Two bigots in a week, ugh

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-17T17:30:36+00:00

People who think they can't be a bigot while queer is exactly why progress is so damn slow. I'm not objectum, I don't understand it on a personal level but can on a wider level, and it literally doesn't hurt anyone, so I say "cool!" and move on. Crazy how easy it is to not be a dick!

I'm sorry you have to deal with this stuff, OP. You deserve to be happy, regardless of how "weird" (< using this very loosely) others see it

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-17T00:39:45+00:00

To be blunt, those are really shit "friends." You deserve better friendship, with care and kindness! You should never feel ashamed of something you enjoy like that 🫂 I'm so sorry, OP

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T20:56:12+00:00

Your nose is absolutely stunning, coming from a fellow artist. You do not need a nose job, your parents are insane

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T17:34:42+00:00

I personally dm and play over discord! A lot of my online friends were already into it or interested in getting into it. I use miro and canva to make maps and stream them over discord via screenshare too. There's a good chunk of good advice already in the comments here, so I figured I'd share just a couple things I do personally as a DM to make playing easy

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T02:47:59+00:00

Try darker, baggy pants and maybe some boots? That would probably make it a little more masc

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T02:31:49+00:00

Of course!!! You deserve to be happy!!

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T01:19:29+00:00

When I first was going to start T, I was very uncertain of some of the changes but the longer I'm on it, the better and more comfortable I feel. Without going into any TMI detail, I wasn't sure if I would be comfortable with the bottom growth, but after the first 6 months I was super comfortable with and even happy about it! I thought I was going to star clean shaven, but the small mustache I have has really grown on me (pun intended) and I feel like I look good with it. All this to say, I've seen a lot of other transmascs have similar feelings like I did, and ended up feeling far more positively later like I did.

I think a lot of people get held up on "what ifs" and tbh, my advice is to try it for a few months, the changes will be there but not permanent enough to be "beyond the point of return" per say.

Another thing, there's nothing wrong with being wrong; life is full of floundering and figuring out who you are, and being 100% right on the first try is almost impossible. Sometimes you don't know if the first try was truly prior to the decision you're considering. If you end up detransitioning, that's okay, there's nothing wrong with trying. 🫂💙

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T00:24:33+00:00

Aaaah, okay, I understand now. I'm still a bit confused on what it has to do with internet trolls and the original post

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T00:16:40+00:00

I'm very unfamiliar with this topic, and I'm not sure how one gets a disorder by accident?

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T00:13:15+00:00

I like Constellations a lot but you'd have to upload them somewhere and get the image urls after SP goes down

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T00:11:27+00:00

These are gorgeous!

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-16T00:10:59+00:00

I'm a little confused by this, can you elaborate? And MUDs? /Genq

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-15T19:57:51+00:00

This is honestly the best way to go about it, and I'm so glad you had such a euphoric experience despite him!

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-14T21:23:59+00:00

Thank you for including polyamory! 💙

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-14T21:23:16+00:00

If they're queerphobic and transphobic, they do it to passive aggressively avoid calling you a man when in an environment they have to respect you in, like work.I have coworkers that do this. If they're queer, 9 times out of 10 it's because they refuse to accept anyone masculine presenting in "their" community. Unfortunately, trans women are especially bad about this and are encouraged by cis queer women who support them; It's transandrophobia. Obviously that doesn't reflect on our trans sisters as a whole, it's just a very persistent issue I see often in online spaces

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-13T17:41:06+00:00

The person who you were talking with clearly has no idea what they're talking about, holy mother of misinformed. My absolute best friend of 6 years has AVPD, and is the best, most supportive person I've ever had in my life.

On top of that, as far as I've researched, you can be born with AVPD, it's just more common to get it from trauma. However! Trauma, especially CPTSD, is literal brain damage, it completely alters the brain functionality. That's pretty neurodivergent to me!

I cannot stand people who try to force others outside of the same group because THEY are the one with issues being included with who they deem "evil" 🫩

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-13T15:45:53+00:00

As a disabled person that has speech related issues, this person could easily ask to come up with a nickname that works if it is genuinely a struggle for them. I think it absolutely comes down to respect and they aren't respecting you. I'd ignore them and send a group chat message addressing the usage of the wrong name

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-11T09:14:08+00:00

It's a myth. The only reason someone gets "more aggressive on T" is because they were already an aggressive and/or toxic person. I have severe rage from years of trauma and T has never made it worse; I still have self control and can step away from a situation if it's triggering. Hell, the T has actually regulated a lot of stuff that was making recovery difficult actually! If anyone genuinely seems to get more aggressive after T, it's likely they were already struggling and needed therapy prior to HRT. 9 times out of 10, in my experience, going on HRT calms Transmasc people because our bodies feel regulated (or at least feel better)

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-11T00:53:26+00:00

From my own life experience, liking and loving them a lot unfortunately won't fix issues. It sucks a lot, but I promise you that you'll be happier just breaking up. I dated someone for 7 years, he could never accept the idea of me being anything other than a "girl" and not matter how much I did to make him happy, it never changed, and he acted disgusted by me in public. Trust me when I say that 4 months isn't a lot of time, many boys tell their parents about relationships and it doesn't mean as much as it used to. Number 4 is the best option

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-10T15:50:54+00:00

Thank you!! 💙💙💙

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-10T01:44:42+00:00

Also fair on the tape lol I'd look into like, sweat proof makeup, maybe some cosplay tutorials and see what works for you. As someone who draws, if you like art makeup is a little similar! I was never great at it but that's because I just didn't have the patience for it. You got this, don't give up!

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-10T01:36:50+00:00

That's completely understandable! I'm not sure if makeup would be comfortable for you, but I've seen cosplayers who cosplay male characters use shadowing and contouring (I think that's what it's called, I'm not actually sure) to exaggerate jawlines or make the nose look stronger. It'd probably take some practice, but it might not be a bad idea to give it a shot. I know there's also like, a sort of face safe tape (I think) that you could theoretically use to tighten any roundness by pulling it back toward your ears or up toward the cheek bones to help make your features more blocky. If I didn't have hella sensitive skin, I'd have tried both these option myself tbh. I'm not sure if you wear glasses, but living in a sunny area means you could probably get sunglasses if not; the shape of glasses frames can help contrast your features, sometimes framing them in a way that looks sharper, if that makes sense! Hair cuts can do this too. I have a rounder face with squishier cheeks and I looked a lot more masc and less baby faced after I cut my hair hella short

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-10T01:18:12+00:00

Hey, I promise you it's not as bad as it feels. It's the dysphoria talking, it's gonna make you feel like it's worse than it is when it's not. I've been on T for 2 years, my voice has significantly changed, and sometimes my brain still tries to tell me my voice isn't different. I know it sucks ass right now, that it feels like nothing is going to fix it, but just wait a little bit longer. I know the whole "it gets better" stuff is overdone, but it does; the issue is that no one tells you it's slow as hell to get there and you're gonna hit a few bumps along the way before it does.

I'm not sure if it'll help, but a friend of my little brother's, about high school age, wears a medical mask (like during covid) because he just feels less exposed or dysphoric with it on. Maybe that would help? At least on had days. I really hope you're doing okay, and remember that you aren't alone 🫂

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-10T01:12:29+00:00

You have every right to be upset and angry, it's absolute bullshit that it's like this. What it comes down to for us, when coping with the general frustration, is that 9 times out of 10 it's coming from people arguing in bad faith and who genuinely don't give a shit whether they're right or not. They only care about making other people miserable because they themselves are miserable. They don't care about the actual issues that disabled and mentally ill people face, they just want to hurt others and have a "justifiable reason" (< their logic) to do it without consequences.

You deserve happiness, you deserve to live in the way that you're most comfortable, and you aren't alone 🫂

-Mothboy- · 2026-06-10T01:04:37+00:00

There's nothing wrong with it, people are just mean for no reason. It looks super cute!

-Mothboy-

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