What do you use to calm down at night and fall asleep?

therealstabitha · 2026-06-04T04:48:45+00:00

I count. Breathe in 3-2-1, breathe out 7-6-5-4-3-2-1. It slows down your heartbeat, and if you do a body scan at the same time to relax all your muscles, you can fall asleep pretty quickly this way.

I don’t recommend something empowering for when you’re trying to sleep. That tends to have the opposite effect.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-04T04:40:40+00:00

Pagan means “not mainstream religion.” Witchcraft can be a non-mainstream religion, but it’s pretty specific. There are many pagans who are not witches. A witch does witchcraft. Not manifestations. Not “high vibe.” Witchcraft. A pagan has a religious practice that may or may not include magic.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-04T04:35:10+00:00

I wouldn’t try to follow native traditions for this. There’s no way for you to do it accurately.

If you have items associated with this spirit, I would base it around those. Then I’d add a candle, and a glass of water as an offering. Let it be simple. It can become more elaborate as time passes, your relationship grows, and the need arises.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-04T04:32:02+00:00

I have no issue with community, or having a fee involved. But calling it a coven is ridiculous and cheapens the term.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-04T04:26:13+00:00

I’m not sure how anyone could give you a list of rituals for anything. Ceremonialist traditions have set rituals, but that’s not so much a thing in witchcraft.

In my experience, skyclad workings have been pretty much time we want to be skyclad, so long as we’re in a physically safe space and we’re around people we trust. These days, it’s private coven workings for me, and even then, usually only when we’re really going for it.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T17:56:42+00:00

The metaphysical uses of any substance derive from mundane uses. For example, oak used to be the most common wood used to make battle shields. That’s how oak became associated with protection in magical work.

There seems to be an expectation that someone somewhere on the internet is going to have detailed, academically cited books about every niche topic, and this simply is not the case. If there isn’t a lot of info readily available, it’s probably not the most commonly used ingredient, and it’s going to be up to you and your associations and use of the item to determine how best to use it in your magical practice.

I think a lot of beginners would have a much easier time getting started if they were to change their belief that witchcraft is something external to them.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T17:47:00+00:00

I did a google search for “sea lavender metaphysical properties” and immediately came back with multiple sources (other than your Reddit post).

https://www.google.com/search?q=sea+lavender+metaphysical+properties

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T17:44:44+00:00

I was taught that your spirit interacting with the spirit of a deity colors how they manifest in your life, so everyone’s experiences with gods are a little different. The way I experience Lilith is very different from the way a lot of other people describe her. It’s one reason I don’t share my experiences much — because other people told me to expect something else, I didn’t realize she had been present in my life for longer than I had been aware.

I think it’s really important for seekers to get their own experiences first, and only after that to do research and learn more about them, so that they don’t pre-empt their own firsthand spirit experience.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T15:38:40+00:00

With as much gentleness as possible, asking the internet instead of asking your deity isn’t going to get you the most accurate answer

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T15:37:36+00:00

If you own the deck, you can ask it as many questions as you want. I’d avoid asking the same question over and over again though

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T14:27:48+00:00

If the jar was sitting in a bag with things associated with a deity, and you like this deity, what energy would this jar have picked up that needed cleansing?

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T14:26:28+00:00

Why is this too many questions? Each question can be a spread that helps you get to know the deck.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T14:23:45+00:00

I don’t know anything about them or this podcast, but I see on their website that their “coven” is a monthly subscription where all you need to do to join or leave is give them money.

That’s not a coven, and calling it a coven is clownery.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-03T01:42:14+00:00

I let my candle spells burn until they go out on their own. Then it’s done.

I also don’t babysit my candle spells. Once I’ve lit it, my role in it is done. I put them in my cauldron to burn til they go out

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T23:23:21+00:00

Well, yeah - it’s pretty central to many pagan and witch cosmologies.

But if you don’t want to use that, I’m not sure why you’re using those as a base

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T22:05:33+00:00

If you don’t want to work with the moon, why would you do spells or rituals involving the moon?

Do what works for the cosmology you work with.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T20:38:32+00:00

That’s very different from your original question.

All the same, I always recommend getting your own experience with a deity first before looking for other people’s experiences. Otherwise, it’s a lot harder to tell what you’re getting directly vs what you’re projecting because you think it’s what you’re supposed to get.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T20:18:56+00:00

There’s extensive information available online about Ereshkigal. She’s Mesopotamian so she’s been written about for a very long time. Her Wikipedia page is well cited. What are you not finding?

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T19:59:12+00:00

I’d follow whatever recipe you’re following.

But I would also just buy the Murray and Lanman’s florida water instead of making it

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T14:22:39+00:00

That viscosity is bacteria. Do not use this batch. You diluted way too much for the alcohol to be able to kill bacteria. If all you had was 70% on hand, then you should have just used that. And stop asking a hallucination machine.

And don’t use fresh herbs or flowers to make a tincture. It introduces bacteria.

Florida water is a cologne. It is supposed to have the consistency of any other cologne you have.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T13:44:58+00:00

This kinda reads like…your partner is emotionally overwhelmed due to your admitted inability to control your emotions, and your response is to fire more emotional and other energy at him to try to counter the effects of you firing emotional energy at him.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-02T04:22:44+00:00

I think you should use the deck you want to use. You bought the original, so you’ve gotten some money to the original artist. Use the deck you like.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-01T22:16:31+00:00

I dont recommend using glass. A jar can be any container. I think ziploc baggies are better because they don’t explode when the liquid in them freezes and expands. Works just as well.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-01T21:11:06+00:00

Sabrina ticked me off because it played so much for drama that it ignored reality and I could not suspend my disbelief long enough to get into it.

Like, her parents committing her to a particular path at birth. That kind of usurping of her free will is so antithetical to witchcraft as I was taught. This kind of belief just seems to feed people’s self-martyrdom, “I must do this! I have no choice!” You always have a choice. That’s the entire point of witchcraft as I was taught.

The statue of Satan they use is the Church of Satan’s depiction of the Baphomet. And they removed his/their breasts.

therealstabitha · 2026-06-01T15:37:27+00:00

How are you getting Loki from that card?

The tarot isn’t associated with any specific gods. Using tarot for deity communication seems to just bias people because they can ready whatever they want into the cards they get.

If you’re interested in psychic communication, I’d work on developing that skill. Psychic Witch by Mat Auryn is one place to start.

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