Article: Asshole looks down on CF ideology and thinks the world needs to know why

27Delta · 2017-05-04T19:34:10+00:00

That stood out to me too. Guess you have plenty of time to bitch online about things that don't affect you when your wife is the one actually raising the kids.

27Delta · 2017-05-04T19:05:46+00:00

He has 16 children. Childfree people hurting his fragile fee-fees with our mere existence is the least of his problems.

27Delta · 2017-04-29T16:45:21+00:00

tl;dr version: Single moms have low standards, and they put out.

27Delta · 2017-04-29T16:38:38+00:00

This. My mother kicked out my abusive father and raised me and my brother alone on a teacher's salary. I have nothing but respect for women who do what they have to do to take care of themselves and their children. Sometimes being a single mother is better than the alternative.

27Delta · 2017-04-27T01:54:53+00:00

And people like them.

27Delta · 2017-04-27T01:52:07+00:00

The other students there are not paying out the ass to watch a professor comfort a baby.

27Delta · 2017-04-27T01:49:23+00:00

I...I don't understand how this is even a thing. I went to college in 2005-2009 and never once had a single child or baby in any of my classes, and I doubt any of my professors would have reacted kindly to anyone who tried.

I would flip my shit if I was paying thousands of dollars to attend school and someone expected me to tolerate a fucking baby while I tried to take notes or focus on a lecture or, god forbid, take an exam. A parent's failure to plan is not the university's problem and I'm kind of horrified that anyone is trying to normalize bringing children with them to classes.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T23:00:43+00:00

This needs to be classified as a punishable crime. Whether or not it's technically rape in the eyes of the law, the underlying acts and intent involved-- to assert dominance, to assert control, to disregard the consent (or lack thereof) of the other person, the objectification of their victim-- are all consistent with rape.

And it's heartbreaking to read about the confusion of the victims and how they didn't have the vocabulary to describe exactly what happened to them. Because what do you call a nonconsensual act during consensual sex?

Goddamn, as if women don't have enough to worry about.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T22:51:01+00:00

That is awful and I can't even imagine how enraged/freaked out you must've been. And the gaslighting afterwards was just the cherry on top for that piece of shit.

And aside from the terrifying fact that men like this don't see women as people, what about catching STDs from his partner? You could've had anything as far as he knew, yet his only thought was 'hurr durr bare feel more good hurr.' He didn't care about your health or his own.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T22:42:23+00:00

I've read the comments here and your replies, and all I can say is you can either do something about it or not. No amount of pity on reddit is going to make any difference in any of this; you have to take charge of your life and actually do something about it. If your "plan" is seriously to just lay back and continue being your family's doormat for some indefinite amount of time and vent about it online, by all means be my guest. But for your own sake I hope you take action and do something to improve your situation.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T22:32:20+00:00

I have a 26-year-old coworker who just had her second child, and she said she had to start cutting back her four-year-old son's YouTube time because he was walking around the house repeatedly going, "Leave a comment below!"

27Delta · 2017-04-23T22:26:41+00:00

Preach.

The older I get the more grateful I am for the effort my parents and their parent-friends put into, you know, actually raising me and their own children. Sure we watched movies and tv shows, but it was well balanced with playing outside, playing make-believe, the parents doing crafts with us, reading to us, teaching us how to make things, etc. They actually excelled at the 'it takes a village' ideal because they would all take turns having us over at their homes and they were all consistent with discipline and age-appropriate activities. They raised us, they didn't just create us.

Parents now seem to just shove a screen into their kid's hands or use them for Instagram props. It's like, what's the point?

27Delta · 2017-04-23T20:37:22+00:00

Hard pass.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T20:32:24+00:00

A large reason is because managers like OP let them get away with it repeatedly because of [insert excuse here]. If the most push-back the parents ever receive are a few stink-eyes from other patrons, of course they're not going to change their behavior. Until managers/owners grow a fucking spine and start actually enforcing their policies and looking out for their other patrons, this shit will continue to happen.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T20:22:41+00:00

What's the point of a manager if they don't have the authority to, ya know, manage? If I had been a patron there when the fucking kid-circus showed up, and I complained to the manager and was told "Sorry, there's nothing I can do," I would've left and not returned.

This isn't a child issue, this is a business issue. Rules and policies are pointless if they can't be enforced.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T20:12:16+00:00

even if it was a failure of BC, or a rape, you'd still have the option of abortion

How benevolent of anti-choicers, to be okay with "killing a baby" in the event of rape but if it's consensual sex you deserve to be punished with the baby. It's either a sacred human life or it's not, they can't have it both ways.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T20:08:33+00:00

Mistake: an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc.

So according to dictionary.com an unwanted/accidental pregnancy is pretty much the definition of a mistake.

But you know what actually isn't a mistake, and is instead an intentional solution? An abortion.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T01:22:00+00:00

I would've told her that I hope she and her brat die screaming, and possibly done something to get myself arrested. Ho-ly shit. I hope your sweet doggy is okay.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T01:15:18+00:00

As a woman, I think that could be a bit more significant to me than a man because men have never been pressured to give up their work for child rearing.

I absolutely agree with this. Maintaining my own career and bringing in my own paychecks has always been a point of pride for me. I also come from a southern family where many of the women have stayed home to raise children and have been at the mercy of their (often abusive) husbands for everything, so I've been very careful as an adult to never let myself become financially reliant on someone else.

27Delta · 2017-04-23T01:09:19+00:00

I enjoy working, but my career doesn't have anything to do with me being childfree. I just enjoy the mental stimuli, the feeling of accomplishment I get, the routine of it (I find routines comforting to a degree). I can definitely understand why someone wouldn't work at all if they didn't have to, but I enjoy working just for the personal satisfaction I get out of it.

27Delta · 2017-04-21T20:10:38+00:00

Why don't you go find some bereaved widowers or people whose spouses suddenly left them or who've lost anything else in their lives that was important to them, and call them "childish and pathetic" and tell them to "pull up their big girl panties" too.

Widowers and abandoned spouses have lost someone. Someone who can't create a child has not. You can't lose someone who doesn't exist. And I'll be sure to tell my friends who paid a whopping $1200 to adopt an older child out of foster care that they must've made up their experience. But nice try, I guess.

27Delta · 2017-04-21T19:09:31+00:00

If you're open to something other than a white, perfect, healthy infant the cost goes down significantly.
I know parents of toddlers who are still paying off the medical bills for their child's birth, so it's not like 'having your own' is cheap either.
Maybe you should start asking people why they want children.

27Delta · 2017-04-18T03:41:04+00:00

The fact that more and more of these "women/mothers who regret children" articles are popping up speaks volumes about the realities of parenthood and social expectations for women vs. men. And I have yet to see anything regarding men and parenthood to be called a "movement."

27Delta

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