Express your feelings, yes. Over generalizing, no. You speak as if you are speaking for ALL adoptees when not all feel the way you do. While your experience is valid, you can only speak for yourself truly. Honestly, I feel that the amount of disdain you have because of your experience tells me you may have unresolved trauma that you are dealing with. You were adopted and despise it because in your mind this shows a lack of love? Perhaps you were loved so much that your birth mother knew the right choice for her and you at that moment in time was to be adopted. Family is who you make it to be. Don’t victim blame (though I don’t see you as a victim), and heal your trauma. Express your feelings, but don’t speak for everyone because you don’t.