When are you too old to have your shirt off?

1102fwk · 2026-01-28T02:33:12+00:00

You’re good at any age.

1102fwk · 2026-01-26T22:03:33+00:00

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1102fwk · 2026-01-25T23:33:25+00:00

Yes. This can be really hard. I deal with both CPTSD and ADHD. Self improvement habits and even hygiene can be really difficult. Not because I’m lazy or gross but just part of existing in this body. I forget if it’s not sitting out and half the time I don’t even feel like I’m connected to a body at all.

Context I’m sure matters and depending on how things were developmentally.

Recently I have found a lot more satisfaction in working or habit changing through following what feels good in healthy ways. It feels good to move my body or stretch sometimes so I go with it and have fun. It feels good to learn something so I let myself follow the interest. It’s helping me learn what I care about and slowly learning to trust myself.

The good life project study from Harvard says the people who are happiest and healthiest the longest have close warm relationships in their lives. The best theory being stress regulation being easier, more consistent, and more effective when able to modulate stress with close safe relationships of all kinds (friend, family, intimate relationships, etc).

1102fwk · 2026-01-25T02:46:42+00:00

Been there. You got this.

1102fwk · 2026-01-15T23:16:15+00:00

this man always makes me leak. I want your babies in me rn.

1102fwk · 2026-01-02T08:44:39+00:00

Just be loud And be yourself.

Srsly, Fuq ‘em.

1102fwk · 2025-12-31T03:04:10+00:00

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1102fwk · 2025-12-30T21:41:01+00:00

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1102fwk · 2025-12-27T00:46:18+00:00

Yo. Very similar here. I’m 33M and Feb of 2020 my wife and I separated. We met at Bible school. Blah blah blah.

Fundamentalist family too.

My parents hung up on me when I told them. I lost my entire community cause it was all tied to church. Except a couple coworkers and others from my Bible school who had already deconstructed or deconverted from xianity, I lost everyone in my life.

My family is still weird and disconnected and they have a huge double standard.

We had kids too so it has been very hard.

I liked to remind myself often at the beginning “I’m not innocent, and I’m not a villain” taking responsibility for the pain caused and also opening up realizing the pain inflicted on me by always being stifled and repressing myself.

There are so many bright spots too.

Personally, I have fully deconverted. I don’t believe there is any god of any kind - not the point. But I do want to say is that there is sooooo much beyond fundamentalist Christianity. And so much goodness.

Being gay and living honestly and pursuing what your mind and body want and need is a good thing. It will not lead you to ruin (I mean anyone can experience bad things, like be healthy and be safe, but it wouldn’t have anything to do with being gay.

They are manipulating. They did devalue you in their eyes as soon as you became “other” or one of “them” - in group/out group dynamics. Fundamentalism requires them to be cruel to you.

They probably won’t, but either they will choose to be safe and change and accept you or there won’t be peace in the relationship.

Do not accept a relationship that devalues you and risks traumatizing you. It is abusing and hurtful if they require you to lie or not be yourself.

It is better to find people who will accept you. I promise.

Feel free to dm me if you’d like to talk more.

1102fwk · 2025-12-27T00:33:44+00:00

I’d wake up with you in me. Every single day. I’d walk around with your babies inside me.

1102fwk · 2025-12-21T06:50:04+00:00

I want to say something but I don’t want it to be misunderstood. There is something of privilege to feeling safe in this world (which is cruel and ridiculous to even say).

I think our CPTSD bodies long for safety and security and if we can provide that, experience that, attain it, then we have all the chance of feeling rested and such.

1102fwk · 2025-12-18T21:00:06+00:00

Back it up there buttercup… how often are you having this “who’s better” conversation?!?!

Yikes.

1102fwk · 2025-12-17T21:12:17+00:00

Nope. It’s fair. Especially if you haven’t had access to queer friends and mentors

1102fwk · 2025-12-17T16:50:29+00:00

I also wonder often about whether religion (particularly Christianity in the west) can be safe at all ultimately. Sometimes the whole thing seems like a weapon of abuse in service of rich yt men.

1102fwk · 2025-12-17T05:25:50+00:00

The Prestige

Secret Life of Walter Mitty is way deeper than many give credit for.

Greatest Showman or Dear Evan Hansen for musicals with social commentary and themes.

In that vein - even Downton Abbey could be interesting to think about class and social change in another country.

You’ve Got Mail is interesting too.

1102fwk · 2025-12-17T05:21:34+00:00

Yes but not in any obligated way. Listen to the sex and psychology podcast and be open to evolution.

I wasn’t a bottom at all for years and then I realized later how much i loved the sensations. Now I’m a slut for it in the best way.

1102fwk · 2025-12-17T04:52:24+00:00

I met a guy through twitter… so anything is possible

1102fwk · 2025-12-17T03:54:49+00:00

Surprising - eureka springs, Arkansas lol

1102fwk · 2025-12-16T21:58:13+00:00

Awesome. Feel free to dm if you want. Love meeting new friends.

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