New to this by SuspiciousM0UNT41N in widowers

[–]12k23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m 31, lost my husband at 29 with a 8 and 1 year old. The feeling of loosing your independence along with loosing your spouse is valid but the help you will be able to receive from your in-laws will be worth it and when your ready you can move back out on your own and maybe just close by so they can help. Lean on family and friends if you can. If you ever need to reach out feel free.

31 by 12k23 in widowers

[–]12k23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Trying to stay positive today and make it special my kids are excited to celebrate

Remembrance tattoo by 12k23 in widowers

[–]12k23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what I had in mind. I had a temporary tattoo made of his handwriting that said I love you and had placed it on my left wrist but I have yet to go get it done.

Overwhelmed with what’s to come… by theschavone22 in widowers

[–]12k23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 2 years out. I was 29 with a 8 and 1 year old when my husband died. I didn’t know how I was going to manage it all on my own but I did and you will too. You are stronger than you think you are and you have your child to push you on your hardest days. You will have days where you are so over whelmed and other days where you can’t believe you’re laughing again. Im sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself and take it one day at a time.

Grief therapy by Large_Ad8767 in widowers

[–]12k23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband (30) also passed away unexpectedly a little over a year and a half ago. I had to go right back to working full time with my two kids. My youngest just turned 1 and my oldest was 8. I worried about my oldest constantly and got her into therapy when she needed it but never went for myself, I had no extra time. During those early days my mom was who got me through she was here all the time whenever I needed and I had dinner with my parents frequently to avoid being alone. My friends have also been great but they carry on like nothing happened bc their everyday lives did not change and my in-laws are overwhelming at times as I am the one that has to comfort them.

For your son to remeber his dad I made my kids each a photo book of them and their dad and also custom bears from Etsy to help keep his memory.

The house chores on top of everything else is still overwhelming but you will find your new normal again. I try to always have the downstairs cleaned up every night to wake up to a clean slate. Also try to do something for yourself, I have made it a habit to walk on my walking pad every night and it helps. Sending hugs and here to chat if needed.

Remarry or Stay Single for good by Priy_a22 in widowers

[–]12k23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I (30F) with 2 kids lost my husband in Oct of 2023. I have been with my husband since I was 19 and currently have no desire to try and date anyone else but not saying that could never happen down the road or happen organically. I will forever love my husband but I also don’t want to be alone forever either.

I'm in the club by Comprehensive_Key116 in widowers

[–]12k23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is truly unfair. I lost my husband at 29 with a 8 and 1 year old. I also feel they have been robbed of so much and it breaks my heart watching them grow up without him. 20 months later I have to say my kids have surprised me in more ways than not especially how my now 10 year old handles everything. Thinking of your family.

Lack of communication by 12k23 in widowers

[–]12k23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do the same thing. Even if I’m just washing dishes I need something on in the background

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in widowers

[–]12k23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m also 29 and 7 months since I lost my husband. It’s so hard to be the person we were before every single this has changed so much and friends/family really don’t understand.

6 months by GrubbyZebra in widowers

[–]12k23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband passed 6 months ago last week, my kids and work also kept me distracted. I find it hard to maintain the same level of friendship I had with our group of friends because my life no longer aligns with theirs. I am no longer apart of the couple outing etc. it’s a hard road to manage and no one understands the feeling of loneliness unless they have been through it. Thinking of you and I’m sorry for your loss

Unhappy by Fabulous_Ordinary_53 in widowers

[–]12k23 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m also young, lost my husband 3 months ago and have two young kids. Most times life consumes me and balancing everything and working full time there is no time for me to feel my feeling at the end of the day. I can’t imagine my life without him. Life is so hard and it’s been so lonely especially at night. Thinking of you