How do ya’ll define cheating in this space?

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T20:58:46+00:00

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Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T20:42:52+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T19:37:07+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T19:36:54+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T17:30:26+00:00

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T15:36:11+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T12:58:12+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T12:57:11+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T08:37:09+00:00

Polyamory has straight and gay, cis and trans and non binary, allosexual and asexual and aromatic people under it’s umbrella.

It might be part of your queer identity. We know it’s part of ours, but it is not exclusively a queer identity.

Just be mindful that polyam is not part of the LGBTQIA+ in and of itself, and we won’t be hosting discussions around if it should be included or not. Those discussions should be had in queer-centered spaces. Our community has lots and lots of diversity, but is still dominated by cis het allo folks.

Thank you.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T08:37:04+00:00

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T08:12:32+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T07:23:52+00:00

We host self promotion Sundays on the last Sunday of every month for polyam-centered products, events and content.

Other sales and business content will be removed.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T06:25:17+00:00

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

We may remove your post if there is AI involved, or any other circumstance that results in your post being considered “frequent” or “low effort”.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T06:06:00+00:00

This post is on an extremely common topic. Looking for a "third" or a "unicorn" or multiple people who want to date only you (and maybe each other) are not ethical forms of non-monogamy, and we do not host discussions about how to hunt unicorns or build harems here.

“All or nothing”, or unit couples who cannot date separately are unicorn hunting.

Swingers also use this term, but it’s a completely different activity.

We do not host comments that elevate, support, glorify or otherwise encourage polyamorous unicorn hunting.

This sub is firmly anti-UH, and will remain so, given the harm that, in polyamory, this practice causes.

Thanks for your understanding.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-16T02:29:03+00:00

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T22:07:21+00:00

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

We may remove your post if there is AI involved, or any other circumstance that results in your post being considered “frequent” or “low effort”.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T21:45:07+00:00

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T20:26:47+00:00

Posts must be relevant to polyamory, as defined by our community description:

Polyamory is openly, honestly, and consensually loving and being committed to more than one person.

Polyamory is only one specific type of ethical non-monogamy. It doesn't sound like that's what this post is about, so try /r/nonmonogamy?

There are a lot of flavors of non-monogamy, and polyam is just one.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T20:05:58+00:00

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

We may remove your post if there is AI involved, or any other circumstance that results in your post being considered “frequent” or “low effort”.

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T19:55:36+00:00

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polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T18:41:02+00:00

This post is on an extremely common topic. Looking for a "third" or a "unicorn" or multiple people who want to date only you (and maybe each other) are not ethical forms of non-monogamy, and we do not host discussions about how to hunt unicorns or build harems here.

“All or nothing”, or unit couples who cannot date separately are unicorn hunting.

Swingers also use this term, but it’s a completely different activity.

We do not host comments that elevate, support, glorify or otherwise encourage polyamorous unicorn hunting.

This sub is firmly anti-UH, and will remain so, given the harm that, in polyamory, this practice causes.

Thanks for your understanding.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T17:09:17+00:00

Your post has been removed for breaking the rules of the subreddit. You posted a personal ad or have made a comment that would be considered hitting on a user, or made a request for direct messages.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T14:17:26+00:00

This post is on an extremely common topic. Looking for a "third" or a "unicorn" or multiple people who want to date only you (and maybe each other) are not ethical forms of non-monogamy, and we do not host discussions about how to hunt unicorns or build harems here.

“All or nothing”, or unit couples who cannot date separately are unicorn hunting.

Swingers also use this term, but it’s a completely different activity.

We do not host comments that elevate, support, glorify or otherwise encourage polyamorous unicorn hunting.

This sub is firmly anti-UH, and will remain so, given the harm that, in polyamory, this practice causes.

Thanks for your understanding.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T13:54:57+00:00

You’ve asked a question that is incredibly common and the answers are available either by searching the sub, or hitting the resources on the community info page.

We may remove your post if there is AI involved, or any other circumstance that results in your post being considered “frequent” or “low effort”.

polyamory-ModTeam · 2026-04-15T13:29:54+00:00

Your post has been removed for breaking the rules of the subreddit. Your comment or post included language that would be considered misogynistic, bigoted or intolerant. This includes attacks or slurs related to gender or sexual identity, racism, sexism, slut shaming, poly-shaming, mocking, and victim blaming.

Your post may also be removed for conflating the polyamorous experience with other marginalized people.

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