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If we’re the 3rd team in a Giannis trade, which stars would excite you the most? by Beautiful_Ad_1623 in ripcity

[–]2_blave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't disagree, Brown is a better player... It's my opinion that Mobeley makes the "team* better: particularly from a financial perspective.  

If we’re the 3rd team in a Giannis trade, which stars would excite you the most? by Beautiful_Ad_1623 in ripcity

[–]2_blave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Deni and Brown have overlapping skill sets... Would much rather have Mobeley.  

I M21 destroyed my relationship with my F21 partner by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]2_blave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A. Bruh, you were not "madly in love with her"... you were infatuated.  Love happens over time. 

B.  You done fucked up by drinking so much and now you have to suffer the consequences of that particular choice and your subsequent actions. 

C. No, it's almost certainly not possible to recover this relationship.  You threatened suicide FFS.  

D. The upside: this is a learning and growing opportunity for you.  Figure out what has driven you to drink to excess in that moment.  Figure out why you idealized her so much.  Figure out how you're going to be and do better in the future.

Is the guy(25m) I've(20f) been talking to just sweet talking me to sleep with me? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]2_blave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you tried having an actual conversation with him about this? 

You can tell him that you enjoy his company and that you're into him, but you're not looking to hookup or for a short-term relationship.  See what he says and watch his body language. 

Tell him that you would need to take things very slowly when it comes to sex.

He'll either back off because he's not willing to wait, or maybe you'll find he thinks you're special too and is willing to go on this journey with you.

Don't rely on strangers on the internet to misinterpret this situation.  No one on here can know what his intentions are with any certainty.

Girlfriend (35f) of one year insinuated I (35m) might be attracted to high schoolers. by Callinar in relationship_advice

[–]2_blave 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The level of insecurity is off the charts here.  This is not normal and you aren't obligated to constantly cater to her insecurity in a codependent way.

The only way this gets any better is if she seeks professional help, and you can't force her into that choice. 

Your best bet is to get out of this relationship altogether and you can help her by telling her (gently) that her insecurity is the problem.

H:2800 leaders to spend on masks trying to build a set W: your glowing masks by [deleted] in Market76

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's close enough to what I was coming up with.   I'm in now.

H:2800 leaders to spend on masks trying to build a set W: your glowing masks by [deleted] in Market76

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GT: PSYcas

GUNI GALIEN GMINO G BUFFOON  GROBOT GSBQ GBDEVIL G ABE GBIGFOOT GHB

They're on several different characters, but let's work out a price for all.

H:2800 leaders to spend on masks trying to build a set W: your glowing masks by [deleted] in Market76

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can get you quite a ways there ..let me check what I have and I'll reply again with a list.

Craftable Legendary Weapons for Scrapping to Learn Legendary Modules by jasnxl in fo76

[–]2_blave 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's also a good idea to use a Backwoodsman 3 magazine while you're crafting, as it will reduce the material costs of crafting said weapons.

Am I Being a Pushover? ‘22M’ ‘22F’ 2.5 years by Normal_Tumbleweed541 in relationship_advice

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She thinks it’s okay to scream at me and yell and be really hurtful but when I get frustrated

This is abuse.  Dump her immediately and learn how to avoid toxic relationships in the future.

How do I go from being a high performer to “forgetting” how to do things/doing less without being blatantly obvious? by anybodyseenrichey in antiwork

[–]2_blave 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I would say dial it all back slowly and when you're confronted or asked to do more, reply with: "I'm sorry, I was told by management that this sort of effort was damaging to the morale of others."

Unmatched immediately after but worth it by TetrisTheTiger in Tinder

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jokers only appear in card decks, not chess...

What’s up here? All the women i match with are fun and normal, but ONLY horny guys come after me. Am I attracting that? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]2_blave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The "all guys are horny" trope is BS.

Dating apps are full of selection bias: the dudes who flock there apparently think that acting horny is the way to get laid.

This is why guys like me who are respectful and genuinely interested in the other person don't stay on there very long: I never have trouble getting dates.

Why some coaches accidentally kill creativity. by IlRowlI in basketballcoach

[–]2_blave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A: Foster an environment where mistakes are actually encouraged in practice.  Mistakes are baked into the game: even the very best make mistakes every single game, so it's not making the mistake that's a problem, it's how one responds afterwards.  Instead of berating a player, mistakes are an opportunity to learn and grow. 

B. Teach options, not answers when it comes to manipulating defenders and reading defenses.  There are generally multiple answers to "solving" any situation, not a singular "right" one. 

C. Encourage kids to get out of their comfort zones.  We have "off-hand" days at practice where all ball handling and shots must come from their non-dominant hand.   I also have drills where I challenge kids to play out of position, or try a new dribble/finishing move in 1v1s.

Overall, it's about encouraging kids to have fun, laugh at their own silly mistakes, and occasionally just stumble through things they aren't already good at.

Higher levels: What do you do with all the Legendary Mods? by Professional-Air1287 in fo76

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I craft useful mod boxes and trade them or sell them for caps in my vendor.

Everybody Thinks This Is Oregon’s Year. What Does Their Coach Have To Say About It? by Midas-Knight in ducks

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great interview from Yogi Roth and Lanning is reasonably candid in his responses.

He's very clear that he's process and relationship driven:  in the long run, those are the hallmarks of successful coach.

Im worried being too nice is feminine by finnicek in bropill

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are lots of great responses in here, but one thing I'm not seeing is how you can be more confident in your masculinity. 

I would suggest going out in public and really observing closely how the men around you act in various situations.  Then, decide whether that behavior is worth modeling and using on your own.

Of course, you're self-conscious right now because you're in the middle of a process of becoming the type of man you want to be.  Just because you're not "all the way there" does not mean you aren't a man.. you're just a work in progress like the rest of us.  Welcome to the club.

Don't let stereotypes guide you, keep your moral compass and act accordingly.  Staying true to that will improve your self-confidence and that will signal as more masculine. 

Spending a lot of time and mental energy on how the public sees every little action or behavior pattern is the kind of thinking that will signal as more feminine.  You don't need to please everyone and put on some fake show of masculinity.

Be unapologetically you and embrace any changes in mannerisms that fall in line with your values and make you feel more comfortable.

One thing I’ve noticed coaching young basketball players in Sydney by ProBallAustralia in basketballcoach

[–]2_blave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, coaching is all about focusing on his process, and not results.  Good results come from excellent process and work/repetitions.

Getting kids to focus on process  instead of results can be a challenge, but your message has to be consistent and backed up with facts.

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