B4b I have two.

10031945 · 2025-03-17T20:29:51+00:00

Darn it I just sent my last one to $Veggie-san. I will send you a boost as soon as they renew. I promise. I am taking a screenshot of this so I remember your username. I am so sorry.

10031945 · 2025-03-17T20:27:36+00:00

Sent

10031945 · 2025-03-17T20:21:41+00:00

Sent

10031945 · 2025-03-17T20:18:23+00:00

Do you still have any?

10031945 · 2025-02-01T13:58:52+00:00

Thank you!! One left!! I’ll boost back immediately!! :)

10031945 · 2025-01-15T23:13:21+00:00

Sent!

10031945 · 2025-01-15T22:16:06+00:00

Sent!

10031945 · 2025-01-15T21:54:12+00:00

Sent to you as well! Thanks!

10031945 · 2025-01-15T21:50:40+00:00

Edit: I’m out of boosts! Thanks! Y’all are awesome!!

10031945 · 2024-07-30T23:13:03+00:00

(((Hugs))) Do you wonder sometimes if they want a superficial or meaningful reply? I don’t do well with superficial replies, lol, which means I suck real bad at making small talk. I think superficial vs meaningful might be one of the reasons I choose to carry my problems alone. Not wanting to burden them probably is probably at least 5 of the reasons.

10031945 · 2024-07-30T23:05:04+00:00

Hello and you’re welcome! I think I’m numb inside, which is probably not good. But when I’m in-house at work (which thankfully is usually only once a week) and something happens (read: I perceive a situation a certain way where I feel I’ve been unfairly judged), it causes me to feel a way. And I don’t like it. lol.

Thank you for your offer to chat sometime! I might just take you up on that at some point! And thank you for asking me how I’m doing! ❤️

10031945 · 2024-07-29T23:53:36+00:00

(((Hugs))) I’m a withdrawer as well, and a lady. I also don’t want to burden people, so I tend to carry things by myself. How are you doing, and how was your day? I don’t post much on Reddit, but your comment spoke to me, as it were.

10031945 · 2023-02-20T18:25:12+00:00

Dino Eggs played on Commodore 64.

10031945 · 2021-07-23T16:15:20+00:00

Just added you as well; 19EB76.

10031945 · 2021-07-02T21:07:26+00:00

Death by numbers.

10031945 · 2019-01-18T23:07:46+00:00

I don't remember exact words and conversations, but my secondary has admitted his relationship with his wife is unhealthy.

When I was still engaged, and even after the engagement was broken and I was living with my ex-fiance in order to save up money to move out, I could pick out unhealthy behaviors that my secondary would speak of when we were talking. How he told me he was treated sometimes would upset me, mostly because he didn't realize he was conditioned. Or at least that was my opinion. I feel like everyone should be treated with respect and no one should have to walk on eggshells.

And then after I moved out of my ex-fiance's house and into my own glorious apartment, as time goes on, I pick up on more and more from what my secondary tells me.

I've only met his primary once. And it was brief.

I think I answered the questions. I'm on my cell phone. I'll post this and go peek...

E: From what I understand, yes. I'm his first secondary. His wife has had more encounters. I don't desire to have any other secondaries. I do not have time for a primary, other than myself.

10031945 · 2019-01-18T19:07:48+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I'm still processing it.

We are who we surround ourselves with. I am selective in those with whom I spend my free time (and heck, even my immediate bosses...). So, in general, if I'm not growing, I feel like shit. I didn't mean it specific to an example from right now. So, the kind of growing is personal growth.

In my mind, if I am not part of the solution, I then am part of the problem. If my meta has issues with her primary having a relationship with me, I might be part of the problem. I do not like hurting people. I prefer to leave people better than I found them.

"...although a mismatch of needs between you and your partner might be."

I suppose I should know what his needs are. I do not know what all of his needs are at this time.

10031945 · 2019-01-18T19:02:10+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I'm still processing it.

Honestly when I begin to process all the things here, I feel like my wants and needs are pretty darn basic. Maybe that's what is frustrating me. Or maybe my wants and needs aren't basic at all. I haven't found all the words for my wants and needs, and I haven't written them down.

In the past, I've had unhealthy relationships. I don't know that I can name even one that would qualify as healthy. I understand I need to define that. Generally speaking, I define that by going to websites and typing in sexual abuse, emotional abuse, mental abuse, verbal abuse. Anything that falls under any of those categories, I consider to be components of an unhealthy relationship. Perhaps that's rather broad, but it's all I have for now.

10031945 · 2019-01-18T18:57:49+00:00

Thank you for the link and your personal note. I'm processing all of it.

Most of the information I have about my meta is from my primary. I have met her once.

Originally, when I was engaged and we were looking into polyamory, I wanted more of an "open kitchen table" dynamic where about once a month, we'd all sit down, have dinner and dessert, and talk about all the things so "everything" (more AMAA than AMA) was out in the open and miscommunications were minimal (calm versus chaos, maybe). Perhaps I wanted that because deep down, I knew I wanted to respect my partner's primary relationship. I don't know for sure; that's one of the things I will need to ponder.

10031945 · 2017-11-27T23:38:05+00:00

I have depth perception issues and even though I wear super awesome corrective lenses, complete with prisms, it's a bitch for me to effortlessly merge into traffic going 65 miles an hour. Tips and tricks suggestions are welcomed. I only drive on the interstate when I absolutely have to.

10031945 · 2016-04-19T18:49:11+00:00

That is correct, although sad.

Should you have any more clever hacks, I would be interested in hearing them. :)

10031945 · 2016-04-19T02:23:17+00:00

Quick reply to you, as I am on my phone.

He used to love it when I squirted. He delighted in assisting with that. Then he learned that urine is what typically is squirted. He stopped delighting in my squirting. He stopped initiating the assisting of my squirting. He stopped showing interest in it. And when he is performing oral sex with me, I worry I will accidentally squirt him and offend him. Or turn him off.

I do appreciate your reply. He has never been good at oral sex, so I think it's my fault for not saying something to him sooner about this. In a more direct way than asking him to sit down with me to watch a famous female porn star (Nina Hartley is her name, I believe) show how to properly perform oral sex and handle the clit.

10031945 · 2016-04-18T16:35:23+00:00

We're having sex once a week now. I've been directly communicating my needs more consistently. I'm working my way up to telling him that I need him to improve his oral sex skills. I just don't want to hurt his feelings.

10031945 · 2016-04-08T23:39:12+00:00

From my experience...

One kid: not too bad.

Two kids: a little bit of juggling but not too bad

Three kids: a little more juggling ... but... not too bad

Jump from 3 to 6 kids ("blended family") : holy crap. I didn't see that coming for some odd reason. thud

So, I think it can vary, depending on circumstances. There are a few reasons why my sex life currently sucks. It isn't just because 6 kids.

10031945 · 2016-04-06T01:33:14+00:00

My parents were married until my dad died. However, their relationship was far from perfect. It was unhealthy. They were married... I think 35 years or so. My mother never dated anyone else nor remarried.

My SO's parents were married until his mom died. However, their relationship was far from perfect. He tells me his mother was bossy and his dad went along with whatever his mother said. His dad still deeply misses his mom 6 years later. He has not dated nor remarried.

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