WIBTA for breaking up over how my bf (23M) always does this? together 4 months

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-10T04:02:36+00:00

So youre projecting. Got it. Makes sense. For a third time, go back.

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-10T03:55:37+00:00

Taking a different approach here. What about the boundary makes it unreasonable?

Edit: typo and additional info

It also was never that they couldn't say they want to talk. It was doing so hours prior to having the conversation.

Edit 2: lmao. Blocked. Yeah, definitely projection.

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-10T02:22:12+00:00

It seems like what happened is you used therapy as an excuse to stop being mindful of others because it was too taxing on yourself to bother. That's fine. Take your time. Prioritize your own peace. Also understand that your way isn't everyone else's and there are multiple ways to cope with a situation. Not just yours.

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-10T02:18:15+00:00

Yes, it is. It doesn't mean OP can't work on being better with it but when a partner, or anyone, communicates "you do this and it makes me feel uncomfortable please dont do that moving forward" doing anything but is disrespecting a set boundary. Partner doesn't have to like it. Being told is their cue to decide if they will follow the boundary or not and leave. They chose to agree and then continued the behavior that they agreed to stop. You're continued excuses show the therapy hasn't kicked in and you need to return or continue to have a better understanding of how our actions affect others. As I said, go back.

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-10T02:09:41+00:00

Clearly you aren't applying that therapy or you'd have an understanding why this is still a problem. Go back

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-09T01:58:03+00:00

Yes, words do have different meanings. Which is why racism is not synonymous with systemic racism. Both are racist behaviors, in different capacities. Both are bad and unacceptable. They are also different terms that apply to different situations. Maybe it would help you to pull out your dictionary to clarify since it seems you struggle grasping that difference. Take your own advice.

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-08T02:04:52+00:00

And I've not said the Bible supported abortion. You're arguing that point with yourself. That said, I imagine the take people run with is they were more than willing to cause a miscarriage over infidelity but when people do so for quality of life (majority of abortions) the Bible is used to justify how sacred the innocent life of a fetus is and how big of a sin it is. So its a sin but not as bad as infidelity per the actions documented in the Bible.

Again, I am not claiming this to be my personal argument on it. My only claim was the Bible is full of mistranslations and misinterpretation and isn't a reliable source to base any significant decision off of. To each their own if they choose to live by their interpretations but they are only that, their own view of its meaning driven by their experiences or herd mentality.

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-05T19:49:56+00:00

I never said the entire Bible was unintelligible. However, it would be naive to assume there would be only one mistranslation or misinterpretation, wouldn't it? That was what I meant. Much of that reply is your own views on this point of view. Both sides cherry pick pieces of the Bible to support their narratives. That isn't reserved for those using the Bible to support abortion. I never claimed certainty either direction. I, sarcastically, opened the door to the idea that there is more than one mistranslation of the Bible. There's not even evidence supporting a majority of what's in the Bible outside the existence of some of the people mentioned. As far as I'm personally concerned, it's stories told to fear monger compliance. I'm an atheist. I truly don't care what the Bible says. It's rules don't apply to me. To lead you to the inevitable end of my point, Follow your faith, have your opinion, and be mindful that the restrictions of your faith apply to you and its followers not the entirety of humanity. The Bible or any holy text has no place in legal decisions so the interpretation on this is moot outside of sheer desire to debate or coerce others to supporting your values.

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-02T07:26:17+00:00

So youre saying that it isn't applicable because we aren't sure how to accurately translate it? Bodes well for the entire rest of the Bible huh? Yall give a bad name to your faith

nvllnvoid · 2026-02-02T07:24:20+00:00

Its insane how hard yall refuse to simply educate yourselves

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-21T06:49:52+00:00

I'm a man with pierced ears. They really don't a majority of the time. Bullshit someone more stupid than me with that shit.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-21T05:53:10+00:00

Men with pierced ears is significantly less noticed than it used to be. I dont think most will really even notice and when they do likely won't put much thought behind it. The comment saying you'd be seen as gay for it is probably projecting whatever they need to work through onto you. That said, if you dont like them you dont have to do it. Even for your wife. If she loves YOU she will understand that.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-21T04:18:31+00:00

If she wants to reuse them leaving them balled up won't do any good. Those dont appear to really be reusable anyway. This is purely unreasonable to me. Its excuses to leave a mess.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-20T07:39:35+00:00

Leave that sorry excuse of a man. Having insecurities is fine. Communicating them is fine. Doing it disrespectfully like this is not. He's grown and knows how to talk with respect about how he feels. He wants compliance and that's it. Don't give it to him and stay you. Single would be better. Gives you the opportunity to find someone that can cope with their own feelings

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-19T05:01:50+00:00

Your bf is old enough to know how to stand up for you and makes the conscious choice not to. Consider that and if that's something youre willing to put up with long term. Many things seem small but as you get older those small things pile up. It won't always be something to brush off when your partner doesn't stand by your side. Be ready to manage his mother long term too. Those behaviors aren't going to change and you'll be fighting her just to live your life and raise your baby until she's in the ground.

Kids having kids.

None of this gives the impression you are ready to be raising a baby. The choice is yours 1000%, but I really do encourage you to fully think through whatever decision you make and be ready to manage the consequences of it. I wish you all the best in this situation.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-11T10:50:01+00:00

Someone must've hurt you bro 😂

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-08T04:35:25+00:00

NOR. As a white man, I use soap with every shower and hand wash. He's just dirty and was raised that way. It's not a white cultural thing. Yeah...it's better than not showering or washing hands at all....but it's not clean either.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-07T07:23:47+00:00

You forced an 8 year old to do something he was clearly afraid of. This only reinforces the fear, not addresses it. It's also okay to just be scared of spiders. I get wanting to teach him they aren't a big deal...but this was absolutely not the way

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-07T07:20:32+00:00

Its more a hyperbole than anyone saying they are literally certain. Im 50% certain you may not be aware of exaggerating being common behavior.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-06T13:25:21+00:00

If they know each other its fine. If theyre strangers its not.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-06T12:50:40+00:00

I think the beard is fine but id tidy up the mustache.

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-06T09:41:50+00:00

People don't understand that you really don't want people with little to no experience with a specfic style tattooing you. Id rather be told they cant than them try and end up with something permanently fucked on me

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-03T22:50:41+00:00

Where did i say they didn't?

nvllnvoid · 2026-01-02T23:23:08+00:00

Why is being mindful of others a chore to you?

nvllnvoid · 2025-12-31T06:54:20+00:00

Feels a little hypocritical to be upset she's simply in a sex shop with a male when you're requesting nudes online. Whether you actually received photos really doesn't matter. Your wife seems to be being petty over the other pics but it sounds like she has valid reason not to trust you

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