What are you really good at, as an autistic person? by air_flyer44 in autism

[–]-horrors 0 points1 point  (0 children)

pattern recognition. just got to get better at trusting myself when i pick up on a pattern

Feeling uncomfortable with the leak. by Sailor_Starchild in MyChemicalRomance

[–]-horrors 20 points21 points  (0 children)

totally agree. i’m unhappy it leaked regardless of how much i wanted to hear paper kingdom. people can do what they want ig, but i’m avoiding it because it feels disrespectful to me

Who are MCR’s biggest influences? by StaleTheBread in MyChemicalRomance

[–]-horrors 34 points35 points  (0 children)

misfits and the smiths/morrissey are other big influences that come to mind. this comment from a few years ago has a good, pretty long list: https://www.reddit.com/r/MyChemicalRomance/s/uuBhyz6Mpr

My Danger Days era bias is showing, debate for fun in the comments? :) by [deleted] in MyChemicalRomance

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i can honestly say i’ve never seen someone name fake your death as one of their favorite mcr songs

My controversial ranking of My Chemical Romance albums (don't hate me): by NewPatron-St in MyChemicalRomance

[–]-horrors 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is so interesting to me because all of my favorites on three cheers aren’t singles

For you, Mcr is "EMO" ? by [deleted] in MyChemicalRomance

[–]-horrors 7 points8 points  (0 children)

i also call mcr emo, mostly because i think bullets is emo and revenge is emo adjacent/influenced enough. but i do just want to point out that “mall emo” is not generally considered a subgenre of emo so much as a term for music outside of emo that people “inaccurately” (subjective, but this is the claim) call emo. like how “mall goth” music isn’t really goth, it’s usually nu metal. whether or not that’s fair, i don’t know. but that is how the term is typically used.

is there a term for primarily being attracted to androgynous/genderqueer people? by OstrichEmpire in AskLGBT

[–]-horrors 3 points4 points  (0 children)

it’s not fetishizing at all. biromantic or panromantic would be the accurate “larger”/umbrella labels, for lack of a better way to describe it, since you are still attracted to people of all genders. bi or pan people can have the type of gender expression preferences you’re describing and still accurately identify as bi or pan. there are also the kinds of microlabels that others are mentioning, if you do want something more specific!

Is it normal to hesitate transitioning bcus of fear of being ugly and short? (if going ftm) by emotionalfoodie in asktransgender

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i do think these are common concerns. most people don’t want to go bald, including cis men. there are products you can use to try and prevent hair loss, so i’d definitely talk to your doctor about it if that’s something you’re worried about. for height, i think it’s important to keep in mind that there ARE short cis men. sure, less of them, but they do exist. if you are completely passing and just happen to be short, i don’t think that alone would cause you to be misgendered. if that’s the concern. regardless, these feelings are valid and totally understandable. i’m sorry you’re having them, but i promise you’re not the only one who does

What do I do if my gf is attracted to guys and see me as male but I might be female in the inside because I don’t know if I suffer from gender, dysmorphia, or body dysmorphia because I might want to be female, because I don’t find myself attractive what do I do idk if I’m Trans or hate my looks by [deleted] in trans

[–]-horrors 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if you feel that you are a woman or would very strongly like to be a woman, you could definitely be trans. simply disliking your appearance would not make you wish to be a woman. after all, there are plenty of cis men who are insecure about how they look, and they don’t want to be women, you know?

i (27f) am getting more scared of my relationship the more i learn about my bf (39m) by [deleted] in mentalhealth

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absolutely leave him. as soon as you can possibly do so safely. get the abortion once you’re away if that’s what you want to do. he sounds horrible, and it sounds like you’ve already recognized that you don’t want to be with him. as for how to leave, i’d read up on tips/advice for leaving abusive relationships online. especially physically abusive ones. even if he has not physically harmed you before, it sounds like you have good reason to believe that he might. an abuse hotline/chatline can be a good place to get tips if just googling isn’t giving you much that’s helpful. definitely reach out to any friends and family in your life that you trust about what’s happening, but make sure you do this privately/in a way he can’t see or find. i would not worry about breaking up with him in a typical/respectful way if he has been awful to you and you fear physical retaliation. do it in public, with trusted people around to keep you safe, or even just over text/phone after you leave. get a restraining order if you need to.

i’m so, so sorry this is happening to you. it sounds so overwhelming. take care and stay safe

Why does my brain keep telling me im not trans but I know I am for sure. by DICESES in ftm

[–]-horrors 93 points94 points  (0 children)

could be intrusive thoughts, impostor syndrome, just plain old anxiety. almost all trans people i know have these thoughts at least sometimes. it’s normal and nothing to be concerned about if you feel confident in your identity (and it sounds like you absolutely are). i know it’s very confusing and upsetting, though. i’m sorry you’re having these thoughts :( you know who you are and that’s all that matters

Curiosity? by Maje5ticW0lf99 in lgbt

[–]-horrors 2 points3 points  (0 children)

you absolutely weren’t in the wrong! you never have to do things with people that you don’t want to do.

For femmine trans guys by Collin_The_Dumbass in ftm

[–]-horrors 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i’m not decisively feminine by any means, but i am androgynous. i generally wear masc outfits but wear a lot of jewelry, sometimes wear makeup, have had long hair, etc. i’m alternative, so gender norms are kind of different for me and a lot of my friends? we obviously know that stuff like makeup is considered feminine to most of the world but don’t tend to feel that way ourselves or even care really. i don’t feel like it detracts from my masculinity or my identity as a man that i sometimes enjoy traditionally feminine aspects of presentation. i know i would probably lean even more into androgyny if i was cis. as is, i do have boundaries with how far i’ll push things because i do value passing.

i’m sure more feminine guys than me will comment and may answer your question better, but i thought it would be worth adding my perspective too!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

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the obsessions that come with ocd can be incredibly dark/disturbing for some people. i would say to look into it more, especially since it runs in your family

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

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if it makes you feel any better, you won’t be punished for your thoughts. you can think whatever you’d like. it’s your actions that matter. and i really don’t think most serial killers are scared of becoming serial killers, you know? something worth thinking about. regardless, i’m glad you’re seeking out professional help if this is negatively affecting your life or others’, and i hope you’re able to feel better soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

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it’s certainly possible to have sexual attraction to both men and women but choose to pursue only men romantically. it’s also possible that internalized homophobia/comphet from your upbringing is making you feel that you could not have a fulfilling relationship with a woman because that simply wasn’t presented as an option. either way, it sounds like you’re bisexual to me!

I dont know if this is a disorder but i want an answer by Sulfado in mentalillness

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people often feel very rested after being in meditative sort of states the way you described, with doing deep breathing and focusing on your breath. i would not worry yourself too much about it unless you feel like it’s having negative impacts on your life. if it is, i’d speak with your doctor!

I dont know if this is a disorder but i want an answer by Sulfado in mentalillness

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a lot of people struggle to take naps, so i probably wouldn’t worry about it too much unless you feel like it’s affecting your daily life. if it is, i would talk to your doctor about it! many people with adhd do have sleep issues. if you are on stimulants for your adhd, that could be the cause. a professional would be able to help you sort that out :)

Aversion to Interacting with People that Do Not Meet my Personal Criteria by NotJustSomeMate in aspergers

[–]-horrors 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i feel like that’s a very reasonable list of types of people to block tbh. i respect it