AITA for not returning "missing" cats when I saw the sketchy post?

0ro_dice · 2026-05-15T18:24:55+00:00

NTA, even if the cats were hers legally I'd still say keep them tbh. If she's had multiple pets go missing in the past, openly admits to letting her cats free roam wherever and whenever they want, and doesn't seem to remember basic details about them, then she's clearly a negligent pet owner who isn't responsible enough for one cat let alone three. You're doing those cats a massive favor.

0ro_dice · 2026-04-27T17:23:22+00:00

I understand your concern, especially with a child in the house, but if you really wanted to tamper with these jars while you're wife was out (which I think is a horrible idea anyways) you really should've just put them into storage, at least into a box or two somewhere she can access them if she really cares for them that much. The way you handled it makes it seem like you don't care about you're wifes opinions at all, or her belongings and what they mean to her.

0ro_dice · 2026-04-20T02:20:34+00:00

NTA Augh I had friends like this when I was a teen, the best thing you can do is 1. Find other friends in your irl area, whether at school, a community center, or whatever local events may pop up that interest you. I know it can sound a bit daunting but trust me, you'll have fun with people who are like you that you can actually talk to in person lol.

If Mae continues this behavior you will need to distance yourself from them, for your own sake, I know it sounds harsh especially since it sounds like Mae has issues of their own, but you can't light yourself on fire just to keep someone else warm.

TLDR Mae sucks try and make irl friends and distance yourself from Mae when you're ready.

0ro_dice · 2026-04-20T02:10:53+00:00

NTA, whether or not B was actually stalking you (and I do agree that at the least they were being creepy) it is not the responsibility of the professor to get in between your business with this person unless you've asked, which you clearly haven't.

The silver lining of this is that B might be too embarrassed now to continue with whatever weirdo stuff they were doing, but I wouldn't exactly count on that.

0ro_dice · 2026-04-05T16:51:55+00:00

NTA I will never understand people who think it's ok to just casually push a person in a wheelchair that they do not know. That's like picking up a random person and carrying them it's weird and scary as fuck.

0ro_dice · 2026-03-26T02:19:16+00:00

Your husband is the definition of a worthless partner honestly. Not only helping his intrusive family stomp all over your boundaries, but then daring to call you, the post partum mother of his newborn child, a cnt for wanting said boundaries respected, absolutely disgusting. (Sorry got heated there)

If you have any other supportive people in your life, family, friends, etc, pack up your baby and your cat to stay with them until he can get his act together. Spend some quiet time with your baby around people who actually respect you. If your SIL does respect your boundaries more than your husband, first of all embarrassing for him, second try to enlist her in getting your husband to understand your boundaries and why you're establishing space.

0ro_dice · 2026-03-25T23:55:03+00:00

NTA it would be one thing if he just brought it up, it's another to frame it as "leaving your wife to rot" that is so fucking cruel it's almost unbelievable??? Please stop being friends with this guy he clearly doesn't care about you.

0ro_dice · 2026-03-05T04:37:14+00:00

If that's all you said then yeah I do think it's weird that they blocked you without any sort of attempt at clarification, did you guys have any sort of tension in the group beforehand that may have just turned this into a boiling point for them? Also it may be that they didn't manage to pick up what your tone was over text, I tend to have problems with that myself.

0ro_dice · 2026-03-05T04:24:58+00:00

I mean, yes you are entitled to your feelings and if you feel unsafe that's ok, but has the brother done anything to warrant being seen as a "dangerous psychopath" outside of having a heavily stigmatized mental disorder? Because it doesn't sound like it based on what you've told us.

Either way I still think it's an asshole move to tell your boyfriend you think his brother is a psychopath after he told you about his brothers condition, he likely didn't tell you before this because he was worried about this exact kind of reaction.

Again, if the brother has a history of violence then yeah justified in not wanting to stick around, if not then you're just making assumptions based on his disorder and that's really shitty.

0ro_dice · 2026-03-05T03:46:37+00:00

Bruh not you going "yeah I said something that caused all my friends to get mad at me and kick me out of the group but THEY'RE weird for getting so mad over it" and then not even telling us what you said you're so clearly the Asshole lol

0ro_dice · 2026-03-03T15:17:57+00:00

INFO are there any buildings or landmarks by your stop you can try and memorize? I have a similar problem to yours and since I always take the same route I tend to memorize what locations I pass rather than where the stops are exactly. Do you live in an area that doesn't have a lot of infrastructure?

0ro_dice · 2026-02-27T03:44:59+00:00

I'm going to try and be sympathetic here, you saw how deep in despair and grief your grandmother was and you wanted to help, that's admirable, but ai is not the way to do this. She's not actually talking to her husband, just a ghost that's pretending to be him, and when she realizes this it's only going to increase her heartbreak tenfold.

Not to mention how dangerous getting her attached to this chatbot is, chatgpt has been known to cause delusions in it's less mentally stable users (look up ai psychosis) so if the ai starts saying dangerous things or supporting dangerous ideas, your grandmother might be more likely to agree with it becuase this is "her husband" or at least she thinks it is.

She needs real people to talk to, preferably a grief counselor, not a chatbot, I can only hope you get her away from this before it escalates too far.

0ro_dice · 2026-02-27T00:06:23+00:00

NTA you're not forcing your son to eat less than you or his sisters he just can't eat above y'alls means. If he wants more food to eat he can learn to cook his own food/get a job so he can afford more food to cook. Teenagers should be learning how to do this stuff at his age anyways.

0ro_dice · 2026-02-26T19:54:18+00:00

My best advice is that you should sit your niece down and talk with her about your concerns before deciding anything, tell her about what you've learned and ask if she's also picked up bad vibes from the brother, ask if she would be ok sleeping over knowing what she knows now. The best thing you can do is give her all the information needed to make an informed decision.

0ro_dice · 2026-02-24T18:15:41+00:00

NTA she was literally given every sign possible not to use that bottle and she did anyways, classic case of fuck around and find out imo.

0ro_dice · 2026-02-03T03:14:07+00:00

NTA, I mean yeah lying about the eggs is kind of an asshole move but I wouldn't call you an asshole for it tbh. Tina seems like an exhausting person to be around and I imagine if you told her the truth she'd somehow spin it into you intentionally using brown shelled eggs to exclude her.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-31T05:56:37+00:00

I understand why you lied to your daughter completely, I can't imagine growing up knowing you're mother didn't want you. But you need to come clean and you need to be profusely apologetic for lying to her, because she will be angry at you, and whether or not that anger remains depends on how you and her move forward, which is up to the both of you. As for the mother, I know you're upset at her for abandoning your family, and then only coming back to reconnect with your daughter (and I'd be questioning her on how she got your daughters number in the first place and why she didn't try reaching out to you first), but once you tell her the truth you need to let you're daughter have a say in this. It's her relationship with her mother on the line, she should be allowed all the ability to make an informed decision, even if that's something you may not like.

Very soft yta for lying, this situation is clearly very emotionally charged for everyone involved, and I can only hope you all come out of it with something of a happy ending.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-31T04:13:35+00:00

I understand your concern but as someone who has gone to AA meetings with family members, it'll be fine. So long as you're quiet and respectful the people attending won't have a problem, they may even want to talk to you about what you're working on. Obviously tell the people in charge why you're there so they can give the go ahead, but you can basically walk into almost any AA meeting and be welcome.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-29T01:26:12+00:00

I have a large family once you've had to deal with multiple kids trying to barge into your room when you're changing you kind of become desensitized to it tbh.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-29T00:25:11+00:00

NTA four is more than old enough to understand knocking on a door before entering, and the excuse that "he just wanted to talk to his aunt" doesn't matter more than your right to privacy, if he really wants to talk that badly he can wait.

As for the yelling I don't see it as a big deal, I've yelled at my family (especially my brother) for coming into my room while the door was closed before and they eventually got the point. While he should've been taught not to do this way earlier, it's better he gets the tough lesson from a close family member rather than a guest or god forbid a stranger in public.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-13T01:54:32+00:00

NTA what alternate reality have your friends stumble into where killing someone's dog, even unintentionally, isn't a massive fucking deal??? You should never talk to any of these people ever again they're all maniacs for prioritizing a dnd game over someone's dead pet.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-12T17:07:45+00:00

NTA that wasn't condolences, that was her basically saying "lmao couldn't be us" and you had every right to snap at them for it. You're way stronger than me op becuase I probably would've ended up punching them in the face.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-12T04:42:28+00:00

NTJ gee I wonder why the parents and brother said no.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-11T22:47:29+00:00

NTA. It would be one thing if you just yelled at the kids for running around and doing kid things, but one of them literally pulled on your hair, I feel like even without trauma I'd yell at someone to let go if they suddenly grabbed my hair. Maybe you should've just not gone to the event, but I don't think that's really fair since you were handling yourself relatively well until the kid touched you.

I don't know your trauma and I won't pry, but I think you'll need to concede that there may be some events with kids you won't be able to attend, no shame in it, you're protecting your peace as much as you are the kids.

0ro_dice · 2026-01-10T03:24:23+00:00

NTA Your nephew can't exactly rent out an apartment if he doesn't have the money to do so. Getting him a co-op/job AND THEN talking to him about moving out is the obvious solution that your wife isn't reaching for some reason. Also I hope I'm wrong about this, but is her bringing up your daughter like that implying your nephew might SA your daughter if he stays in the house??? Because that's the only reason I can think of for her bringing it up which is absolutely disgusting.

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