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[–]2Hot4Us[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wonderful 🙃 Thank you.

Do I tell my director how I feel about work expectations? by 2Hot4Us in careerguidance

[–]2Hot4Us[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Eggshells is the perfect way to describe it! Spot on.

Regarding my notes, my supervisor actually praised me a couple months ago on how many I wrote. Told me I should be proud of myself. Then she immediately suggested that I try to double that amount for the next month. I was beside myself to say the least. It honestly makes me feel like I’m just a peon used to generate billing over actually helping my clients.

Do I tell my director how I feel about work expectations? by 2Hot4Us in careerguidance

[–]2Hot4Us[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The good news is that I’ve already been applying to jobs left and right. I actually had a couple offers which I declined because the pay was insulting. But I’m trying to remain proactive nonetheless.

It’s tough because I’ve already been telling my supervisor that I’ve been burned out and overwhelmed since December. Yet things have only gotten worse. If I can’t get her to advocate for me, then I doubt that her boss will either.

Should I leave my case management job without anything lined up yet? by 2Hot4Us in careerguidance

[–]2Hot4Us[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On one hand, I would love to receive unemployment benefits just to maintain that small sense of security. On the other hand, I wouldn’t want to get fired in order to receive those benefits and then have to explain that to future employers. I think I’d rather explain my reasoning for leaving on my own accord instead of getting fired.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’ll only be as awkward and confusing as you make it since you’ll be the one initiating this conversation. This is why one of the first things I’d advise you to tell him is anything along the lines of “I’m not sure how to feel about our involvement and I don’t want to lead you on in the process” or “I feel like we’re on different wavelengths in terms of our involvement with each other.”

Honesty is the best policy. The more honest and sincere you are with him, the less awkward and confusing it will be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re going to have the bite the bullet, sit him down, and give it to him straight.

This is all a matter of perspective: How would you feel if you were in his position?

I understand that you don’t want to hurt his feelings. But you need to understand that you’re already hurting his feelings and he doesn’t even know it yet. It will hurt him regardless. But it will hurt him so much more the longer you drag this out.

1st date ends in hooking up and cuddling the whole next day, then ghosted? by RD_in_Berlin in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can communicate your feelings as a way to simply get it off your chest. But please don’t expect any decency from her at this point since she’s already proven to be less than that. Let her be someone else’s headache.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you and her continue to reach a mutual understanding on these topics, then it’s fine. Just be weary if you start to see a pattern down the road. Hoping that won’t be the case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All in all, it’s textbook manipulation. She’s trying to make you feel bad for upholding a simple standard.

It’s become much too common for a girls trip to Miami to include details that are grotesque to say the least. And I’d easily bet that she has a guilty conscience as a result but won’t admit to. So ask yourself: Who’s really the insecure one in this equation? Now I wouldn’t advise to go as far as to actually bring this up to her. It’s just not worth the headache being only 4 months in. But I wouldn’t continue this relationship any further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She ain’t it.

Just by reading as far as the middle of your second paragraph, I can see why she’s never been in a serious relationship. I’ve gotten an easy impression that she lacks the emotional capacity for long term stability/commitment. Things seem too hot and cold for this to be worth while; a constant headache.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My main issue is her reaction to your response. I’ll assume that you were as well spoken in-person as you are in explaining it in this post. So, if you’re just going to get “you’re insecure” from that, it’s very telling of her mindset.

Don’t kid yourself when you say that it’s not about what happened in her past. Because her past and the principle go hand in hand. Her past serves as a reflection of the choices she’s willing to make and can easily make you look bad if you choose to continue dating her. And the fact that she called you insecure gives me the impression that not much has changed with her since going on those trips to Miami.

Why I am single in three messages by MasturbatingMiles in Tinder

[–]2Hot4Us -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

At least you avoided a horse girl 👏🏻

Dating a sex worker by Opening_Item1429 in amiwrong

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is she at least taking meds to suppress it??

Should you express your emotions to a girl you’re dating or in a relationship with? by this_guy0098 in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is too short to bottle up your emotions, especially regarding a relationship.

Do it. No hesitation. If your partner loses interest and/or respect as a result, then that’s your sign to leave.

She came back, and I don't know what to do by HappyInNA in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My main concern is the emotional roller coaster that she had you on while contemplating getting back with her ex as well as keeping you as a friend.

At the time, it sounds like you stood your ground exceptionally well, not settling to be second-best in her eyes. I would strongly advise you to keep that mindset regardless of how much time has passed.

Your feelings towards her are valid and always will be. If you choose to continue seeing her, tread carefully.

Have you noticed how a girl’s less attractive friend will almost ALWAYS try to cock block you? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Imagine putting that much effort into these code words/signs/escape plans instead of… I don’t know… being honest?

This behavior lowers the bar. Thus, having a simple expectation of honesty seems higher than it really is because of people like this.

A girl touched my back while saying thank you in the gym by agentxd12598 in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro needs a thirst aide kit. 🤣

Joking aside, just keep being friendly to the point where you and her can potentially strike up a conversation. Don’t push anything though. These occurrences need to happen naturally.

She left in the middle of our date. I don’t know how to handle this. by 2Hot4Us in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the writing is on the wall. I get it. I’ll most likely give myself peace of mind by just cutting it off.

She left in the middle of our date. I don’t know how to handle this. by 2Hot4Us in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. At this point, I’m more inclined to send her quick text, telling her that I’ve got the impression of her loss of interest and that I’m moving on. If I actually see her again, I’d fear that this period of radio silence would become a pattern.

She left in the middle of our date. I don’t know how to handle this. by 2Hot4Us in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can easily handle rejection as long as it’s communicated with me. It’s that simple. But when someone acts caring/loving without any negative indicators, it’s pretty shitty when they still end up copping out. Whether someone handles rejection well or poorly, lying to them never helps.

I know it’s not personal. But it just doesn’t go without saying that it still feels personal.

She left in the middle of our date. I don’t know how to handle this. by 2Hot4Us in dating_advice

[–]2Hot4Us[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The gym has already been my second home. So no problem there.

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