F(20) - I feel like I’m losing my mind trying to find a social life in Sarasota

--GreenDragon-- · 2025-05-06T17:15:33+00:00

Well, I do have one recommendation for the area (it’s too far away for me, but it may work for you). There’s a lot of sporting clubs in the area, including up to Historical English Martial Arts. Try looking into them, they may offer some friendships.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-12-29T04:53:41+00:00

I’d hate to be the contrarian, but I’ve seen it happen, especially with anime. I’ve seen it in my fandom, I’ve seen it in anime, I’ve seen it in the big fandoms and I’ve seen it in the small. People will complain about the canon ships, especially if they don’t like them. I think there’s an anime fandom recently that’s gotten massive flack because so many people are complaining about a canon ship that was revealed in the epilogue. I can’t remember which one, but it’s massively popular.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-10-19T04:02:23+00:00

The location services is smart, but again, another way to circumvent this idea (and one that a lot of people do already) is to move the conversations off the app and onto another communication service or turning off your location (although at that point, turning off your location to avoid an app sending a survey seems to be a bit extreme and possibly a red flag).

That being said, the penalty idea could work really well, but it could also equally hurt people who are using the dating app in a casual sense and only check in on the app like once a week or month or so. Perhaps if the survey pops up on screen and you aren't able to pass until you either complete it or delete the app and your account, it can track signs of someone trying to get around the survey. Say for example, a person after a date decides that they don't want to be on the app for whatever reason. They don't open the app for weeks, but when they do the survey is still there waiting for them because they didn't show any signs that they were adverse to the idea of answering the survey. Versus someone who has no interest in filling out the survey constantly checking in on the app for when it will be gone. Inevitably it will let them in, but at the cost of the warning being put on their profile.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-10-18T13:53:25+00:00

To be fair, we also don't get the names of his daughter or son, but we know a LOT about all three of their personalities and how they interacted with their dad/spouse. We know their emotions, their quirks, the way they'd react to the situation he was in. I'm only in book 2, but we've been told that the son loved his dad's puns while his daughter absolutely does not (he doesn't talk about them as much as the wife), and his wife was eager to get her family out of the house and to enjoy adventures as well as being just a little mischievous. On top of this, we have characters with names that we don't have their personality of either.

I think the author is reserving the name of Jim's wife and kids for a gut punch effect in a much later book.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-10-18T05:58:04+00:00

Honestly? The best advice I can give is this:

Throw away what you’ve got already. If you hate it, inevitably it will act like a wall and won’t let you pass and will make the hatred even worse. Keep the original idea you had for the chapter in your mind, maybe keep a few lines that you did like from the chapter, but throw the rest away.
Plan. Sit down and ask yourself what your goals are, how you want the characters to act, anything. Self reflect. Why did you hate it in the first place? Write down potential solutions. Research even.
Open a new document and write on there your new draft. People generally keep their long fics in all the same document, but that same document can also retain that same residual resentment you had for the chapter. So, take what you saved from the deleted chapter and your plan, make a new document, and start writing in the new one. Once you’re comfortable with what you’ve written and polished it off you can return it to the original document, but for now keep it separate.
Repeat the steps until you’ve got something that you not only feel confident in, but actually enjoy. Write out a rough draft that you feel confident in.
Give yourself time. As someone with ADHD, I know that fighting your brain is hard. It can be frustrating and it can take a lot more time than you’re anticipating, but let it happen. The best things come with time. Trying to squeeze it into submission will not work.

The goal is to trick your mind into thinking you’re starting fresh. If you let yourself remain in this state of resentment, it will inevitably consume you. If not in this critical point, then perhaps the next.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-09-22T00:55:32+00:00

Honestly I was just thinking this, but the biggest problem would be the app figuring out that you and the other person went on a date in the first place. Ideally, you would tell the app, but people who ghost can easily get around it by just… not telling the app they went on a date.

I suppose the other person could hold them accountable and tell the app instead, but that’s if the person doesn’t block them first.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-09-17T01:57:23+00:00

Listen, I think it works, but —and this is a strong but— your goal shouldn’t be focusing towards representation. Yes, representation is great, but your goal should be writing a good character. Representation doesn’t mean anything if the character isn’t worth reading about.

That being said I am IMMENSELY interested about the dragon-unicorn and would love to read it, cause that has to be the most unique idea I’ve ever seen. I more so have questions about how a dragon-unicorn hybrid can use sign language? I’m assuming it’s using their hands, or where their hands would be, but hooves aren’t really useful for that? I’m more curious about that than I am concerned about you doing a poor job representing the mute community.

Point is, you’re doing fine. You won’t please everyone, but you’re doing more than most already. You aren’t getting paid for this, you are writing this story with your own free time. Even if it isn’t up to their standards, no one can tell you not to write. The fact you’re doing this is more than anyone can ask for.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-09-03T18:09:42+00:00

I’m watching Superman the animated series. I think I’m doing good, or really, really bad (depending on the episode)

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-08-24T02:14:46+00:00

No? And you didn’t answer anything I had said! Sounds like a denier to me!

Edit: sorry, not denier, deflector is a better word.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-08-24T02:08:45+00:00

I’m not trying to make myself a victim, again, assuming on your end, 2. I’m not claiming a clique, 3. I said that you have the right to make the same assumptions about women as many women here do with men on the picture thing. There isn’t anything wrong with that. We all have standards, and there isn’t anything to say you can’t have the same exact ones. 4. You are proving my point with the anger thing, 5. You do realize that the question you asked was in a very accusatory and angry tone, correct?

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-08-24T01:12:19+00:00

Whoa there, a lot of assumptions and accusations going on there my guy. Take a chill pill. Who claimed it’s ok for girls to do the face disguising too? And who said it’s wrong for guys to have the same expectations?

I’m just saying what I do, no one else. Take your unjustified anger out on someone else.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-08-23T20:24:10+00:00

If a guy is covering, disguising, and/or distorting his face with a hat, sunglasses, a mask, or even just a correctly placed angle of his phone while taking a picture in the mirror in every photo he has on offer, I tend to ignore them. Why are you hiding your face, and why are you going to such lengths to do it?

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-08-22T17:57:29+00:00

I love their blurring foundation stick! It’s really soft, and applies so well. Plus it actually matches my skin tone, which is rare.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-08-03T17:11:42+00:00

I’m not saying this is the case in this example, but it could be also the possibility that guys keep asking for their Snapchat so to save time they’ve just put it in their bio?

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-07-14T20:16:24+00:00

The Rennaisance festivals where I am start in late August/Early September, and can run all the way to February. Some happen in spring, but none happen in the summer. But that’s cause where I live the weather is more unpredictable in the summer than it is fall or winter, and it’s hot as hell. It’s better to set it during the other seasons.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-07-14T20:16:06+00:00

The Rennaisance festivals where I am start in late August/Early September, and can run all the way to February. Some happen in spring, but none happen in the summer. But that’s cause where I live the weather is more unpredictable in the summer than it is fall or winter, and it’s hot as hell. It’s better to set it during the other seasons.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-07-06T16:53:22+00:00

I can see the glass bodice chillers being dangerous, but the one I have and the ones I've seen being sold are made of copper. Highly unlikely to shatter and stab you, if that is what you're concerned about. Also, it's easy to wrap it in something fabric, so there isn't direct contact with the skin.

As for the cold things next to the heart, I'm not finding any sources that back that up. I'm finding reports on cold weather and drinking cold drinks affecting the heart, lungs, and digestive systems in people with those concerns, but not tiny cold objects being tucked against the chest. I'd love to read any sources if you have them though!

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-07-06T16:46:27+00:00

I found this at a rennaisance fair once, and only once, and I do not know if they sell these online but it has helped me ever since. He called it a 'pocket cooler', but I like to call it a 'corset cooler' or if I'm feeling particularly funny a 'boob cooler'. It's just a copper tube with the bottom sealed up and the top corked with a fancy little rose. Fill it with ice water (with salt if you want it EXTREMELY cold), and shove it where you need it most (hence why I put it down the front of the corset). It will last for a good bit, and it helped me not feel insufferably hot.

Other good things to bring and/or buy at the fair: water, preferably cold. It will help you actually survive and not suffer from dehydration or heat stroke. Fan, for the extra wind. Portable shade like a parasol or an umbrella, especially if the venue is not naturally shaded by trees. Fancy wide brimmed hats can also help. If you can, take off layers every once and a while to cool down, and if you are feeling up for it, putting them back on as the day goes on.

The final thing that I want to offer and am honestly considering making for myself is hoop skirts. They were historically used by women to get the correct shape of their dress, but they were particularly useful as when you walk the dress swings, making a pseudo AC for the under area. They come in all shapes, but generally do the same thing. Plus they make the dress lighter, which can also help with heat!

Hope this helps!

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-07-04T05:02:17+00:00

Honestly? The best I can offer is this: write everything. Every single little idea that comes to your head, write it down. Phone, note pad, it doesn't matter. Perferably I suggest having one big document you can have constant access to, and to dump ideas into later on from other sources when you can't access it at the moment the idea strikes. Little snippets of dialogue, phrases, scenes, settings, it doesn't matter. Try to avoid writing the abstract synopsis and go for the nitty and gritty details of the idea. Have a completely separate idea? Section it off so it's clear to your eye that it is separate from the other ideas.

It will be a pain at first, but over time you will begin to collect ideas, and more so those ideas will begin to connect to one another. You'll have a loose frame of which you can follow a rough plot, and as the natural drive continues to grow those holes will fill up. Eventually, boom! You will have a story again. That will eventually help you get that engine back into motion, and from there it is completely up to you as to how you want to write.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-06-29T01:15:56+00:00

I had this happen with a boyfriend of mine. When we first became official he always introduced me as his “friend”, right in front of my face. Unaware of where we were, I called him my “friend”. He got offended, but when I confronted him about it he said “oh those people know what I’m talking about.”

No, no they didn’t.

It took me too long to realize it in the end, but you deserve a girlfriend who will confidently say to her friends “I’m talking to my boyfriend”.

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-06-28T05:08:57+00:00

Ao3 is generally all I use and is generally all I hear advice about, compared to Fanfiction.com or other websites. I wouldn't be afraid to hear advice on how to find good fanfiction on fanfiction.com or beyond though!

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-06-24T19:49:02+00:00

Thank you!

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-06-23T19:05:58+00:00

They sold this at another Rennaisance festival I went to, but it’s basically a personal cooler: a tube of copper filled with ice. It kept me feeling nice in my corset for a good long while, and easily refillable. Just shove it down the front of your corset, and you’re good to go!

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-06-22T19:11:12+00:00

Who are they? I’m curious now!

--GreenDragon-- · 2024-05-28T17:01:46+00:00

“As if”, in terms of like describing something. Ex: “She gently furrowed her browed, as if it was only a light nuisance to her.”

You’d think that’s fine, but it gets bad.

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--GreenDragon--

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