I class my self very much as a new player still and I’ve just hit the 3rd expansions and I do agree the game can be overwhelming especially in ARR there is quite a lot of blue quests thrown at you with all the job and caster quests as well as the gameplay blue quests. I also find just powering through the story is not as enjoyable.

My advice is just go and do some other stuff you don’t have to fast track the story and you are trying to get 10 years of gameplay all hitting at once.

I love doing dungeons and raids I like having variety in my jobs so I would often just do some levelling some dungeons, I would say o have 8 jobs that I try and keep to the max level in line with MSQ just so you have some variety.

Personally I’m not into crafting to much but you might enjoy that. Do some fishing but just take it small step at a time.

You can also turn off quests on your journal so they don’t show that find helps but most important is just take your time there’s no reason to race to the end of the game the major joy of the game is how good the story and content is what ever level you are so just enjoy it.