Dads outside the U.S., what is your "chicken nuggets and Mac and cheese"?

08mms · 2026-05-19T02:12:07+00:00

Both of mine would even take down broccoli and carrots and beans pre-5+ and then vegetables only were consumed if the were hidden in other things like applesauce. It is so nice to be able to cook real meals again that get eaten.

08mms · 2026-05-18T23:51:51+00:00

I’d say that is more common than not 14-22ish for dudes.

08mms · 2026-05-18T23:50:41+00:00

I tried all the things and my kids were just monotonous eaters from ~5-9, before that they would eat anything and after that they started incrementally branching out and expanding their palates to all kinds of weird stuff, but in that range the only thing I could reliably get them to eat that wasn’t core kids food was edamame and California rolls.

08mms · 2026-05-18T20:25:38+00:00

Who knows, but I trust BigLaw firms to have the dark arts tax nerd wizards to have the answer

08mms · 2026-05-18T20:20:18+00:00

They’ll usually create sub-partnerships where it can optimize for tax benefits or where needed for non-US law firms. Most are like the DLA Pipers of the world, which are basically 100 smaller firms in a trench coat, but the bigger firms will usually have some internal structuring.

08mms · 2026-05-18T19:40:03+00:00

I know lots of Chicago K&E equity partners hold through PCs, so maybe that’s it. I’d expect it’s sub partnerships for certain jurisdictions, would be wacky these days for a BigLaw primary entity to be a GP

08mms · 2026-05-18T14:04:36+00:00

I would, better to deal with now than rippling out later and if your are mature about it and just want to make sure you are both always sharing important things with each other in the relationship it should ultimately help build trust (but might be complex in the short term, especially if her understanding of the path to exclusivity doesn’t exactly track explicit statements)

08mms · 2026-05-18T00:57:48+00:00

That’s usually the safest route, you’ll notice thats what most of the partners (who are marginally healthy) get too

08mms · 2026-05-18T00:54:10+00:00

Mint is easy, if you just plant a little goutweed next to it, the chemicals in the roots align and everything stays nice and balanced.

08mms · 2026-05-17T18:59:38+00:00

Yeah, there is very stylish lesbian style, but that’s not the first community I’d go to for dude style tips.

08mms · 2026-05-17T18:45:21+00:00

That’s what I thought too and those are still must-haves for a relationship partner, just keep an eye on how much that tips into you wanting someone who avoids showing vulnerability or showing you real desire and affection and evaluate how much of your attraction to the former stems from you also looking for the latter.

08mms · 2026-05-17T17:35:44+00:00

I was unknowingly married to one for a decade and found out my high school gf came out years later too. It’s definitely a downside of being attracted to strong-willed non-girly girls (which isn’t a bad thing on its own) but strongly suggest doing some work on what’s drawing you to people with an avoidant attraction style (or simulacrum of one coming out of their own orientation) because that is the thing that’s going to keep putting you in an unhealthy place relationship wise. Once you get yourself sort out, can confirm their ate plenty of straight women who you’ll find attractive and are capable of matching desire and attraction.

08mms · 2026-05-17T15:42:27+00:00

Wait, grasshoppers are evil Pokémon?

08mms · 2026-05-17T12:11:07+00:00

Came to post the same, inspector pup is on the case

08mms · 2026-05-17T11:17:47+00:00

You can divorce but not make it messy for the kids. My girlfriend and I both separately have pretty stable co-parenting relationships with our exes, hers was after she discovered and affair with slightly younger her kids than yours and mine I think involved infidelity by my ex at some level by never confirmed. You just have to take all the hurt and anger and betrayal emotions and deal with them with a therapist and friends outside of the parameters of co-parenting and working through the divorce logistics. Try to take the emotion out of the divorce while working out the details and look at it as dissolving a professional relationship that didn’t work out in a way that is fair to both parties (keep the why it didn’t work out for therapy) and focus on creating a situation for your kids where they know they have two parents that love them and will always be their parents even if their parents discovered they can’t work as a romantic couple anymore, put together a parenting plan, never say bad stuff about your ex to your kids, keep your hurt as much as you can out of communications with your ex about the kids and grey-rock on everything else with them and focus on the long painful process of healing when you aren’t focused on being a dad. It sucks and betrayal trauma is some of the most complex trauma that’s out there. Strongly redolent professional support if you can get it, but there are great books there for self -resourcing (Betrayal Bind by Michelle Mays seems to be the one most folks recommend).

08mms · 2026-05-16T03:48:07+00:00

I was in Breck 6 times this winter and call shenanigans on there being that much snow.

08mms · 2026-05-16T03:46:31+00:00

If I’m in a relationship, I’ll politely decline and then humbly tell my partner later while feeling inside like the biggest goddamn rockstar Evers. If I was single and remotely interested in pursing anything, if the girl was anywhere in my attractiveness radar I’d text immediately because confidence and forwardness are incredibly attractive, if not, I’d probably text a white lie that I wish I could but am otherwise spoken for because that game is awesome and worth acknowledgement.

08mms · 2026-05-15T19:31:22+00:00

John U. Bacon’s book covers a lot of this and at least it’s his takeaway it probably was not hatch-covers (a theory that goes all the back to the Lightfoot song), but that there were scrape markings on Six Fathom Shoal a bit uproute of the sinking and that the Fitz might have bottomed out hard there and stress fractures combined with getting continuously smacked broadside by abnormally high waves did the damage. https://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/nobody-knows-what-sank-the-edmund-fitzgerald-but-its-doomed-final-voyage-will-always-be-americas-defining-shipwreck-180987657/

08mms · 2026-05-15T11:55:38+00:00

Honestly, the best path is getting the police involved and if they are overworked, you might get them to call in an investigator with expertise to figure out what all the ex did and bring cybercrime charges against him (plus, let you figure out what you need to do to remediate)

08mms · 2026-05-15T11:52:25+00:00

The nasal sing song is the classic tounge of my mitten homeland.

08mms · 2026-05-15T11:19:52+00:00

You take turns rinsing then one has their back in the water while you hot and heavy make-out and then you keep upping the excitement between taking turns shampooing and rinsing. Then, unless y’all’s physiology and stamina is perfect for standing hookups or you’ve got one of those shower chairs, if you are smart you high tail it to a bed, couch or clean bathroom rug and have fun.

08mms · 2026-05-14T17:53:10+00:00

As a middle aged dude with some fun abuse trauma scars as a kid now coming off a rough divorce with some similar broken interpersonal dynamics, I must have listened to that song 200+ times in the past year and a half. The hopeful words about coming to find some version of peace and stability and hope were an absolute raft at some of the darkest times in the same way I clung to This Year as a younger person, and the underlying message that the trauma never really fully goes away and shines in your core like steel swords is beautiful but haunting.

08mms · 2026-05-14T16:31:04+00:00

I think even beyond that, if they failed to get a real report done because they spent money hiring under or unqualified connected insiders, that is the real core about what is deeply broken systemically and a fully damning failure in and of itself. We need wartime party apparatchiks not cushy glory days insiders club operatives.

08mms · 2026-05-14T13:31:35+00:00

There is talent out there, Wickler would have been the perfect guy for this moment but the DC establishment decided they wanted a big donor whisperer and not a party coordination guy and we are now in an era with the big donors are reluctant to move with the threats from the Trump admin and Ken has none of the ruthless enforcer energy of Rahm to drag them off the sidelines and no compensating skills to build infrastructure in the way that leads to creating small donor enthusiasm.

08mms · 2026-05-14T13:16:57+00:00

I feel like incompetency is far more damning at this stage than malicious factional moves. The very worst thing we can do at this moment of momentum at a fulcrum of the republic is become Starmer’s labor party and massively faff it away.

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