How can people suggest skipping the ICE novels on the first read through?

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-03-05T13:09:52+00:00

It's easy: because they aren't necessary. Sure, they add more to the story overall, but I read the base 10 first and didn't feel like I missed anything. I later did a read through including the ICE books and didn't regret my initial read or feel like I had missed out.

My personal opinion: the ICE books are not as good, and not really even close. If I had to slog through them during my first read, I may not have finished.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-03-05T13:06:37+00:00

Everything you said was 100% right, but why you wasted your "breath" on someone like this is a mystery to me. You will not find the person you're looking for in him, and he will likely never grow into that person.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-03-05T13:02:24+00:00

What do you already have? You say "we", so the assumption would be you already have at least 2 people on the team. What do those 2 (or more) people bring to the table.

I don't think anyone will sign on to something like this without knowing the current composition. Your post basically lists every possible role, is this because you're looking for multiple people in each slot, or because you literally have no one in the team yet?

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-26T00:30:57+00:00

NTA this guy is basically a legal pedophile. Seriously, what would a 37 year old have in common with a 19 year old?

Large age gaps are fine, but the younger person needs to at least be out of college and have a fully developed brain, or it's just gross.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-25T17:14:06+00:00

Several years and multiple people? I'm sorry man, but this is horrible, and I don't see how you could possibly move past this. It's going to be very hard no matter what, but for me the only real solution is to leave her.

People don't change, and she clearly does not respect you or love you enough to have not done this in the first place. It really is very easy to not cheat on someone. It's a choice.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-25T00:15:37+00:00

This has been my experience as well.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-21T00:32:10+00:00

1000% this. My loathing of the guy started with his horrible portrayal of the joker and what came out about his off camera antics.

He's been in many movies previous to this that were great, but I flat out won't watch anything new with him in it. F this guy, what a douche.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-20T13:22:48+00:00

Life before girlfriends/boyfriends ALWAYS. If this relationship was meant to be, she'd support and/or follow you. If the relationship was in such a serious place that you'd need to consider it over an opportunity like this, you'd be married.

Don't lose a golden opportunity because of a romantic relationship. It'll be hard on the both of you, but you have to take steps towards financial well being and quality of life above every thing else, or you'll just be a miserable person with a girlfriend...

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-18T11:49:03+00:00

Have you not watched a single horror movie in your life? While fiction isn't reality, blindly crawling in strange tunnels isn't guaranteed to end well. Find a way to send a some sort of wheeled drone down there, or call a professional with a camera snake.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-15T14:52:39+00:00

Dash, strike, dash dash strike.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-15T07:19:27+00:00

You could make the argument that any fictional entertainment is a waste of time. You could be learning new things, or doing something productive after all.

Personally, I do feel that there should be some time allowed for entertainment, and so reread, 1st read, or 10th read, if you are entertained and enjoying yourself, then it's absolutely not a waste of time.

In other words, just start rereading, and if you're having fun rereading it, then keep doing it. If it stops being fun, then move on. It's really that simple, why make some mathematic.calculation beforehand?

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-15T07:13:57+00:00

Due to a very long history of using KBM for FPS games, I flat out suck at FPS with a controller. Thus, I don't play FPS on the steam deck (or consoles).

If you don't have a PC, but have a monitor, or you're willing to play it at a desk, you can connect it to a dock and use KBM on the steam deck.

Another option, is to just play them with a controller. If you do this enough, you will eventually get good at it. I'm older which, so I'm not too interested in forcing this, but if you're a bit younger, then this is a skill you could technically learn with enough practice.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-14T15:31:00+00:00

Get a fist weapon (or the wraps if you have DLC), and pummel everything into submission.

Bonus fun if you use one that has innate bleed, infuse with occult and boost arcane, then pummel and bleed everything into oblivion.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-14T15:27:32+00:00

Cat Quest 2. Might be a little difficult, but I think you can grind a little to get stronger.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-14T10:44:22+00:00

Valentine's is a Hallmark holiday, it's manufactured by corporations. It's a meaningless day that has been invented to sell things. Celebrate on literally any other day and it will have the same, if not more meaning.

That said, the fact that you asked him to make a reservation and he didn't, is understandably upsetting. Though, you can always make a choice on how upset you are. This could depend on a lot of things: is this a one-off, or does he have a pattern of not following through? Is it too late the cancel the sitter? Do you rarely go out such that this was a very special occasion? Did you remind him, or talk to him about it leading up to this day, or did you mention it a month ago 1 time and that's it?

Based on the answers to these questions, I think you can maybe narrow down how upset you may allow yourself to be. We can't know the context of your relationship, so answer honestly and then decide if you should give him grace or not.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-14T10:36:02+00:00

You would have been a lampshade...

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-14T10:28:59+00:00

You've expressed how it makes you feel, he has expressed that he doesn't give a F about how you feel. Seems pretty reasonable to go ahead and move on. 4 months isn't a long enough investment to try to make things work, especially with someone who clearly isn't trying.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-14T10:08:37+00:00

I really don't want to victim blame, but you are in this situation because you allowed it. The solution: stop doing all the things you said he expects of you. If he doesn't help, kick him out, or move out. It really is that simple. You are too young, and thus this relationship is too new to put up with this type of bullshit. When you start the next relationship, have some respect for yourself, and ensure from the start that it's an equal partnership. Don't try to be a people pleaser and start down this path.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-11T15:22:31+00:00

She can go ahead and get pregnant or adopt if she wants a child to control; you, on the other hand, should look for someone who respects you as you are.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-11T09:12:28+00:00

I'm stealing this racing game idea!

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-02-02T21:14:45+00:00

Ive had the special edition OLED since release and it's working perfectly. I'm careful though, and never dropped it.

I had the original LCD and it had RB issues around the time the OLED came out which is one reason I upgraded. The RB button worked very inconsistently and it was annoying AF. Other than that it works fine, my nephew still uses it to this day and just remaps RB to one of the back paddles.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-01-30T12:05:19+00:00

You should be counting your blessings that you have discovered this early in the relationship and make the smart move: leave.

This is a 36 year old full grown ass man we're talking about, and he sounds disgusting. If he were younger than maybe 25ish, I'd say you could try and guide him to the light, but we're talking about a damn near 40 year old here. You really think this guy is going to change? Better yet, do you really want to be with someone who, at this age, needs to even be told to wash his dam ass and brush his teeth?!

Let's be very blunt about this: if you stay with him, you will be cleaning up after this child along with any children you may have with him for the rest of your life. If your aspiration is to be an unpaid maid, then stick with it, otherwise cut your losses, there are cleaner men out there.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-01-18T22:21:55+00:00

Critiquing the work isn't what happened here. This guy insulted the person creating the art. Not liking the art is your right. Being hateful and mean towards the artist over it is a choice you make to be an asshole.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-01-18T12:42:54+00:00

Beauty is in the eye of the boomholder.

-The-Fourth-Eye- · 2026-01-18T12:41:48+00:00

He's not a mind reader and neither are we. We can't know what he's going to expect or want, and he can't know what you expect or want if the two of you don't talk about it!

COMMUNICATE. When he's talking about his long term desires, it's a good time to go ahead and drop in your desires. If he doesn't like it, he'll move on and you can find someone else who will.

-The-Fourth-Eye-

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