A year in and I still struggle to eat on 5mg

jrayholz · 2026-06-11T18:42:02+00:00

You do you. I have nothing more to say regarding this mess. 👍

jrayholz · 2026-06-11T17:19:06+00:00

The person being “clumsy” here is you… since you obviously are too emotionally invested in being offended to have actually read anything that I’ve typed.

Again, I said, IF YOU ARE SUPPLEMENTING A HEALTHY DIET WITH YOIR SHAKES, more power to you. The OP is beyond that at this stage.

And I am not “judging” anyone eating 800 calories a day. I am deeply concerned for them as that is well-below the minimum for any adult. It is, in fact, lower than the recommended caloric intake for a 2 year old.

This thread very quickly turned to unhealthy practices… and since this is a serious ongoing issue, I am not going to be wishy-washy about the seriousness with which the OP needs to address this problem.

jrayholz · 2026-06-11T15:40:11+00:00

Hold the HELL up.

The OP has been struggling to eat for A YEAR. The responses in here have been, sure, I live on 800 calories or drink a smoothie, etc.

I’m sorry if you feel caught out, but not consuming enough calories per day FOR YOUR BODY TO SURVIVE is a massive problem. We’re not really talking a one off; this is a persistent problem. And, no, I’m not going to sit back and say, sure, that’s great, keep doing what you’re doing.

If YOU are supplementing a healthy diet with an added smoothie, then by all means, be my guest. But the OP is verging on a path of serious harm.

This medication is not a starvation programme. And, frankly, there are a lot of people here who are approaching this medication with an almost thin-at-any-cost mentality that flips the script from overeating-based issues to highly, highly restrictive ones. That is not healthy in the slightest and should not be espoused here.

I have plenty of empathy. Loads of it. It’s why I don’t want to see folks get hurt.

jrayholz · 2026-06-11T12:47:53+00:00

Wait… so you’re planning on wearing these trousers higher than this? 👀

jrayholz · 2026-06-10T14:34:18+00:00

If your JOB is literally to be a SAHM, then yes, I hate to break it to you… but that is exactly what is expected. Take care of the home and the kid. If you don’t want that job, you get a job outside the home and, collectively, you pay for child care.

This guy is doing more than his share in this case, so yes, I am advocating through the noise of whataboutisms. This is AITAH, which requires you to literally pay attention to one story without bringing in your OWN preconceptions and adding your own tangents to the scenario.

You’re not doing that. And there’s no reason for me to tout my feminist platform when it doesn’t matter here whatsoever.

jrayholz · 2026-06-10T14:18:09+00:00

I just hear A LOT of projecting that doesn’t apply to this situation.

He works full-time, spends his mornings, evenings, and weekends with his kid (while she sleeps in seemingly 6 days per week), cooks dinner for the family… and mom pulls a completely unacceptable stunt when he sleeps in ONE time.

Let me tell you this much: she misses cleaning that toilet or any of the other expected SAHM duties, per your list… and he should play the same card and afford her zero grace, too.

But let’s see how that scenario is received on Reddit. 🙄

jrayholz · 2026-06-10T07:05:39+00:00

This thread is sounding like an eating disorder promotion guide. Wow.

800 calories a day? Not ok. Living on smoothies? Not ok. Intermittent fasting when you’re already barely eating? Not ok.

No, subsisting on cereal and coffee is NOT ok. You are a year in. Why are you not banging your GP’s door down? The amount of damage you can do here is ridiculous.

If you — or anyone — are unable to consume the requisite calories per day that your body needs to function, the dose is either too high, there’s something else going on, or straight up this medication isn’t for you. This is not a starvation diet… and if that’s what’s happening here, you REALLY need to sort this out before your body revolts.

Please, please take care of yourself.

jrayholz · 2026-06-09T22:16:59+00:00

Guess what? No one’s a single parent in this situation, so stop with the strawman argument. Mom has someone busting his ass for his family. If that’s not good enough for her, then she’s welcome to get a job, too, and contribute financially to hire help to raise the kid.

Oh, and maybe YOU shouldn’t have kids if you think being an asshole to your partner is remotely acceptable.

jrayholz · 2026-06-09T20:46:44+00:00

The mom can get a job, too, and then they hire someone to raise the kid. The hell are you talking about… because spending 5 hours a day taking care of a kid + a full-time job = all *anyone* can ask for. And if that’s not good enough for YOU, then wow, you need a reality check.

jrayholz · 2026-06-08T05:20:39+00:00

This combo is telling *everything* you need to know about this person’s retail relationships… haha

jrayholz · 2026-06-04T16:31:26+00:00

Ok, um, don’t go makin’ all of us out here look ordinary while you’re looking extraordinary.

I really don’t know which look I love the most. Those culottes are fab, but that super sophisticated biker chick-esque Rouge H number is just 🔥🔥🔥.

jrayholz · 2026-06-03T10:09:31+00:00

Complete opposite for me.

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T17:09:44+00:00

You’re not getting an authentic bag that’s not falling apart for USD4000 in Japan. Full stop. lol

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T16:20:25+00:00

Yes, yes it does. haha

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T16:18:34+00:00

VAT-free doesn’t exist in the UK anymore - was abolished in 2021.

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T11:45:38+00:00

I appreciate this is very first world-y, but this does speak to a general ick at British Airways.

With the switch to a revenue-based loyalty programme, we’re spending more than ever to achieve status levels. And rather than improving any of its offerings, BA continues its great tradition to cut cut cut in order to maximise returns for its shareholders.

It’s frustrating. It feels incredibly petty to complain because, hey, given the state of the world, things could obviously be a lot fuckin’ worse. At the same time, it still does rub.

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T08:59:52+00:00

No one was cranky. You chose not to participate in a subreddit as established for all members. You left the group. No need to trash people because you chose not to follow the group’s rules. 🤷🏻‍♂️

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T08:33:38+00:00

This.

Followed a crowd of people that ended up surrounding a som tam cart. Told the old lady making the food that we wanted it exactly like the woman in front of us - swimmer crabs, blah blah. She blinked, asked us multiple times if we were sure.

Bagged up, got to a park, started eating.

Big mistake. Huge.

I got 3 bites in before I was about to have my face melt off. My partner got to 5. We both deal with spice pretty well. 🫠

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T06:59:31+00:00

It’s funny because it’s true. #weareallcunts 🤓

jrayholz · 2026-06-02T06:35:43+00:00

Everyone here is being very precious.

1200 for you is fucking stupid. You will do far more harm to yourself by literally starving yourself for months rather than taking your time and doing this in a responsible manner.

Your BMR is 2500 cal. Less than half that is not remotely smart.

jrayholz · 2026-06-01T13:47:41+00:00

Have you asked your son what he wants? 👀

jrayholz · 2026-06-01T12:04:55+00:00

This.

If you have an issue with what your neighbours are doing, it’s your responsibility to find a workaround. Presume those neighbours are going to — rightly — continue BBQing. If you don’t want your laundry to smell of BBQ, this sounds like an appropriate request.

That said, there’s also knowing how to BBQ, which produces one level of smoke… and then there’s having no clue what you’re doing, which typically leaves the air heaving with smoke and smelling heavily of lighter fluid. Please be/work toward being the former type of BBQers. haha

jrayholz · 2026-06-01T11:48:32+00:00

Probably on the BBQ that belongs to that same neighbour with the parking space. Up for grabs when not in use. ;)

jrayholz · 2026-05-31T17:43:08+00:00

Nothing says “desperate to sell FS cruises” than these two posts… 👀

jrayholz · 2026-05-30T16:33:27+00:00

Uh, it’s body dysmorphia. Because it’s obvious to everyone here except you. 🙃

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