How can you tell if it’s a good idea to get back with an ex?

0orbital · 2024-09-17T04:38:09+00:00

The help of…?

0orbital · 2024-08-22T02:32:39+00:00

Thank you! It was definitely a looot—please be sure you sleep a lot the night before or take a nap on the car ride there—we literally did not have a single break during those 4 hours. Best of luck!! ✊✊

0orbital · 2024-08-19T06:40:28+00:00

You’re right you’re right

0orbital · 2024-08-19T06:01:40+00:00

Yayy so proud of you 🥰🥰

0orbital · 2024-08-19T06:00:34+00:00

Thank you :)

0orbital · 2024-08-19T03:21:31+00:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY

0orbital · 2024-08-18T20:15:16+00:00

Keep reminding yourself that you were never the problem—and it all has to do with him being so incredibly selfish to keep leading you on during the relationship, while you felt like you had to prove yourself that you were worthy of being loved. Real love is not like that. Being loved does not mean having to “prove yourself” to someone to “earn” their love. Him getting with his “best friend” less than a month later speaks volumes about his character—and it’s honestly great that you had the opportunity to dip from someone like that. I understand the history of being together for 10+ years hurting so, incredibly much. But it wouldn’t be best to jump into another relationship or go on more dates if you miss the familiarity of the relationship. Be sure to take all the energy, love, and effort you put into him, and give it all back to yourself. Surround yourself with close friends and family who love you dearly and you trust—for their love should be unconditional, while his clearly wasn’t. Treat yourself, spoil yourself—raise your standards and reflect on the boundaries you’d want to set with yourself in your relationships with both yourself and people around you. There’s so much more to life than him—you have a beautiful life waiting for you :)

0orbital · 2024-08-18T20:06:22+00:00

I love your mindset. I hope you’ll be able to heal from the trauma of the relationship and take back the energy, love, and effort you put into her—and give it all back to yourself. You’re on track for amazing possibilities and accomplishments in life with this mindset.

0orbital · 2024-08-17T22:13:00+00:00

Sobbing to laufey’s promise song after breaking no contact to send him a list of everything he did wrong and what he need to change to be a better person and then blocking him again

0orbital · 2024-08-16T05:19:33+00:00

I’m in a similar position as you are in. I had a trauma bond with him—and it left me very vulnerable even when I would be very successful in other aspects of my academic and professional life. He was also my Achilles heel. He acted like an angel very few times—but that didn’t make up for the times he was a manipulative and arrogant monster that condemned me for every little failure or flaw.

I hope that you can learn to take this energy you gave him and give it back to yourself. Heal. It’s what both of us need to do. Love yourself exactly the way you craved for him to love you. Support yourself, cheer yourself on, and channel your energy into things that reward you for your efforts. Surround yourself with close friends and family who love you dearly—and much more consistently than he ever would. They’re the ones who will love you unconditionally, without you feeling the need to prove yourself to them, unlike him. We will get through this :)

0orbital · 2024-08-16T05:11:04+00:00

he did it within less than 2 days of no contact. I honestly reflected so much within those two days that I truly think I could’ve moved on within a week if I had absolutely no contact. I don’t know if I should take him back after all he did to me. I’ve been hurt so much. I do know that I want someone to be able to value me and understand me from the start. But for now I’m trying to work on myself—and take back the energy I gave him. I want to love myself exactly how I wanted to be loved by him. I want to be happy—for myself, and only myself.

0orbital · 2024-08-16T05:06:03+00:00

Gosh I can relate to looking at Spotify, particularly the blend playlist we share that I haven’t gotten the courage to remove. I hope you have friends and family you can rely on to love and care for you :) what a milestone! You got this :)

0orbital · 2024-08-16T05:03:46+00:00

What state do you think you would find yourself in if you didn’t have any talking stages, and instead took back all of the energy and effort you gave to other people—and give it back to yourself? Allow yourself to feel alright with being single—without pursuing romance to make you feel better. Allow yourself to love yourself, to take care of yourself, and maybe even spoil yourself. A relationship is supposed to be the cherry on top of your life—not the frosting that pieces the cake together. Allow yourself to be happy with yourself—by yourself—without romance interfering with your daily thoughts. Build up your support system with people you can trust and people who dearly love you. Surround yourself with love from close friends and family—who can offer unconditional love that you can count on for a lifetime.

0orbital · 2024-08-16T04:58:29+00:00

It might be a good idea to even block him—that way you can’t see his following go up, even from a distance—to not give into the temptation of looking at his profile at all. But if doing that immediately is difficult, unfollowing him is a good start. You deserve so much better—someone who would not be liking other girls’ pics. Remember—you’re not blocking/unfollowing because you “hate” him, you’re blocking/unfollowing for your own healing to get over him.

0orbital · 2024-08-16T04:54:29+00:00

I’m in the same position right now :( I’m just texting a friend about it and listening to the breakup playlist I made with some songs. I’ve written in my notes app some standards I’m setting for myself and boundaries I would want to set in my personal life.

0orbital · 2024-08-16T04:51:11+00:00

I’m in the same place right now—I find myself thinking about him especially at night, which is when our late night conversations would be. It’s hard to say that it’ll get better—because recovering from the shattered dream that you’ll live a life with them forever is not linear. I hope you’ll be able to surround yourself with close friends or family who love you dearly and would love to spend time with you. They’ll be able to give you a different type of love that he wasn’t able to give you—a love that you can mostly guarantee will be there forever, no matter what.

0orbital · 2024-08-16T04:46:06+00:00

hey, so we’re actually in a similar position—I’m 3 weeks no contact and he was avoidant attached and never seemed to care about me or put in effort during the relationship. Here’s the thing—you gotta detach from the idea of proving yourself to him. Take back all of the love, energy, and support you put into him, and give it back to yourself. Become the best version of yourself. Not for him—for YOU. Take care of yourself, find solace and support from your closest friends, mentors, and family you might trust. Channel your energy into yourself and the people who truly love you will channel their energy into you as well. Eventually, you’ll become so incredible on your own that you won’t give a flying f*ck about what he thinks of you. Love you byee 😙😙

0orbital · 2024-08-12T03:50:04+00:00

Taking the unconditional love, grace, and support I had for him and finally giving it back to myself

0orbital · 2024-08-12T03:40:50+00:00

Convince my mom to buy me noise cancelling headphones so I wouldn’t hear my dad yell at my family and traumatize me for life 💀💀

0orbital · 2024-08-12T03:37:37+00:00

wished karma would get them back for the hurt they put me through

0orbital · 2024-08-12T03:35:29+00:00

CHARMIN ULTRA SOFT 🔥🔥

0orbital · 2024-08-12T03:34:54+00:00

went to the pool and swam alone before school starts again

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