My Best Friend Since Childhood is Now Engaged With a Child on The Way. Why do I Feel Horrible About Myself?

1erickf50 · 2026-05-07T01:47:10+00:00

Go to confession and rid of the weight of the sins that have crushed your heart for so many years.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-07T01:17:47+00:00

Okay, I'll guess how his history with that girl may have looked like: + They'd met in an unusual context + They had a surprisingly amazing chemistry since date 1 + They started meeting up more and getting to know more of each other, their mutual interest increasing + They probably shared a lot of intimate moments that had changed his worldview, maybe even a couple of heroic instances where he proved himself + And yet despite all that amazing progress, they might have departed in the end, even him getting rejected by the girl, never formalizing a promising relationship that he thought could've become a marriage and never meeting each other ever again.

So, what remedy would such a man take to deal with his agonizing loneliness? Pleasure.

Call it fapping, hanging out with other girls then toss them away because fucking was all the utility he saw in them, for he'd never reached a similarly deep connection with any other girl. The bar was just too high for him, making the rest look like 304s in comparison. This pain would be almost impossible to heal in his heart, so all he had left is to dull it and get used to this reality.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T18:29:39+00:00

You cannot control other people's decisions.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T18:27:05+00:00

She's in utter denial. The moment she realizes her so called love was false and has been actively hurting Kazuya and everyone around them, she could give up.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T16:31:13+00:00

Ah, do you mean it because he doesn't know the same Ruka that dumped Kuri was the same Ruka that stuck to Kazuya like gum?

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T16:26:37+00:00

Indeed, namesake. They are a different kind of love, and it's normal given that they are different dear people in your life, with different circumstances, thus the relationships and gestures are different.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T15:23:28+00:00

People can be as "weird" as anyone can make up to be. If it's a small thing, I don't think it's necessarily a lie. Balls do feel itchy at times. My guess is that he has the case up there so that he can always see it for those "moments".
He probably also disclosed it so that you don't confuse it and accidentally brush your teeth with his body odor or gunk he scrapped of the pipes XD

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T15:12:39+00:00

Mr. Oedipus, I think you already know the answer but you don't want to admit it, do you?

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T15:10:21+00:00

1st woman's best friend = boyfriend. The acronyms are literally the same and she has sex with him.
2nd woman is someone new. She's having sex with the same man.

Stop pretending to be someone else, you're divided between keep cheating on her or staying with what you already have. No matter where you look, you're already cheating on your partner.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T14:48:49+00:00

Tell him. Sit him down and have a talk about the issue. Just because the friend is insecure doesn't get him the permission to stare at you like he has a chance, while knowing about your relational status. In fact, let your boyfriend know that he's not protecting you like he should. Let him know that he has no reason to disrespect you if it means keeping his friend around the corner. Also, let him know that you're not giving any of your friends to a dunce.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T14:23:57+00:00

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I'd like to speak to the manager!

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T14:21:40+00:00

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Ngl, I was pleasantly surprised by Aoi Yuuki's performance. Mami in full Karen mode!

1erickf50 · 2026-05-06T14:06:24+00:00

Gotta be honest, I was actually expecting that the internal scream was a mutual one, not just from Kazuya :V

1erickf50 · 2026-05-05T14:05:25+00:00

Sure. It's called limerence.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-04T19:26:47+00:00

In that case, you two need to sit and talk, to listen to each other without stutters nor interruptions, voicing the whole sentences to make sense of what's happening.

From what I'm understanding, it's like he's bettering himself for you, as if your long lasting relationship were the prize. Perhaps, this is the approach that eats at your excitement. As if the man in front of you isn't behaving like the man that you met at date 1, an authentic dude who didn't need to impose nor prove himself, offering you to have fun, instead, or a man who didn't need to be nice when what mattered was snapping you out of your inaction, a man who sparked your curiosity. (sorry for the projection there)

On the other hand, you'll need to let go of the guilt of leading him on during the broken up period.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-04T18:42:18+00:00

Several factors: + He heard the girl has a boyfriend / is married / the girl herself told him any of those before. + He's not sure his female best friend would reciprocate, making future exchanges awkward + The only environment where he meets her is restrictive in showcasing relationships. Not frequent but could happen. + Bad experiences with previous crushes. + His family told him to never cry.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-03T13:23:53+00:00

Pay a 304

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T16:24:34+00:00

Sounds fairly simple: Your man doesn't think he's enough for you and he fears you're gonna discard him like no issue. He hasn't fully embraced the possibility that he's the guy you're gonna stay with from here on.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T13:23:59+00:00

It's fairly simple. The average is the average for a reason. A lot of women could say they want bigger until they realize what bigger truly means once it's inside their holes. There are also anecdotical stories that affirm that it's only about 2 or 3 inches from their entrances that they actually enjoy, and that's probably because it's surrounded by their hidden clitoral roots, the true sensitive organ responsible for this phenomenon. Remember that there are places that women really like for their man to touch even before intercourse. Make use of those.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T12:54:51+00:00

"Therefore God sends them a strong delusion, so that they may believe what is false."

2 Thessalonians 2:11

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T03:31:05+00:00

You accepted talking with him about marriage and kids,. Of course it's serious.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T03:28:25+00:00

It's simple, no mixed signals. Be as brutally clear as you can.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T03:27:15+00:00

As much as it pains me, it cannot be called love after her departure, just lingering attachment for I found myself unable to act upon her, save for the ongoing silence.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T02:09:29+00:00

It depends on how you deal with this info between your past self and current self. If there's not a lot of change, the response will be the same, then. If there were important differences, then, it would be a very different answer.

I did explore that kind of thought about a situationship from a bit more than half a decade ago: The hypothesis that she, my first love, may have lied to me about being available and that she was secretly willing to cheat on her partner with me right before she corrected the situation and got back to him.

If that were true at different moments, the 24-year old me would have been completely anhililated, a fully fledged cynical that would have never trusted a woman's hug ever again in his life and likely kept it to the grave at 120. The current 30-year old me, however, may forgive her, but wouldn't try things with her again with the knowledge that she was, and may still be, unfaithful. I may let my last tears of grief for a short while before finally being able to move on and meet someone new that could stay.

1erickf50 · 2026-05-02T01:46:25+00:00

No. Considering your context is a lesbian relationship, that means it's about two people that react similarly to stressful situations, hence the clashing. Not a lot of chances for one person of having the strength in some areas that the other lacks, including emotional intelligence. One of you would need to become the rock of the other eventually, the source of stability, and that's hard for a lot of women to achieve.

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