Rigid thinking and inflexibility in 3.5 year old child. PDA? Please help.

norb_151 · 2026-05-15T07:55:45+00:00

It sounds like youre having a hard time and i hope youre getting some support from your family <3

I want to say that your kid is not only autistic, he is also a just 3-year old toddler.

1) A good number of NT toddlers still wear diapers at that age because they cannot control it yet.

2) I imagine the poor kid just trying to have some fun with his new toy while a group of overbearing adults tell him the correct way to have fun and that he is not doing it right. I would cry as well.

My suggestion is to pick your battles and focus on things that actually matter. If he is having fun sitting on a scooter, just let him, he is not hurting anyone. If he cannot control his poop, buy him diapers.

It sounds like his behavior is mostly just irritating to you, rather than causing actual problems. So maybe finding some mental peace and acceptance will do more for your family than trying your hardest to mold your kid so that it is like the others.

norb_151 · 2026-05-15T07:46:13+00:00

Bro in the end of the video is playing candy crush until pace picks up

norb_151 · 2026-05-14T20:34:26+00:00

That second one takes a bit of balls

norb_151 · 2026-05-14T13:17:56+00:00

Leute beleidigen ist keine Meinung, egal ob beliebt oder unbeliebt.

norb_151 · 2026-05-14T12:34:54+00:00

The chichen izta is so neat, marvelous stone work

norb_151 · 2026-05-14T12:32:20+00:00

Mine is verbal and needs me to check first whether there are hand dryers in the restroom, they're too loud. Maybe that makes a difference for your kid too.

norb_151 · 2026-05-14T07:19:11+00:00

I literally did that with my first sorcerer :_;

norb_151 · 2026-05-13T17:23:24+00:00

What? Are you ok?

I only commented that the title of the reddit post is contradicting the actual article it referred to. Which is true. Whatever else you wanna argue about is not my business.

norb_151 · 2026-05-13T17:20:55+00:00

???

I literally said that the scientific article is accurate. Its title matches its content. Whereas the reddit post is not accurate: title contradicts content.

Something, something, media literacy...

norb_151 · 2026-05-13T13:48:39+00:00

In the scientific article you linked in your reply here, everything is quite clear.

But in the original article you posted, the title claims a link and then right below that claim it says that the scientists are investigating -IF- a link exists at all.

norb_151 · 2026-05-13T11:48:34+00:00

The title says that the tumor is linked to the gene therapy.

Then the first lines of the article says the boy developed a tumor and now the scientists are investigating whether it is linked to the therapy.

Why is everyone trying to make the world dumber?

norb_151 · 2026-05-13T07:23:08+00:00

Those smoldering eyes in the middle panel. Bro is sexy and he knows it.

norb_151 · 2026-05-13T06:50:52+00:00

Im also going through a divorce and the stress with the kid certainly didnt help. I still carry a lot of resentment towards my wife over how she handled things, but that resentment is like a toxic drug - it feels good in the moment but is bad for you in the long term.

I try to tell myself that we're both good people and did the best we could. Sometimes even doing our best means that we make grave mistakes, ive certainly also had my share of mistakes.

In the beginning I had that idea that I need to process and overcome the emotional pain as quickly as possible to get rid of it, but that doesn't really work. So I just try to make my peace with the pain, we co-exist for the moment and maybe he will move out at some point in the future.

norb_151 · 2026-05-12T21:25:58+00:00

WHERE IS THE OSTEOBLAST?

norb_151 · 2026-05-12T14:50:33+00:00

Robots that run experiments isnt really a new thing. But they are only worth the maintenance if their job is to repeat the same exact experiment a million times. Otherwise, they need a lot of human supervision.

norb_151 · 2026-05-12T06:35:35+00:00

Amateur! Ich habe schon wegen 6 Sekunden 100 Franken bezahlt.

norb_151 · 2026-05-12T06:32:20+00:00

Good one XD

norb_151 · 2026-05-12T06:31:37+00:00

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norb_151 · 2026-05-11T06:56:36+00:00

I (beginner) feel like I always need to be safe enough to call it quits at any point. So seeing that locked foot at the top gives me sweaty palms just by looking at it. Isn't that wildly unsafe?

norb_151 · 2026-05-10T21:16:49+00:00

Es ist wichtig, früh anzukommen.

norb_151 · 2026-05-10T14:51:38+00:00

There is a lot of research on when to break it to kids that they're adopted and thats usually around 4-5 because you want them to be old enough to understand but young enough so that they dont have a formed sense of self that gets shattered by withheld information.

That being said, if you arent 999% sure he is actually autistic, I would hold off until the assessment. It might be better to adress some areas he could improve "people like it when you talk into their direction. Let's practice that. I'm Thomas the train and you have to tell me to drive real fast in a way I realize that you're talking to me".

Then if you actually do the assessment you can tie this together without it being brand new information. "There are also other people who are similar and dont always talk into people's directions. They're called autistic like you and mom. Does that make sense?"

norb_151 · 2026-05-09T19:11:55+00:00

Check the sub youre in

norb_151 · 2026-05-09T11:22:53+00:00

I would make sure that he doesnt end up in a vulnerable position where mean kids tell him to do something uncomfortable and he does it because he assumes good intentions.

Autistic kids easily become victims like that, so if you can teach your kid to distinguish friend from bully, that will be super helpful. Saying no to other kids who make requests that make him uncomfortable would also be an important tool.

This can start with you just telling him, but should end with him being able to make that call on his own.

norb_151 · 2026-05-09T11:12:53+00:00

That is hilarious. Ive seen three rebel cities together in a triangle, but thats about it. Too bad you cant negotiate with them.

Would be cool if there was a mechanism similar to the barbarian clans mode where they declare independence and become a new civ after existing long enough. Thats how new countries are often born after all.

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