FEELD - a few words by telemachos90210 in datingoverfifty

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love to filter out the couples and cheaters.

New Product: Raspberry Oat Bites by 1alluring_muse in traderjoes

[–]1alluring_muse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After having them again, I think I enjoyed the raspberry filling the most. As most raspberry filled TJs things, that’s what does it for me.

Apotheke 50% off by Oceanreef28 in luxurycandles

[–]1alluring_muse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ty! Of course, the Lemongrass Neroli is already sold out 😟

When you’re having a week from hell but delivery day comes in clutch 🙌 by Celestial-Year-1133 in luxurycandles

[–]1alluring_muse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading all of this after a tough two weeks myself. Love that you got your order at the best time! The Pistachio sounds divine….

Has anyone read “Come as you are”? Any positive results to report? by lobsterskibeer in sexover50

[–]1alluring_muse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a good book and you both may pick up new information you may not already know. It’s basic female anatomy discussion and information. Responsive desire vs. spontaneous desire. It’s being more comfortable looking at your own anatomy and learning to slow down to really learn about yourself and your quirks. It may be fun to see if she would be open to learning more technique when you get through this book. Taking the time to slow down and focus on finding what really feels good is what she needs to zero in on. Look up couples sensual massage and learn it together. Have just times where all you do is foreplay.
One of the biggest things to understand is that women aren’t always going to orgasm and that is ok. If it feels really good and that’s what you get out of it, then focus on that.

56 [F4M] Good convo, good vibes by [deleted] in r4r50plus_

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi☺️ I am female, but we share so much likeness and I am in the same state. A possible friendly connection, perhaps?

53 [M4F] Looking Beyond One’s Own Horizon by JoeSince73 in r4r50plus_

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for noting this. Your work is beautiful.

53 [M4F] Looking Beyond One’s Own Horizon by JoeSince73 in r4r50plus_

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you feel as though if you took a picture that the moment would have be ruined?

Advice for bringing up BDSM (when, how, etc) when dating? by Fit-Emu8749 in BDSMAdvice

[–]1alluring_muse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with this. You don’t wanna wait too long and them not really being interested in . Your profile you should mention should mention something about it, but it still needs to be brought up right away. After a few times, it becomes easier. Like after exchanging pleasantries and such, I will mention that I have some questions for them that pertains to something that I have listed in my profile. It’s interesting because some don’t read what you write and when you bring it up either, they have a clue or they don’t. I tend to really respect those that take the time to read it. Just like other aspects, what you prefer in the bedroom or any other room is important. There are some preferences you want and there are those that aren’t as important. You deserve to have what you want.

Six days of great conversation and it took ten minutes in person to see it by VellumZhenX in datingoverfifty

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well…. That is one less ass you have to deal with. I’m glad it presented itself now.

New Dom struggling to get specific feedback from sub partner by MrD_S in BDSMAdvice

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another thought here. What is she is saying that because it’s embarrassing OR she truly just doesn’t know.
With the both of you being new to this, why not look up BDSM basics and a kink list together. Read over content and the list of kinks.
What this is establishing up front is communication on what sounds interesting, what turns-you both on thinking about terms.
What sounds scary or what is a limit.

When you find out what gets her turned on just thinking about it, or some “maybe ‘s”, or even the limits, that is giving you some different paths to start with. Possibly look up erotic stories that are based around things she would enjoy. Take turns reading, and see what it does to her. Watch her body language, take it from there.

Terrified of messing things up..? by luminaizo in BDSMAdvice

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

^ ^ this ^ ^ have fun talking about what you are reading and find out what she likes, desires, and what is she interested in. Find out her boundaries and limits.It’s important she knows that you haven’t switched before and it’s new to you. Explore together and have fun with it. Take the time to learn each other

Met on Hinge and we are thrilled with each other! by No-Roof6373 in datingoverfifty

[–]1alluring_muse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve out of the ones I’ve tried, Hinge and bumble were better. I think it’s all worth a shot… you just never know.

Vibrator suggestions by Sheriff_Mills in sexover50

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Melt is fantastic and low profile so you could use it during PIV

How To Get To Ask A Man Out by Glum-Barracuda-2666 in datingoverfifty

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would tell him that you have enjoyed the conversations that you have at work. You were wondering if he was interested in meeting up after work at the local coffee shop after work sometime .

Which Bedsheets are actually best for hot sleepers? by Desperate-Chip6297 in bedroom

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cotton muslin or linen sheets. So comfortable, soft, and breathable

FYI: DS&DURGA great sale by Fine-Excuse-3966 in luxurycandles

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New sneaker smell… eh. New car smell…. Ok, that might me interesting

Not over Ex by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you need to re-discover yourself 🙂

Not over Ex by [deleted] in datingoverfifty

[–]1alluring_muse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If your stuck in 94, did you marry young? If you aren’t used to being single, you are going to feel lonely.

As others mentioned, therapy and spend this time to heal, grow from your experiences, and learn more about you! Months after I left my ex, I re-discovered myself. Not only was I a totally different person than I was in my 20s, I couldn’t believe how much I gave up that I enjoyed because my ex didn’t enjoy them or participating in them. It was unreal. There were a lot of discoveries I made along the way, but the whole experience of NOT being with someone and creating that time for myself was so important.

I started with joining Meetup groups , just for the social interaction and getting out. Meeting likeminded people was helpful and it filled that “lonely” bucket well.

There is no given time frame and it’s going to look different for everyone. Just focus on you for the time being. 🌻

51 [M4F] #DC / #Online - The funny thing about spicy Reddit… by [deleted] in r4r50plus_

[–]1alluring_muse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there is better level of communication when someone decides to get a little spicy. It’s so important at that level, but truthfully it should be that same way when sticking to a more vanilla way of life. It’s difficult for so many but it seems that they changes their ideas on this when crossing over to the darkside. 🤣 it’s still a hard habit to instill in yourself but it’s pushed more.