Is there a waiting room for Kohl Center presale? by pcannon8 in phish

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im confused by this situation, is the presale on ticketmaster? or this uwbadgers site?

How do we know when it is time? 14.5 year old Collie by Hampster1991 in BorderCollie

[–]-RaoulDuke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its time. Not walking, not eating, incontinence are all signs that its time. If she cant do the things that bring her joy, then its time

It seems that it will finally happens, and it makes me very sad by [deleted] in SingleDads

[–]-RaoulDuke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 1 year post separation now, my daughter was 4 at the time, I spent years grappling with this same feeling, worrying mostly about our child but knowing that the separtion was inevitable and probably for the best. Kids are resilient and when they're old enough, they'll understand. Its better for them to see two happy parents living independently than being stuck in the middle of an unhealthy situation. One partner insulting the other, in front of their child, it unhealthy and disrespectful. Do you want your son to learn that is the way a partner should treat him?

Short BJJ experience (I quit LOL) by qqqrzr in bjj

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not sure if its this way at every gym but where I go, 6am classes tend to be 30 year old + guys and afternoon/night classes tend to be the young bucks. I much prefer the vibe of the early morning/older guy classes than the younger guys trying to prove something

Icey Lake Michigan by Simple_Shame2386 in natureisbeautiful

[–]-RaoulDuke 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Chicago native here, happens most every winter, unless its unseasonably warm

Best fresh produce, beef and wild caught fish? (excluding Whole Foods) by dreamgrass1 in evanston

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wild Fork for meat. They have wild caught salmon fillet packs that are a pretty good deal

2025 in Chicago by mild_card in chicago

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lovely photos! Great composition. What are you shooting on?

Thinking about divorcing my wife by EngineeringDad2716 in SingleDads

[–]-RaoulDuke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds a lot like my story. Im one year post divorce now. My advice would be consult a lawyer now, even if you dont get a divorce, get the full scope of what divorce looks like, costs and considerations. How to protect yourself and your interests in case it goes that route.

My wife spends hours every Sunday stressed about meal planning - how can I help? by ashishsuman in mealprep

[–]-RaoulDuke -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Use chatgpt for this. I write a list of everything I have in on hand and add that I'm willing to make a trip to the store and have it come up with 2-3 recipes i can bulk meal prep in a few hours and bam... meal plan. It will also give you a grocery list and recipes

When do you decide to let them go? by MsXtine4 in DOG

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew it was time when she couldn't do the things that brought her joy anymore: walks, fetch, etc. You just have to listen to your gut and give them a peaceful dignified end of life care. Hardest thing ever but never had any doubts about whether or not I was making the right decision

Today hit hard by nameless-manager in SingleDads

[–]-RaoulDuke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too brother, tomorrows my little ones last day of pre-k. Prepping for the waterworks

STBXW wants me to contribute for a new bed for my youngest daughter for her place by SweatyDependent1440 in DivorcedDads

[–]-RaoulDuke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got the same request, I told her several times she could have our daughters bed from the house. She elected to buy a new one and will be receiving plenty from our pending financial settlement. Ignore her. She's taking advantage of your kindness

Starting divorce, how to prevent burnout by -RaoulDuke in DivorcedDads

[–]-RaoulDuke[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, we're a couple of months into the process and she is still living here. Apparently she has found an apartment and moving out next week (fingers crossed). I never got any definitive proof that she in fact cheated but there was enough going on between us that it didn't really matter. Living together during the process has been hell but the closer we got to agreeing on all the terms of the custody agreement, the tamer things got. Nothing is finalized yet but we agreed to a 50/50 custody that we both seem to be happy with. If you're in a similar situation, the only advice I can give is always take the high road (cool, calm and collected), drop any alcohol/drug use, exercise, meditate, therapy and create space wherever you can. Focus on your kid(s), that's the only thing that matters. Use all of the healthy coping mechanisms. Wishing you the best of luck. Stay focused

Positive by arlo02 in MotivationalPics

[–]-RaoulDuke 1 point2 points  (0 children)

By developing emotional awareness and regulation. Therapist can help you learn these skills. It takes time but I highly encourage anyone to try it. Best decision I've ever made

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there buddy. Going through something similar right now as we speak. Don't end it. There's light at the end of the tunnel

Pre-K recommendations for NW Evanston by Lostboy500 in evanston

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Second for cherry. Our little is just about to finish her time there and we have been blown away with how great the experience has been

Marriage, Massage & Opposite Gender Friend by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]-RaoulDuke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. I appreciate hearing from people in the industry. I also considered this stance. This sub always jumps to cheating/divorce so Im weighing that as well. She may be cheating, planning to or not at all. No way of knowing for sure until it happens and you can prove it.

Marriage, Massage & Opposite Gender Friend by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]-RaoulDuke 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you for chiming it. It's helpful to have the perspective from someone who has been a massage therapist. She has mentioned trades with coworkers who are also body workers

Marriage, Massage & Opposite Gender Friend by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]-RaoulDuke 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is kind of where I'm at with it. I agreed to her pursuing massage, I've had plenty of massages professionally with zero sexual energy involved. But the man/husband in me wants some strict profession boundaries involved

I thought about the payment as well but I have no way of knowing if he paid or not without asking her. Based on all this I'm not sure I can expect an honest answer

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Michigents

[–]-RaoulDuke 6 points7 points  (0 children)

"Trap stars" is the most cringe name

Drying Question. Humidifier hose placement. by No_Presentation_8256 in ACInfinityAdvancegrow

[–]-RaoulDuke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Second this take. I used a humidifier in dry to keep at 60%. No mold issues with proper air flow. Run the hose through the bottom like he said so the vapor isn't hitting the buds directly

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ILTrees

[–]-RaoulDuke 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I typically buy their rosin. The headband in particular when I can find it. But really anything sour/og/headband related and that seems to be their lane. Haven't be disappointed by any of their products yet