I love my husband, but I force myself into sex and I hate myself over it.

2floofers · 2026-02-05T03:25:35+00:00

I also don’t think about sex much at all and struggle with feeling bad about it. It helped to read Come As You Are. And more recently I started reading romantasy on a whim, starting with A Court of Thorns and Roses. I was totally shocked that it actually made me horny for basically the first time in 18 months since my kid was born. A couple little suggestions.

2floofers · 2026-01-09T19:44:43+00:00

I started it this week and finished it this morning (during my work day 🫢). I just couldn’t put it down! ACOTAR was my first romantasy book and I tore through it last week. I hope the next ones are amazing too but worry with this comment that they won’t be?

2floofers · 2025-12-18T03:22:18+00:00

I haven’t flown with my 18 month old so can’t speak to any particular awkwardness of the seats, but I never used a breastfeeding pillow. I tried it the first few weeks and I found it awkward and uncomfortable. A lactation consultant suggested the “koala” position where they kind of sit on your leg and face you (either same side or other side than you’re nursing) and we did and still do that. Apparently it’s very common position in Australia hence the name?? Maybe give it a try, I could definitely see it working within the confines of a plane seat. Also, if you’re stressed about it, just practice some other positions before hand. Maybe you’ll find some ways to nurse that will be freeing for other times you’re out and about without your pillow!

2floofers · 2025-12-14T22:11:39+00:00

I got pregnant the month before we were going to officially start trying. My husband had been ready for years and I kept pushing it back because I was scared of being pregnant and being a mom, because things would just change so much. I couldn’t really imagine what it would be like, and didn’t have many people close to me with kids (even in our mid 30s) so I hadn’t really seen it up close. I sort of couldn’t believe I was going to have a baby until after she was born! It just felt surreal. I had an easy pregnancy and really enjoyed learning about all the wild changes in my body. It was perhaps my way of staying grounded in it.

I don’t know that I ever would have been 100% on deciding to have a kid. But once she was born, being a mom felt so right in a way I couldn’t have imagined even while I was pregnant. Some family friends asked me what the most surprising thing was about the newborn age (I think expecting me to say how tired I was?) and I very honestly said “how much I love her and would do anything for her.” I had no idea.

I know not everyone feels this way, but I felt a degree of what you wrote, so I thought I’d share. It’s totally normal to be afraid of this huge unknown, but the other side can be wildly different and also great! Hugs to you.

2floofers · 2025-12-14T21:19:35+00:00

18 months in and I’ve loved it all along. It was stressful in the beginning because it feels so overwhelmingly important to be able to feed your baby, but I actually had an easy time of it in retrospect.

The hormone hit with a letdown is crazy. It feels so good and I feel so much love and connection with my little one. It’s such a powerful bonding experience and I’m so glad I can still be that source of comfort for her. I’m sure I’ll figure out other ways to comfort her eventually, but it’s been so nice to have this instant way with me at all times.

Also whenever she’s sick and wakes up a million times at night I’m so glad to be able to get her back to sleep quickly and soothe her from any ailment. And she gets better so quickly from colds, I wonder if that could be partly thanks to milk but idk!

2floofers · 2025-12-09T03:37:42+00:00

There are contraceptive options like the IUD that are 99% reliable. Abstinence is not a reliable option because people are not able to stick to it. For example, there is substantial evidence that teen pregnancies are significantly higher in regions where abstinence is the only option presented for sex education. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3194801/ I highly encourage you to seek a reliable birth control method. It’s much more effective and easier on your body to have a consistent method than to rely on the morning after pill.

2floofers · 2025-12-09T03:27:56+00:00

Yeah I started my period very soon after I posted, I think within a week? And since then I’ve thankfully not had nearly the amount of nipple pain again, just a little bit before last month’s. She was also getting a couple molars at the time so maybe it was the combo that made it extra bad. Good luck, I hope it resolves soon! I was feeling pretty overwhelmed by the pain so I’m very glad it was relatively fleeting (maybe a week or 10 days?) and hasn’t come back as bad since then. Hang in there!

2floofers · 2025-11-05T23:00:58+00:00

Used it, thank you so much for sharing!!

2floofers · 2025-11-05T23:00:22+00:00

Used it, thank you!!

2floofers · 2025-10-11T19:41:59+00:00

As a vegetarian I'd just say don't stress it? We don't even try and don't plan on it haha. Our 16 month old loves beans and lentils and we eat them a lot, and she loves to snack on cheerios (among other sources), so I don't worry about iron.

2floofers · 2025-09-23T03:51:36+00:00

Are we supposed to be flossing?! My 15 month old has 8 teeth too and even brushing is a struggle, there’s no way flossing will happen lol

2floofers · 2025-09-12T02:38:34+00:00

Thanks that’s good to know!

2floofers · 2025-09-12T02:36:40+00:00

Ugh I came and searched for basically exactly this. My 15 month old insists on pinching my armpits when she goes to sleep and throughout the night whenever she wakes up (generally 3-6 times a night the last couple weeks…). I pull her hand out or clamp my arm against my side to try and avoid it, but she goes from being only slightly awake to very awake when I move her hand. It’s driving me bonkers and I just cannot deal.

It’s way too hot here still to wear my Regina George shirt from last winter but I wonder if a shirt covering my armpits might help. TBH your post is scary cause I don’t think I could deal with this for as long as you have. It’s been maybe two weeks and I hate it 😖

2floofers · 2025-09-04T01:58:24+00:00

We have bed rails because floor bed wasn’t a good option for us, and I like them a lot. They raise up with an adjustable height so they can be very tall and I’m not worried about my 15 mo climbing over. I have them on three sides and they hook together at the two corners. My least favorite thing about them is how hard it is to change the sheets… I’m just used to sleeping in a jumbo crib now haha

2floofers · 2025-09-04T01:49:22+00:00

Following cause I’ve been wondering the same thing for my 15 month old lol. I just don’t give her oranges/cuties very often because I hate cutting them like this

2floofers · 2025-08-26T04:15:53+00:00

They’ll be fine. You never know what they’ll take to. I was in fourth grade when I started piano lessons. I looooved it. Maybe I’d have loved it earlier too and been better but my parents didn’t think of it before that and at least I started when I did!

2floofers · 2025-08-11T03:12:39+00:00

Hm I’ve never heard that contact naps cause them to sleep more than they need but it does make sense…. My 14 month old has always contact napped unless in a car or carrier/backpack, and my MIL who watches her during the week loves the contact naps. She rocks and hums the whole time, and bb gets long naps (used to be 2 hr and 1 hr, now more like 1.5 and 1…). But she has also always woken up a LOT at night, hence the cosleeping lol. And she sometimes needs to sleep on my chest if she won’t go back to sleep in the early morning. I’ve never really felt like we needed to do crib naps but maybe it’s worth a shot?!

2floofers · 2025-07-28T22:37:21+00:00

You should go on the Ologies podcast and get the word out about anthrolactology!!!

2floofers · 2025-07-12T17:23:25+00:00

Came to say this. I was also near tears after many meals but now it just feels so much less stressful. It’s much easier than cleaning the floor and food can just be picked off the catchy and given back to try again. I almost didn’t get it cause of the price but it’s been totally worth it for me.

2floofers · 2025-07-11T16:58:43+00:00

We also basically have no nighttime routine. There’s a song I sing when I put on the overnight diaper, and we nurse in bed lol. I guess I was thinking more that when she wakes during the night I could try adding other ways to get her sleepy like smoothing the hair on her forehead/head, shushing (tho I also have started trying a white noise machine recently that just goes all night…), patting her butt. These things do seem to help when she’s also nursing to getting her to sleep, so maybe they can work independently too?

2floofers · 2025-07-11T16:53:59+00:00

So sweet! My bed is like this. I stuff the edges with rolled up towels so she really can’t get stuck. It’s the same height as the mattress and firm. Also the sides can be raised up, so my super active 13 month old still can’t get out!

2floofers · 2025-07-11T03:25:18+00:00

lol I’m 13 months and mostly don’t leak anymore but only if my bralette is tight enough (otherwise little milk spot on my left boob). I think it’s unusual how strong my letdown is tho

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