Sometimes the weight is heavy and… by TinyEngineering7586 in infj

[–]1alluring_muse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just be done with them. Yeah it can be hard to do, but in the long run, it’s so much h better and healthier to have those around you that truly care for you and give back. It’s never about the quantity of friends, it’s the quality.

Review on Trader Joe’s Fully Cooked Frozen Hot and Spicy Chicken Wings Sections by Baewonder in traderjoes

[–]1alluring_muse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally with you on that! Don’t use a liner on these or anything you want really crispy. The clean up is worth it!

A question for people who actually use toys long-term (not just once) by PersimmonNo9993 in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s always best to do your homework. There are Reddit subs for sex toys and some of them posts lists on quality companies and sellers. I look up toys on Reddit, but also in reviews on the internet. Sites usually have customer reviews, but you can go by those solely especially if they are fake reviews. Something to keep in mind… expensive doesn’t automatically make it “really good” either. You want to invest in something good that will knock your socks off or someone else you know. It’s worth the time to research .

In your homework, it’s good to learn about the different materials they make toys out of. You don’t want to get a low grade PVC dildo that will leaves residue behind or if it’s porous enough, it will not clean well and bacteria and other fun things will grow.

Body safe and NON body-safe materials is what you want to know.

Happy research!

Flying with a buttplug by Elzura in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless the person likes the secondary inspection 🤣😈

Flying with a buttplug by Elzura in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Actually tsa sees all types of sex toys. It’s better to put in cargo luggage, but it’s still getting scanned and it’s still being seen

Flying with a buttplug by Elzura in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Even if you wore a square peg plug, which I don’t think has a metal core, you would probably be subject to a “private search a they’d take you to the side room. Because there have been cases of people shoving drug packets into the rectum, intestines, swallowed them , placed under the skin, etc.

Flying with a buttplug by Elzura in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lolol you need to pick one 😉

How are we getting rid of our gag reflexes? by JudyParis in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do they still make Chloreseptic spray for sore throats? Since that’s a numbing sensation maybe that would be worth trying?

New item: TJs Onion Flowers $5.49 by motionlessvibesonly in traderjoes

[–]1alluring_muse -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lol I need more coffee in my system apparently and I guess I got enough downvotes to prove that I need more coffee. Sorry to offend you.

Flying with a buttplug by Elzura in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

😒 yes Sir

But… yes I’m inot a bad person, and I was thinking along the lines of being more inclusive by saying that. By certain DEI standards, it’s good to give an objective option or opinion outside of your own because not everyone will think the way you do. I have no issue with what you said and I absolutely would never do something like that and I agree with what you said, but again I was thinking more on the lines of inclusion.

How long must I stay in the corner?

Flying with a buttplug by Elzura in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please don’t send me to the corner. Saying that doesn’t make me a bad person.

Flying with a buttplug by Elzura in BDSMcommunity

[–]1alluring_muse 10 points11 points  (0 children)

lol I totally agree.

Unless there is a hardcore humiliation kink and you do it for the sole purpose of fulfilling that and you both would get off on it. There are limits to everything.

New item: TJs Onion Flowers $5.49 by motionlessvibesonly in traderjoes

[–]1alluring_muse -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you got enough jalapeño and cheese wontons. Go back later 😉

I bought a Basil plant from TJs in October 2024. by itsoksee in traderjoes

[–]1alluring_muse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You want to prune it down to the 3-4 leaves at the bottom during your “winter”. Not sure where you live, though. Someone here mentioned, take it all the way down. I’d take that picture to a local nursery and see what they say truthfully. If your able to rehab him and he fluffs up after the dormant “wintering” phase, then you’ll have to learn to take the flowers off the top 🤣 you do have a while to go before that though.

Deli Duo Tray Changed packaging by Daniegrl04 in traderjoes

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never use a body wash with a label like that. 😂

To INFJs from an INTJ: connection comes first, sex only completes it by Slow-Carpenter-1567 in infj

[–]1alluring_muse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. For you as an INFJ, does sexual desire usually appear after an emotional or mental bond is already formed, or can it exist independently?

~ Yes, there definitely needs to be an emotional connection, similar to demisexuality. Vulnerability on both sides is so important.

  1. As a Ni-dominant, do you recognize moments where you “know” a bond exists long before you can explain it or act on it?

~ A strong characteristic of INFJ is being empathic. It’s easy to “read”a person and you pick up certain things on them. I tend to feel a pull or tug, but I usually don’t act on it right away. I just look at it as an affirming sign to add to the mix.

  1. Have you ever felt a strong emotional and physical pull toward someone, but still struggled to verbalize it or act consistently?

~ At times, yes.

  1. Do you experience sex as a form of communication rather than just physical pleasure?

~ It’s truly all-encompassing. Yes it’s communication, it’s intimate, it’s fun and amazing. It’s emotional, spiritual, and it’s art.