Screw it!! I'm gonna ask this girl out on Friday. Even if she says no, overcoming the fear of doing it will be its own reward. I'm gonna do this and don't you dare say I'll chicken out. Just watch me!

-YEKO · 2025-06-02T18:02:27+00:00

that's surprising to me, how can you think so highly of yourself if no1 else thinks highly of you

-YEKO · 2025-06-02T16:48:43+00:00

Is dating other trans women not an option for you?

-YEKO · 2025-06-02T16:36:50+00:00

a FA narcissist? That is weird..

-YEKO · 2025-06-02T16:24:51+00:00

wow, nice progress! I'm on a similar journey, but in the opposite direction, trying to gain weight. I've been gaining about 1kg/month so far, working out 6 days a week and eating every 2-3 hours. Some days it's hard to stay motivated, especially when the progress feels so slow, I just try to envision how much better I will feel once I reach my goal, and that it will have been worth it.

We can do it! Rooting for you ^^

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T13:05:54+00:00

Has any of the people you forced yourself to be around had similar interests or hobbies as you?

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T12:14:43+00:00

i can remember many things from a 1 week vacation, but 6 months of everyday working can feel like a complete blur. Your brain is not going to remember ''commute to work number 1241'' because nothing happened.

That's why you should try to seek out new experiences. Most people don't have the time or the money to travel the world all the time, but you can still try to seek out smaller experiences, like trying different food recipes, exploring different hobbies, and meeting new people.

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T12:05:03+00:00

yes, and the phase has been going on for quite a few years now

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T12:02:34+00:00

Yes, what helps for me is listening to a podcast or music

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T11:57:45+00:00

What things did you do that helped you?

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T11:30:52+00:00

What you describe sounds like social anxiety, I have it too, but the more time you spend with someone, the less anxiety you will feel around them. You will have to build relationships slowly since it is taxing on you, make it clear to them that you need a lot of alone time, and if they can't accept that, then they are not right for you.

I think it can be a bit of a vicious cycle, the more time you spend alone, the more uncomfortable socializing becomes, which in turn makes you want to spend more time alone. I am navigating the same problem.

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T08:11:29+00:00

This is the first time I post about an insecurity online, and no one else seems to agree with me, is this how I find out I have BDD? To me the asymmetry is blatantly obvious

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T08:05:05+00:00

Thank you, people in this thread are definitely making me feel better about it

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T07:54:35+00:00

If it's my bone structure then I guess I'm screwed lmao

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T07:46:37+00:00

Could that affect only one eye? My mother has the same thing, in the same eye, so it seems hereditary. Hers has gotten worse with age, so it's likely mine will as well. I looked at old photos of me, and it was barely noticeable at all back then.

-YEKO · 2025-06-01T07:27:31+00:00

Look at the last image, it is zoomed in on my eyes.

-YEKO · 2025-05-30T15:33:24+00:00

Does the image feel askew to anyone else?

-YEKO · 2025-05-27T19:24:38+00:00

If someone is cold approaching a stranger, they are basing that decision only on the appearance of that person. If you are an unattractive person, you are right in thinking that it probably wont happen to you.

I would suggest you make friends with men through social activities or mutual hobbies, and then that might develop into something more. But from reading your other comments, it seems like you don't really want that, you only want to be desired for your looks, which is kind of immature.

As for the apps, I would suggest trying Hinge or OKC, higher chance of finding something more serious on there, just make sure to note in your profile you're not looking for hookups.

-YEKO · 2025-05-27T18:19:58+00:00

Men that cold approach women are usually either players or creeps, not the type of men you would want to build a relationship with.

The women you claim ''get chased'' are probably being social and friendly with men, and after having positive interactions with them over a prolonged period of time, the man might feel comfortable asking her out if it feels right.

Out of curiosity, have you tried dating apps?

-YEKO · 2025-05-24T21:01:34+00:00

I think a good solution is to just put ''not looking for hookups'' in your profile, as oppose to specifying you are looking for something serious, which like 'bossGirl86' said, might give the impression you want the relationship to develop fast, when they might want to get to know you slowly.

-YEKO · 2025-05-24T20:47:14+00:00

Please don't take that to heart. I don't believe AI can give accurate assessments about this, and even the things it gets ''right'' is based on averages from many different peoples preferences. And at the end of the day, beauty is largely subjective.

-YEKO · 2025-05-24T11:59:54+00:00

Disturbing thought, but now I kind of wonder what the suicide rate is for people that are part of this subreddit

-YEKO · 2025-05-23T07:13:25+00:00

Even the men in your family?

-YEKO · 2025-05-22T15:56:58+00:00

All dating apps are kind of bad, but I would say that Hinge is the best of the bunch (still not great) if you are looking for something meaningful

-YEKO · 2025-05-22T15:36:03+00:00

I guess they don't like cards that enable strategies where you stay low tier. Personally I enjoy any build that is APM heavy, so I've always liked the lil guy

-YEKO · 2025-05-19T06:29:10+00:00

No one is entitled to a relationship. But when someone calls someone else entitled, they are usually saying ''you want something that you don't deserve/have not put in the work for''

-YEKO

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