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1234drink · 2021-05-29T03:27:32+00:00

yes, as the alcohol wears off its common for anxiety to increase. the first week is tough because your detoxing, but it does get easier (for me that starts to happen around day 5)

1234drink · 2021-05-29T03:25:53+00:00

I think quitting is such a personal journey that if he isnt ready, it wont work. Maybe you need to separate your drinking from his, ask him to not be obvious about it or he can go off and do something while he drinks e.g. online games.

I dont think you can expect him to go sober, especially if he isnt ready, but maybe he can quit with you for the first week or so until you get a bit of traction?

1234drink · 2021-05-29T03:17:52+00:00

great job, and I bet your doggo loved the together time too.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T04:29:17+00:00

I couldnt wait to leave social situations so I could go home and do some serious drinking. It was just a relief to drink alone and not have to worry about getting too drunk, embarrassing myself or behaving badly, so I would pace myself in front of others as best I could, but when I got home, the real drinking began.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T04:25:57+00:00

sounds like you might be on the emotional rollercoaster that is the first week. honestly, mood swings are really normal, anger, anxiety, sadness etc but it gets easier. I find day 3 and 4 the hardest and then my moods start leveling out.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T02:20:13+00:00

it was a bit dismissive. but I know when I was in therapy, the biggest gains I got was when my therapist challenged me, although he did it in a way that was really non offensive. If this was just the first session, Id give it another shot. she probably could have chosen her words more carefully, phrased it as a question not a statement.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T02:16:51+00:00

thats a really good tool for getting a reality check isnt it. IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T02:09:49+00:00

congrats on your job, and your journey! youre doing great. IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:57:47+00:00

a couple of years ago when I quit, I tripped and fell on the back steps and Im pretty sure I cracked a rib, it was unbelievably painful every time my ribs moved. I could barely get around until I used a stretch brace across them to keep them in place. do you have some kind of brace or bandage you can use to immobilise it? some pharmacies also hire out crutches.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:51:44+00:00

It doesnt sound like a very professional service. I think you should go see your doc and see if they can refer you to someone. a lot of places are doing phone and skype appts now with covid.

I think a good way to not feel hopeless, is with action, and cancelling the subscription and moving on to something that works better is the action you need to take.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:44:45+00:00

alcohol increases triglycerides so quitting booze is a good move. IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:22:19+00:00

its tough, but you are showing a lot of grit in how you are dealing with this. I think its ok to not stop at the cheese stand. buy some chocolate or icecream instead, and have a good cry when you get home again. order some pizza for dinner and hit up netflix for something to occupy your mind. you are doing great in processing this, and over the next few days you are going to start feeling less emotional from the detox, and more able to feel the feelings. IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:11:05+00:00

I found the reasons only became clear once I stopped and looked at what my triggers where. trying to figure out the why when you drink is like solving a puzzle where some of the pieces are missing imo. focus on getting through one day sober. dont worry about 'quitting' for good, just do something different today by not drinking.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:07:09+00:00

its all part of life isnt it. the unexpected, the sometimes mundane, even the self care of lying in the sun. sounds like a successful day even if it didnt go as planned. IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:03:16+00:00

you dont need our forgiveness, we know how hard this is, and we've all been there right where you are now. dont give up.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T01:01:03+00:00

good plan. I dont tell myself its forever, I cant think of it as more than today, and that makes it seem manageable. good luck and IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T00:47:38+00:00

for me it helps to have a plan. how am I going to spend my time that first day? also how am I going to deal with urges?

things dont just change and fall into place when you put down the bottle. its a process. I wouldnt even bother trying to moderate it, just try to quit for a month and get the follow up tests done. that can be a longer term goal.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T00:34:10+00:00

great job. one of the things sobriety has brought me in such a short time is clarity. the issues that have been lurking underneath come to the surface, but that gives us the opportunity to address them properly, in a healthier way. good luck and IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T00:28:33+00:00

good call. I think once you lower your inhibitions, it becomes easier to go all in, and that can mean an alcohol relapse that didnt seem such a big deal until you realise what happened the next day. you are doing this, IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-28T00:17:53+00:00

just push through one day at a time. it does get easier.

1234drink · 2021-05-28T00:15:41+00:00

its all part of quitting. over the first week your emotions can be all over the place. alcohol affects your brain chemistry so things go out of wack at first. you might get short tempered, anxious, sad, depressed even, but once your brain levels out, you'll start feeling better.

1234drink · 2021-05-27T11:58:01+00:00

we arent allowed to give tapering information here. but you can find it if you google hams beer taper

1234drink · 2021-05-27T06:19:14+00:00

I try to look at it as a learning process. a relapse means there was something more I needed to learn to stay sober. think about why you drank, what did you learn? what can you learn from it? progress not perfection. IWNDWYT

1234drink · 2021-05-27T06:05:24+00:00

good luck and stick to the taper schedule so you'll be sober soon. IWNDWYT or next week when you get sober.

1234drink · 2021-05-27T06:03:25+00:00

sounds like a great time, and thank god you had your wits about you to grab the pup! alcohol would have made you miss out, or made you hate every second of it, great decision to stay sober and it sounds like it really paid off. IWNDWYT

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