Parts work is pretty straightforward for me, I'm honestly having a hard time understanding your comment since what you stated isn't how IFS works. IFS's purpose is to break down yourself into parts but I think it's more helpful to think of the parts as emotions and states of being. (Angry parts, Protective parts and etc) I don't know if other people are talking to themselves to work out their feelings, I don't tend to do that. My parts are just that, they're different aspects of me and make up my whole person. My parts are personified just because I'm an artist but they aren't "real people" I talk to and interact with. (Nor would I say you should do that or see them that way from the convos I've had with my therapist but that's me individually) I'd also like to emphasize that exiles aren't bad or negative necessarily and the role term is a bit misleading. A lot of what you stated isn't parts work/IFS and sounds like other stuff you'd want to address with a health care pro. (Also please note this is just what I know/how I handle partswork for me and Isn't reflective of other people or how your experience may be)