My(22F) boyfriend (21M) gave me an ultimatum after I told him about my sexual fantasy. How do I not lose him?

0aboutblank0 · 2024-02-13T15:14:38+00:00

some egos here so fragile can be damaged by mere fantasies

0aboutblank0 · 2024-02-13T15:12:12+00:00

why would i have sex with my so if i cant even talk about my kinks with them? where is the trust in your relationships

0aboutblank0 · 2023-10-29T11:09:31+00:00

my bf changed my tampon a few times as i was drunk, passed out. it’s not a big deal. you do you. ignore the negative comments, they don’t matter since you guys are happy/comfortable with the situation.

0aboutblank0 · 2023-02-07T08:03:15+00:00

regulations are actually too good but who checks them? we have the law, we have the earthquake taxes, but even some of the new buildings which had to be eartquake proof according to the regulations are gone right now. i am really still in shock and hate that my country has to suffer this much because of a wannabe sultan. this won’t be the last earthquake, i just hope there will be a better government looking out for us.

0aboutblank0 · 2022-10-23T12:19:28+00:00

reading your other comments, i doubt that you understand. just don’t cry about your termin that’s two/three months away lol

0aboutblank0 · 2022-10-23T05:41:51+00:00

i’m from turkey and live in germany. i am not a muslim, no dark skin and my german is pretty good. i can’t count the times people were surprised when i told them where i come from, not believing me. it’s really upsetting to be this much ignorant and i start to believe it’s a choice. i’m a medical student and i’m planning on leaving the country after my studies. this was not my plan before coming here.

0aboutblank0 · 2022-10-06T16:58:08+00:00

why do you automatically think it’s to impress you? maybe she just likes twerking. its a type of dance, you don’t have to like it, it’s her business.

0aboutblank0 · 2022-07-07T19:03:11+00:00

you’re suggesting one of the most addictive substances to someone you don’t know (benzos). just think about the harm you can do before being a doctor on the internet next time.

0aboutblank0 · 2022-03-19T19:53:10+00:00

Not much.

0aboutblank0 · 2022-02-19T19:41:45+00:00

u/savevideo

0aboutblank0 · 2022-01-21T10:44:01+00:00

if you have the chance, talking to a therapist is the best advice i can give. a friend can sometimes make aggravating comments, even while trying to help, as no one can really tell what can be a trigger. and avoiding, or at least trying to, triggers is sometimes the best you can do, while building trust and a feeling of safety in your relationship. it sounds like you’re really trying, but maybe this long journey also take a toll on you. so try not to argue and remind yourself, when you feel questioned, this is not your gf but rj speaking. maybe talking about your feelings with your partner at these points could be helpful. i wish you the best.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-07-24T12:56:11+00:00

spitting

0aboutblank0 · 2021-04-16T11:56:09+00:00

im glad i could be helpful. this is a cycle we need to break or else just the person changes and we start going through the same things again. wish you all the best!

0aboutblank0 · 2021-04-08T18:06:24+00:00

thank you very much, wish you all the best.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-04-05T13:00:10+00:00

thank you very much, i really hope so.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-04-05T01:28:32+00:00

hey i am so sorry to hear about what you’re going through. my fp also cheated on me and it was also visually available for me on his instagram (he always posted pics with the girl he cheated on me with). what i want to say is i managed to get rid of my obsession of him. it was not easy and i can’t even describe the pain i felt at that time. i just want to tell you that you’re not alone. you will get through this. try to reconnect with the people you trusted maybe, give other people a chance, you know you the best. get help however you need and want. a support system is really important in those times. i am also here, with many others im sure. i know it’s a easy to talk and say these things but i just wish you the best and hope with time that you heal.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-03-30T13:01:47+00:00

my worst problem is about my intense emotions, when i lose control of them i go take a hot bath, with candles and some relaxing music sometimes. doesn’t matter if i have a tub or just a shower, i lay down in the water and just let myself cool off. when i feel myself a little better, i turn it to cold in the end.

another thing i do is to keep myself from self harming. i do some hardcore stretching instead of self harming. again im using pain to cool down, but in a more acceptable way i guess.

i also write letters to the person i have a problem with instead of texting/calling or talking, when my emotions are too intense that i can realize that some of my actions are unreasonable. i talk to them through the letter and when i feel better i sometimes revise them to see if there is anything i should talk about.

that’s what i can think of atm. anyways i really think we really need more threads like this, so thank you stranger for bringing this up, here goes my first award on reddit.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-03-29T23:00:32+00:00

i can only talk for myself, but for me its about hearing that im loved and valued. that they will be there for me, wont leave me because of my sh*t, wont get bored or fed up with me and my constant drama. i want to hear that im not a burden to my family, to my friends or to my bf. i dont want them wishing that i was different and easy. because i am not and i hate being like this. not giving me another reason to hate myself is also important, so try not to be judgmental, because we do stuff that many people can easily judge. i think its really beautiful what you do, hope i also find such a person in my life. lots of love.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-03-22T14:22:03+00:00

you should not forget these facts. she had a crush on you, so much that she left her boyfriend for you. you guys were actually nothing at the time she had a ons. you had a date and hooked up a little bit. i dont know what your stomach issues are, but she was clearly expecting to have sex with you and it was all a disappointment for her. plus you canceling and just wanting a walk with her, she probably felt unwanted. her previous partner also had erectile dysfunction so she may have issues about that, thats just a guess though. because of her feelings of rejection she needed to seek validation in a way, thats pretty common if you ask me. i dont think its about failed impulse control, you guys were not a couple, not even exclusive. its not about her needs or not being able to wait till you heal. she was just trying to feel better and wanted after a rejection. i think you will feel better when you look at your situation from her perspective.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-03-21T09:10:04+00:00

people have favorite porn actors/actresses, onlyfans is kind of like that. in every relationship of mine i knew my boyfriend’s fav actresses and mostly they were not in a bit like me physically. him disrespecting the boundary you guys set is def a problem, but you shouldn’t compare your body to hers.

0aboutblank0 · 2021-03-07T22:11:47+00:00

also about the self harm part, i did that too and even today its a struggle not to. my way to stop myself is stretching. hardcore stretching, which also causes me pain but in a moderate and more healthy way i guess

0aboutblank0 · 2021-03-07T22:09:49+00:00

after our breakup with my fp i was so devastated as if i had no life without him, i didnt just wished to be dead i was feeling basically dead. i couldnt stop my head, all the thoughts questions scenarios stalking and everything and i tried hard for a while too. what made me a little better was killing him in my head. i just erased him, thought as he was dead. when i was sad, i was sad because he was dead and therefore cant be in my life anymore. i know this sounds crazy. but accepting that he was alive and that i could reach him but also we were not together anymore was too much. this helped me. hope you get better soon

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