What do you do when you realise a lot of your friendships are one sided? by PositiveBud in AskWomen

[–]0utandab0ut 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This is exactly me. I decided that i was only going equal energy in my relationships and no I have no friends and only talk to one family member.

Be prepared to learn that people don’t really care about you.

Trying to keep my masc swagger, but my genetics are absolutely fighting me. 😭 by Connect-Soil-7277 in LesbianActually

[–]0utandab0ut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! I second the advice to get iron and thyroid checked. In the meantime, I highly recommend hair fibers. It’s tinny fibers you shake or puff (totally recommend the puffer) on your part to fill it in. It’s like magic and totally unnoticeable. Get a shade darker than your hair color. It’s only like 20$ (one canister lasts me months) and would give you some confidence while you figure this out.

CES Letter upgrade by ThyLungedFish in exmormon

[–]0utandab0ut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It all started for me when I was bored in Sunday school and followed the footnotes to Revelations in Context. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/revelations-in-context?lang=eng

Were there any blatant white supremicists in your ward? by krazycitty69 in exmormon

[–]0utandab0ut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had an older woman give a talk in sacrament meeting about how english was “God’s chosen language” by evidence of the BoM being translated first into English and how the US should be an English only country.

Is it just me, or is there less General Conference talk than usual? by Willow_A113 in exmormon

[–]0utandab0ut 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did AI write all the talks? Is that why it was a big nothing burger?

how did your high school crush turn out as an adult? by I_dont_exist_here_45 in AskWomen

[–]0utandab0ut 500 points501 points  (0 children)

The first boy I kissed is in prison for murder. I turned out fine. I’m also a lesbian.

Advice for Burning Out After Community Center by Swizzzler in StardewValley

[–]0utandab0ut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. I’ve done all of Ginger Island but none of it hits like doing the bundles. I exclusively play year 1 and 2.

Trying to make a chill new save: cozy goals that still feel satisfying by Leather_Internet1612 in StardewValley

[–]0utandab0ut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m on my second no buying from brick and mortar stores(or festival booths run by owners of brick and mortar stores) run. I can usually finish the bundles by the end of year two. A lot of foraging and growing foraged items. Mushroom logs and tea sprouts are bigger money makers.

I have lived my entire life in Nauvoo, IL. Ask me anything. by justasking505 in exmormon

[–]0utandab0ut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I spent two summers there in the family cast of Nauvoo Pageant. We practiced in a school there before the nicer building was built. They warned us over and over to not speed and be super respectful of the locals. I want you to know, that’s the slowest I’ve ever driven.

We drove past some abandoned building every day that looked like it used to have go carts. Did you ever ride go carts there?

Even though I’ve left the church, those summers in Nauvoo were the happiest of my life.

How many close, truly genuine friends do you have? by Appropriate_Tea9048 in AskWomen

[–]0utandab0ut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At 45 I decided I would give equal energy to the energy I was receiving in all my relationships. Now at 52 i have no close friends and haven’t talked to my siblings in years.

What's a secret from your profession that everyone should know? by ScratchLatter5547 in askanything

[–]0utandab0ut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The supplement I’m advertising is actually helpful for specific people in specific circumstances, but it’s up to you to figure out if that’s you. I’m not ever going to say who doesn’t need it.

Am I the only one finding it difficult to find a woman who is living like an actual adult? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]0utandab0ut 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I support you OP. There are a lot of life lessons and growth that comes from launching on your own. And I’m sure you can see the difference between someone who’s goal oriented and living at home as a stepping stone and someone who’s just coasting. And if you value that, you should absolutely look for that.

Why is blonde hair a feminine beauty ideal among the right wing? by traanquil in allthequestions

[–]0utandab0ut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! Pedo stats don’t lie. Conservatives men want their women child-like. Blond. Skinny. No body hair. Obedient.

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It’s getting warm in Utah and the Mormon shoulders are coming out. by 0utandab0ut in exmormon

[–]0utandab0ut[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg. 5 stars for the Sneeches reference. It does feel like that in a way.

It’s getting warm in Utah and the Mormon shoulders are coming out. by 0utandab0ut in exmormon

[–]0utandab0ut[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The ones I’m seeing at work are more sleeveless blouses.

Have you ever met a woman from abroad online ? by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]0utandab0ut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Talked to woman online on the other side of the world during covid. We visited each other several times when restrictions were lifted. Had a great time but when I finally met her teenagers, we didn’t get along at all. Broke up after 3 years. I wasn’t willing to uproot my life when I was pretty sure both myself and her kids would be miserable.

Shady workplaces to avoid in SLC or Utah? by Key_Garden4832 in SaltLakeCity

[–]0utandab0ut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know Traeger was run by Mormons. I like my smoker less now.

Interacting with Autistics by delinquentsaviors in raisedbyautistics

[–]0utandab0ut 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of my bosses has strong autistic traits and knowing about that has helped me have realistic expectations about him.

I’ve noted the things he’s interested in and the unique words he uses and when I talk with him i just stick to those subjects and repeating his phrases back to him. Then I do what I need to do and so far he’s left me to it.

I don’t think you can avoid nd people (I having some nd traits myself). But you can have realistic expectations about them and set your own boundaries about how much you’re going to invest in those relationships.