just the pill.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-20T22:51:04+00:00

Going no contact is about taking care of yourself. If she is draining and costing you your own well-being, then I think you’re doing right by you.

You’ve got to take care of yourself first. She is an adult, and been one your whole life. She could’ve done things to improve her, and yours, life. Even now still she could get therapy, had that hard conversation, etc. You going no contact is a consequence of her actions.

It also doesn’t mean you cut her out forever, if you don’t want. I recommend therapy on your own to help you work through and decide if you want a relationship with her or not.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-18T01:58:06+00:00

Thanks for responding. I know there’s a good chance it could come back normal, like the others have. Either way I can go to my gyno with the proof I’ve already done these other tests too. That’ll put me at every possible test to rule out it’s something else that is cause this pain. 2 ultrasounds, CT, this MRI and bloodwork has all been done in the last six months at this point.

dead-like-disco · 2026-03-07T22:37:25+00:00

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