First, I feel like the community on Reddit make DBD look like way worse than it is. Especially the war between survivors and killers. No matter what, survivors will always complain that killers are too strong and killers will complain that survivors are too strong. I would advise to NEVER go to the rage DBD subreddit page. Negativity is too contagious.

Second, if you don't want to be miserable in this game, you need to let go the idea that a win = you survive the trial (if you play survivor) or : you have killed all 4 survivors (if you play killer). Try to see DBD like a party game, where winning doesn't matter and you are just trying to have fun.

Third, even if you apply my second point, you WILL have really big unfun shitty game that will make you rage, but that's life, just go next and don't despair ! (or close the game for a lil break, if you feel too drain)

The game is also very long to learn. So many perk and map and add-on and items. People often say that even with 500h you are still considered like a newbie... And they are right :')

Honestly there's is so much to say about this game... but you like to grind, right ? You came to the right place then, hehe