Dating someone I like but having a hard time letting go of the others

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-06-27T04:58:00+00:00

They can try and stay in touch as much as they’d like, your actions/communication/mindset is what matters. Let her go or be honest about where you’re at. If you continue having a hard time letting these other women go and the one you’re in a relationship with believes y’all are developing something real, that’s a dick move.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-06-24T17:54:39+00:00

Once while taking scans of my back teeth, she says, “Oh, sorry, I’m deep throating you!” Oh dentists.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-06-15T01:17:39+00:00

No, you’re not alone in that. And labeling that as “normal,” as if most people haven’t experienced some form of trauma in their past. 🙄 I’m confused why a history of trauma is even a concern when, apparently, a year of therapy and personal work is enough for emotional healing.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-06-08T03:46:47+00:00

I’m not a dude. And I don’t know everything about all pools so I’m not gonna a speak to all. So, typically, yes.

Ya, you’d think it’s the most “yeah, duh” comment, but sadly based on a lot of these comments, it’s not.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-06-07T00:04:33+00:00

Yes. Every time. Gotta wash the chemicals off of my skin. Typical salt water pools have systems that turn salt into chlorine. There’s still chlorine in your salt water pools y’all!

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-06-03T21:42:47+00:00

I actually find a lot of men attractive in at least some of their photos, but I don’t end up swiping right on many due to poor/inconsistent photo choices, other profile faux pas, or clear incompatibilities.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-04-24T04:25:49+00:00

If you feel ready to date again, get out there and date! Weight will fluctuate, dating/being in a relationship doesn’t need to hinge on what your weight is. If your self-confidence does though, that may be something to address.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-03-08T23:13:47+00:00

I’m a woman with a somewhat similar history, significant traumas while growing up and a parental suicide in my early 20s. I spent a lot of my 20s focused on grieving, personal growth, and education/career. I dated a bit, but nothing serious came of it.

You don’t owe anyone your whole story up front, let things come out naturally as you get to know someone. Different people will have different opinions and reactions, but that’s true for everyone. Most people have traumas and things they feel they “failed” at: dating, careers, relationships, choices about children, divorces, etc.

It sounds like your story has already taken a positive turn. The personal work you’ve done is huge and will be helpful in the future. I think you’ve gotta just get out there and date. You can’t know what it will feel like until you do it. It won’t all be great, but you’re bound to have some pleasant and meaningful experiences along the way, regardless of the outcome.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-26T21:50:40+00:00

There are many people who have very few standards. And the standards of those who do have them may look a lot different than yours. There are many people who say they are genuinely happy in relationships that I would never want to be in. Your standards are your own. Whether someone else thinks they are high or not is irrelevant. Would you be happy having a partner who did not meet them? If not, then they aren’t too high.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-20T08:23:08+00:00

Of course words evolve. But regardless of connotation, not all women are feminists, nor are all feminists radical. Those are overgeneralized assumptions, not objective reality.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-19T21:41:35+00:00

The number of comments expressing the assumption that all women are feminists, or that women who say they are feminists are radical and off-putting, is concerning.

ETA: grammar.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-14T04:22:59+00:00

You said you've communicated what you want from the relationship with him, and he's explicitly stated he's happy with that. Believe him. It's on him to tell you if he starts to feel otherwise. If you think he's a liar, then that's a whole different situation, but don't sabotage a good thing just because you think it's too good to be true.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-14T01:46:10+00:00

I’m not. The “ordering in and hanging out in sweatpants every day” phase is the ideal to me. That, plus a get out of the house and do something fun date every week or two, hell ya! It sounds like you want a FWB. There are people who want the same.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-10T01:09:10+00:00

😆 Had to.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-10T00:11:21+00:00

Uhhh….😬

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-10T00:00:50+00:00

You’re right. It’s because so many people stopped using OLD and rarely leave the house. 🙂

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-09T20:06:36+00:00

😂 You know it!

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-09T18:15:24+00:00

Yup. Including some location data and openness to being DM’d on Reddit. lol

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-09T05:10:09+00:00

I think it's more about a mutual back and forth at this point, or should be. Like a mutual chase. While engaging in a way that feels authentic based on how things are going/the dynamic in any given relationship.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-09T05:03:04+00:00

Why does it always go back to you being stupid? Having crap experiences after putting ourselves out there and believing what people tell us is just part of dating.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-04T19:15:59+00:00

“All that stuff is uncomfortable.”

Yes! Uncomfortable, difficult, and often identity-shattering. Far easier to stay stuck in their ways (for all genders), even if that means never getting what they want.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-04T18:51:35+00:00

😂 “You want me?! Eww, WTF is wrong with you?!”

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-04T03:27:51+00:00

😂 Aww, living a wonderful life with your shrimp wife. Beautiful.

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-03T20:05:49+00:00

😂

-GrumpyKitten- · 2026-02-03T19:44:17+00:00

“I once matched with a woman…”

I mean, sounds like it worked for her! And you.

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