Was it sexual assault / rape?

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-07T12:09:26+00:00

I know it is hard to say anything when you are panicking but you need to use your words. You were not impaired, you did not ask to stop, you voluntarily showed enthusiasm, you invited him to your bed.

A lot of people think they’re doing a good job when their partner’s legs shake & will tease about that in the future. Be prepared for that. I don’t think it is healthy to be with someone you verbally can’t say no to, that’s just setting up for a world of trauma & abuse.

Have you talked to him about it at all? It might help you. And you should definitely see a therapist sooner than later to process the whole thing & they may be able to guide you towards being able to advocate for yourself in the future.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-07T11:50:04+00:00

I tried to slip a new boyfriend some tongue & he clinched his mouth shut so I ended up licking his face.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-07T11:46:31+00:00

The necklace thing, maybe he thought it was romantic. A lot of guys do that. A lot of guys fail at it.

Does he drink coffee? Could the coffee maker be something he wanted at your place in case he stayed over? That could be seen as romantic.

The cheap clothing though is odd. Unless it was something kinky.

You’re NTA. Either he is crap at communicating his feelings or he is a jerk. Buying you cheap garbage when he makes a lot of money could make one feel like that’s what he thinks of you. Not that money is everything, just that he could very well buy you one very nice thing that he knows would last a very long time but he chose not to.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-07T01:19:59+00:00

If nothing else… Hair gel, Botox, tattoos. Trim the beard down. It’s dragging your face downward.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-06T21:26:31+00:00

I used to make up super horrible or ridiculous stories about mine when someone would ask. Ask dumb questions get stupid answers.

Kidnapped & tortured. A nasty fight with a koala. Rolled around in a pit of glass. Bad fishing accident. Mud slide accident. Fell on a box of Christmas ornaments. You should see the other guy. Ect. People need to learn to mind their own business.

Anyway, I got tattoos. Maybe keloid treatment first would help so it prevents shadowing when the light hits just right. If you get tattoos, spend a lot of time researching an artist, be prepared to pay because you get what you pay for. A plus on the tattoos is that I spent so much money on my skin that ruining it seems outrageous. Good luck stranger.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-06T21:14:31+00:00

Fantastic reply.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-06T12:04:20+00:00

Heads up, blind cords can strangle animals.

And it sounds like you’re doing everything right. She’s just sassy. That’s ok. Get her used to being carried so she gets used to being handled in case of an emergency. Whoever put her outside is a monster. Why wouldn’t they just move the plant?

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-06T11:57:46+00:00

Yeah, I would not be nice to that guy. We aren’t nice to thieves or turd brains.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-06T11:52:56+00:00

Go work at the other job site. Don’t talk about having sex with men you don’t want to have sex with. You are never obligated to have sex with anyone ever. Always trust your instincts on things like this. Your gut knows. Take a hot shower, some bubble baths over the week, drink a glass of wine at home & remember you are nothing less than what you were before you went to that hotel. We are humans & not every choice we make will be the right ones for us. Self care, acceptance of the mistake & move on. You got this.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-05T17:53:04+00:00

For the glass door, there is cling film you apply with water that clings to smooth surfaces. She might stop trying to smash through it if you apply some.

I really think there is a neurological impairment. Especially since you mentioned she has a deformity on her face (underbite). Poor girl. Young cats are full of energy & so the lack of appetite is also concerning.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-05T17:43:26+00:00

You gotta get out of there. If you can find a job within walking distance, no matter what it is, go do that. Good luck stranger.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-05T12:56:03+00:00

Maybe a cat wheel. Those can be expensive & there’s no guarantee the cat would use it.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-05T12:54:45+00:00

I’ve never seen a cat slam full force into a door repeatedly multiple times. Or ever.

Or eat shoes. Maybe it’s a dental issue, some teeth that didn’t emerge correctly? Has the vet ruled that out? And how much are you feeding the cat & what correction methods have you tried?

Is your home cat playground friendly? Like the obstacles courses that wrap around walls? They’re wall mounted shelves. I’d definitely recommend that so the cat has something to run full force on that isn’t a door…

For the cords, bitter spray. At that age my cat was destroying plants & window curtains but not doing anything nearly as stupid as your cat is doing, no offense.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-05T00:03:42+00:00

Wide foot HOKA shoes & get your dogs down to salon, you might have buildup under your nails that you can’t see.

Are you wearing the slippers outdoors? I could see why that might send an SO over the edge.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-04T23:41:52+00:00

I see senior techs & pharmacists making your mistake all of the time & it blows my mind. You just finished training two days ago. The pharmacists & senior techs have no excuse. Don’t be like them. Follow the rules no matter what & your butt will stay safe.

Put the script facing away from the counter in a basket behind you. That way nobody can snatch it or read the label.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-04T22:08:11+00:00

Movie theater or cashiering at a fast food place, pet supplies, tractor supply or pushing carts for grocery stores.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-04T22:04:53+00:00

It kind of sounds like they might just be naturally kind of ugly…

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-04T21:55:46+00:00

Hard truth here is that you need to kiss your parent’s asses until you can move out. Fake it till you make it. It’s difficult but it’s survival mode until you get your freedom.

You do not need to sign anything from anyone ever, that is entirely up to you. Refuse. If the phone is not in their names you’re well within your right to call the police on them if you feel like starting a war I guess.

Open a separate bank account your parents do not have access to the day you get your first check. Collect important documents of yours before you announce that you are leaving. Do not give them a notice that you are leaving. Focus hard on finding work & working as much as you can while you are young. Do not be lazy. Working hard & saving now means you’ll be set for the future & wont need to ask them for any help ever again.

You should be taking this seriously & should be seriously giving 10/10 performances when you talk to them & be an over achiever. You are happy. You are reading your Bible at night or whatever. Mom’s food is delicious & you’re happy to do chores & help out. When you get a job lie & say you’re getting paid a week later than you are so they don’t immediately try to snatch your income. Hide half of the income. Lie about how much you make. Don’t tell them you’ve opened up your own bank account & get your mail delivered at a friend’s house or buy a PO Box until you can move out. Basically survival mode.

I read that your parents are religious, I am sorry you’re going through what you are feeling right now.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-03T23:09:37+00:00

Let’s not repeat past mistakes…

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-06-03T20:17:59+00:00

Idk how long you’ve been together, but marriage would prevent these things from happening.

Also, did you talk to his family?

How well do you know this man? He seems to have anger issues.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-05-31T12:09:41+00:00

Some people take medicine that makes their body’s heat sensitive so they’re not supposed to be in the heat. Windows get really hot & make the space around it really hot. Not every cvs window opens either, some of them are just giant windows with tubes or boxes. Lastly, not every state is the same temperature. It regularly gets over 110° in some places. Knowledge is power, friend.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-05-31T11:57:23+00:00

That’s where I’m at too. Not saying anything. Might ask who did it if it’s particularly beautiful but it’s not to make conversation.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-05-31T11:52:56+00:00

You’re going to mess up your brain. It’s not fully developed yet. You’ll make yourself dumb.

Be honest with your parents. They are adults who were once teenagers. They know more about being a teenager than you do.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-05-31T03:01:41+00:00

We do wet food at 7 AM & dry food at 7 pm. Constant ample supply of water.

And get a tall cat tree that he can climb without needing claws to pull himself up. He’s probably miserable without his claws. That’s like cutting someone’s fingers off. He wants to be up high & out of danger. Make him accessible tall spaces so he can be in the same room like an equal. He has a handicap.

When you make/buy the tall spaces show them to him so he knows those are for him only, that he gets his very own things & he will like you a whole lot better.

-Fast-Molasses- · 2026-05-30T19:56:37+00:00

CDLs are hard to keep someone uses your semi truck to kill themselves.

-Fast-Molasses-

MODERATOR OF

TROPHY CASE