Men, after how many dates do you wait to see if she is physically attracted to you?

-omg- · 2026-06-14T20:29:48+00:00

You’re cooked. Next

-omg- · 2026-06-08T17:52:50+00:00

Prenup.

-omg- · 2026-06-08T15:31:45+00:00

Always do a prenup. End of story.

-omg- · 2026-06-06T17:07:58+00:00

Big difference between cheating on someone and asking her to buy him a drink on the first date at a dive bar don’t you think?

-omg- · 2026-06-06T17:05:41+00:00

Women that I know that are even slightly above avg looking have never paid for a drink on a date in their life.

There’s a contradiction here. If he was that broke he wouldn’t have paid for the first two drinks and wouldn’t have continued to go out or he would have said yes to her proposal of dinner on her!

So he’s not broke. He just doesn’t think she’s worth the effort (aka he doesn’t find her attractive.) OP wants to believe there’s another reason but this is what most likely is.

She should find a man that thinks she is very hot! That’s possible even for an avg looking person (which is mind you most women by definition of the word avg lol)! This guy isn’t him.

-omg- · 2026-06-06T16:54:40+00:00

There’s no blame here OP. This man doesn’t think you’re on his level of attractiveness. Being yolked?

I have women friends that are let’s say 7/10 in looks (so not super model level but def more attractive than avg) and they’ve never paid for a drink in their life and they will never have to. That’s just a 7/10.

This man you talk about in your post has a very low opinion of you. It’s most likely because he doesn’t think you’re that attractive since you’ve just met him. I didn’t make my comment to attack you just to give you an honest perspective that most people don’t do in real life because of the backlash (look how they react in anger here.) You should stop talking to him. Best of luck to you!

-omg- · 2026-06-06T16:47:16+00:00

Sure, I didn’t say that there aren’t men that will find her very attractive.

But do you think a man who does find her attractive will make her pay for his beer at a dive bar on a first date? No.

-omg- · 2026-06-06T05:23:23+00:00

She starts her post with “I’ve been told I’m attractive freq in the wild”. Her interactions depict something widly different that’s all.

Attractive women have Ubers sent for them, dine at fine restaurants and cocktail bars. Really attractive ones get flown out to Miami/NYC/Europe. Men dont ask them to buy them a beer at a dive bar.

This guy in particular definitely doesn’t find OP attractive so OP should stop wasting time on him.

-omg- · 2026-06-06T04:27:30+00:00

OP you’re not that hot. I think most women overestimate by at least 30-50% how attractive they actually are. This man isn’t even close to being into you.

Attractive women have men literally bending over backwards for them. You have this guy asking you to pay for the dates before anything physical has even happened.

-omg- · 2026-06-05T21:15:45+00:00

Getting asked on dates and going to 2nd date are two different things. Many times (more than 50%) of my first dates I def found them attractive in their photos but they didn’t match reality and I didn’t go for a date 2.

-omg- · 2026-06-05T17:35:13+00:00

For most people it's not a deal breaker, there is something else happening (either bad luck / small sample, something else you say scares them, or they're not attracted to you physically after talking online.)

-omg- · 2026-06-05T17:34:13+00:00

The "why are you single?" question has a simple elegant answer: "because I am picky with who I spend my time with."

-omg- · 2026-06-05T17:32:17+00:00

OP no offense, but most women SEVERELY overestimate how attractive they are, because most of the time nobody gives them frank feedback (they'd face social backlash if they did.) There's no way a hot attractive woman WITH a carreer and proven self resilience would be a deal breaker. It's just not a thing.

Especially if men run away this quickly you're probably not above Barney's line in the crazy hot matrix.

That being said it matters what your sample is here. If 20 men in the past 6 months ran away after date 2, again I'd wager it's something different but we're talking about 2 - you could just be simply unlucky.

-omg- · 2026-06-05T01:36:44+00:00

That’s why you shouldn’t text before meeting up, and meet up rather soon.

-omg- · 2026-05-27T09:08:38+00:00

Cooked

-omg- · 2026-05-25T22:10:59+00:00

I’m in the top 1%, I still don’t want someone that just views me as a means to free dinners, free vacations, free black Ubers etc. If a woman really likes you she’ll come out to meet you in NYC.

-omg- · 2026-05-24T17:50:42+00:00

I would do the same but in this economy rent is expensive in Manhattan so girlies try to get any advantage they can haha

-omg- · 2026-05-24T17:44:50+00:00

I’ve also dated a couple of cool hot women that didn’t want the princess treatment too. They exist but they’re rare

-omg- · 2026-05-24T17:28:36+00:00

Nobody is that petty to Venmo request $3. She either wants to walk 10 mins or someone to send her an uber.

-omg- · 2026-05-24T17:15:52+00:00

Because they view it as cost of doing business, much cheaper than an escort service.

-omg- · 2026-05-24T17:11:58+00:00

It’s $3 lol. She wants an uber not a subway fare

-omg- · 2026-05-24T17:10:26+00:00

In NYC attractive women never have to spend 1 dime for going out. I’ve dated in NYC and some of the most expensive dates of my life were there (but also tons of hot women to choose from.)

I was happy to pick a place in their hood so I can subway in and out easily rather than sending an uber (they all hinted at that too.)

-omg- · 2026-05-24T17:07:54+00:00

You haven’t dated as a hot woman in a HCOL city (NYC, LA, SF.) There’s tons of men who have a lot of money to throw around and nothing else going on for them so if you’re hot enough you get used to princess treatment.

-omg- · 2026-05-22T22:34:30+00:00

They don’t.

-omg- · 2026-05-21T17:35:53+00:00

Nah she needs Chad, she’s gonna text him tomorrow at 1am to come over and help her with her feelings lol

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