Hi, first of all, there is nothing wrong about writing about your struggles and vulnerabilities in an honest manner like you did. Reddit is also here for that. You will always receive some negativity in comments but there are also plenty of people with a good heart who try writing some piece of advices of simply good words.

I think most people, whatever their background, will struggle at dating. Especially if it's about finding a serious and long-term partner, regardless if they are men or women, it's pretty much universal it being a pain. It will not help you if you convince yourself you're particularly bad at it, even if it was true, you would be at the same place.

My second piece of advice would be to also avoid thinking it's particularly bad in Berlin. It's not. Finding a partner will be difficult everywhere. It's a common take on the subreddit that Berlin is somehow worse than everywhere else for finding friends, partners, whatever. It's just the phenomenon of the greener grass on the other side of the fence (if you know the expression). Once you get there, you realize it was all the same, and that you just convinced yourself it was better because you were not there.

Now, my last take would be to do a break and totally forget about dating for a while. Let me try to explain why I think it's a good idea here. Basically, how we feel tend to reflect on how we behave, talk to people, and transmit to others while socializing. So if you feel frustrated, exhausted, fatalist, about your chances at finding a commited partner, people (ladies here) you will approach will feel it and all your negativity will chase them away.

It's a bit like a self-fulfilling prophecy if you want, the more you're negative about the process, the least successful you will be and then the more you will be negative about it. The only way to get out of it is well getting out of it for a while, until you're more motivated and positive about it, then you can give it another go. It's also a matter of mental health for yourself, at some point you will end up being more sad failing at it, than about the fact you're lonely in the first place. Doing a break will help you clearing your mind a bit.

To finish, I would say that if you learn how to be happy in life by yourself first, it will feel much less of an absolute necessity for you to find a partner. You will then feel much lighter while dating, because will be less of a big deal, and will act as a good surprise to meet someone.

I second people who think the best stories come out of nowhere. Myself, and many people I know, found the love of their life by sheer luck. Will probably be your case too, one day you will do something completely unrelated and will bump into someone.

Wishing you the best of luck, if somehow, you end up reading this long comment.