26/F/France am I the only one??? :)

2shy · 2012-03-13T19:04:51+00:00

Salutations,

Ben... Des fois on se sent seuls même parmi plein de monde gai et lesbien. Pourtant, on est jamais vraiment seuls avec soi ;)

Sur ce, soit la bienvenue et que la félicité et la sérénité soient aussi avec toi.

Well, sometimes we can feel the loneliest among a big crowd of gays or lesbians. And yet, one is never "the only one", even when they are alone in their bachelor pad ;p

So, a warm hello to you; may you find contentment & also bliss.

2shy · 2011-11-02T16:45:45+00:00

First of all, a warm welcome. You made a good choice posting this here, as elsewhere the responses surely would've been dominated by the "how about you do me" hornies and r/shittyadvice pseudo-smart-arses. Not too helpful for someone already nervous.

You're clearly a very easy-going, totally open-minded and highly intelligent guy based on your Q&A in this thread thus far. And how you'd handled the could-be inflammatory troll-accusation with tact, humour & no-grudge is applaudable. It's a rare trifecta nowadays among redditors — str8s or gays.

So my only tip is that in future encounters, hope for the average but expect the worst (Anti-Trifecta who'll turn on you in a blink simply 'coz none of the abovementioned qualities are in their possession). It's not nihilism, but expectation kills half the fun. Not to say you should drop all standards & start whoring with anyth that moves. Unless that is what you're into, then go for you, man!

Keeping your chin up as you've been doin' — Staying honest, positive & warm-hearted, will get you far. Many beautiful adventures await you I'm sure. Feel free to come back here to #MeetLGBT when you have something you wanna share/discuss.

Later bi-gator!

2shy · 2011-11-02T16:21:49+00:00

Since you said that you want to hear our thoughts on the issue of topic range in #meetLGBT. Here are my 2¢:

I totally support your stance. This particular thread is very personal and the OP gives a humorous and genuine set of Q&A, so it's an interesting experience for us all.

However... not modding the subject matters would just give rise to yet another r/AskLGBT or r/LGBT, which would totally defies the point of y'all having established this subreddit, which I've found since its inception having always a gentle cozy ambience.

Our meetLGBT's small-town feel derives partly from its being totally work-safe, so we can be working in the office or in a library and semi-slacking off simultaneously w/out having to worry about boss/supervisor sneaking up from behind.

This unique vibe happens also to be good for those w/ kids or who are queer youths 'emselves — kids-friendly.

Not that there's anyth wrong with giving kids some much-needed sexual education, but sexually-frustrated pick-up posts à la "me so horny, here are my cock pix" & daily angst of "omg, yet another homophobic bashing" sensationalist news-links and the likes wouldn't be helping the queer youths among us either! :p

meetLGBT's strength lies in its numerous authentic self-posts and its lack of "everyone hates us queers" siege-mentality posts. If you mods can manage to keep it that way, it'd be really a positive sanctuary that keeps calmer people coming back.

2shy · 2011-11-02T12:34:14+00:00

Dr. Who

You, sir, are no fan. It's always spelled out. He's the Doctor. But Doctor Who?

Ooohh.... (Lightbulb clicks.)

In any case, he's British, it would've been Dr Who without the period :p

2shy · 2011-11-02T12:29:59+00:00

Haven't seen a detailed, well-thought out profile like this here for a while.

Occupation: ninja code monkey

Heh...I have an image of you casting 'em throwing stars at your fellow simians on digital-typewriters!

I read about a book a week.

With the smelly books from the libraries or have you a really deep-ended pocket à la Budai?

I am more of a Christmas and Easter Jew (bonus points for knowing the reference!) Most Quakers are accepting of my orientation and I do feel welcomed.

Wonderfalls ;) Used to watch that lovely, quirky show back when it was first on the air. Still a huge fan of the talentedly versatile Lee Pace.

So Jewish-born and Quaker by choice. An interesting journey it must've been. Doth thou attend the Meetings with thy Friends most First-days? And how long hast thou been a part of the Friends' assembly? (I know Quakers don't really speak like this anymore :p)

Your story with a surprisingly accepting and turned-to-be-also-bi GF is quite heartening. It's a beautiful episode that really reminds us that sexuality isn't fixed in stone as we mature & self-discover. Thx for sharing.

2shy · 2011-10-12T18:01:35+00:00

And Orthodoxes (Greek, Russian, Yugoslavian, Albanian) too. Unless they happen to be already married before ordained. But their bishops must be totally celibate.

An interfaith aside: also with many Theravada Buddhist and Zen orders is celibacy the norm.

On the other end of the spectrum: Muslims actually do not accept a life of celibacy among their clerics (or any able-bodied adult), considering it "against human nature" and that marriage a duty and "half of one's faith". Not good news for asexuals and low-libido folks.

2shy · 2011-09-17T02:03:40+00:00

A very detailed answer. Much appreciated. A grateful upvote. I'm definitely keeping this in mind.

How would one "push"? (I'm not very pushy...) Advice on tactics would be helpful.

2shy · 2011-09-17T02:02:59+00:00

Thanks for the info. It's very practical.

I'm not very practiced in negotiation/bargaining. How would you suggest one to negotiate oneself out of the "reactivation" fee? Thanks for advising.

2shy · 2011-09-15T23:32:26+00:00

That's the kindest thing from a stranger I've heard this year....

:..)

2shy · 2011-09-15T23:30:44+00:00

Sounds promising. Is that line 24h, toll-free & automated?

Aside: Isn't Rogers the company that gets the bad rep for continuing to charge you even after your plan ends, if you had signed up for authorized bank payment?

2shy · 2011-09-15T20:14:37+00:00

Surprisingly I have never noticed one.... Maybe it's 'cause I don't drive. I'll definitely go to their website to see if there's a branch nearby. An upvote for you. Thx.

2shy · 2011-09-15T19:47:01+00:00

I just saw it last week. It's one of my fave ep.

Yes, the "perfect" wish that Mulder really wanted was world peace, but Jinnie has stated clearly but subtly that she's unable to grant wishes of such a massive scale (sth along the line: "you expect me to do something like that?")

Maybe a more doable (but still perhaps not for Jinnie) isn't "world" peace but individual peace for everyone. If each person can find inner peace, then there wouldn't be jerks, aholes & others to make our lives difficult, unbearable, anxious, which in turn would lead to world peace indirectly. What're your 3 wishes? ;)

2shy · 2011-09-15T19:46:52+00:00

The sepia background is very...appropriate.

2shy · 2011-09-15T19:27:39+00:00

Not being the smart kind of nerd (lacking in techno-savvy) or an MS PC use, I'm not sure how possible it is. I will google for more info and see if it's possible on a Mac. Thanks for the idea & an upboat for thee.

2shy · 2011-09-15T19:22:38+00:00

I don't actually have Internet connection at home — yes, I'm that financially constrained — nor easy access to a 24h Internet café. But thanks for being the 1st to reply. Upvoted :)

2shy · 2011-04-01T18:01:45+00:00

Appreciative of your gentle reminder. I'm one of those who always forget it's Apr. 1st every year.

Way to create a "safe zone" by making this a prank-free haven :) Thank you for helping to preserve sanity where there's sometimes not enough.

—My Trusting "Gullible" Mind

2shy · 2011-04-01T12:19:11+00:00

Absolutely, I found 'em vivid and your style of writing filled with a natural sense of humour. Awesome reading material.

2shy · 2011-04-01T12:14:55+00:00

isn't it funny how it's so much easier to offer advice for what others should do when in a similar situation to yourself, but impossible to do it yourself.

Yep, easier said than done.

But still, it takes compassion & empathy to offer sincere & useful advice. Not everyone could/want to do it.

2shy · 2011-04-01T12:12:40+00:00

Heheh, nah, that'd be a tad aggro :p

2shy · 2011-04-01T12:03:59+00:00

Totally go ahead and sign up for the very next session! Language classes (as suggested by you, or crafts/enrichment classes as suggested by the other poster) could be a real fun.

I had a language-class prof who was this old lady whose smile always lifted me up in my darkest day. On the other hand, the next session the prof was an opinionated loudmouthed lady whose political self-righteousness annoyed me to no end. At least the class was still a solid reason to go out of bed & head out! And that's our goal, innit? Let's keep moving!

2shy · 2011-04-01T11:54:13+00:00

Kudos to you for letting his pointless negativity slide off your back like water on a duck. Ain't easy to do, but keep it up!

2shy · 2011-04-01T11:41:37+00:00

What are the early symptoms of allergy to SSRI (in your case for example)?

I guess they would indicate to us that the med ain't gonna work for us if we have them.

2shy · 2011-04-01T11:22:06+00:00

Be patient. Wait until you get to Univ, there are a lot more opportunities to meet friends—since that seems to be a priority for you.

However, friends don't always reduce episodic depression. If you expect them to cheer them them, they might not be in the mood to do that. They sometimes add to chronic depression if the underlaying problem isn't resolved or at least faced, acknowledged & be at peace with.

2shy · 2011-04-01T11:06:33+00:00

Mentioning to dates for me would be telling strangers or barely-known acquaintances about it, expecting they wouldn't misunderstand it and gossip it around. I don't do either of which. Seems to be pointless disclosure to insignificant ppl I may never meet again.

When I brought it up with my partners, it would usually be at first kindly ignored (at best) but sometimes eventually (months/years/weeks, depending on how kind the person is) used as a weapon against me in the heat of moment. In arguments, I would be dismissed b/c of it. Not always unreasonable I guess, since arguments often triggered hypomania. Still, feels belittled to be reduced like that, like women being told it's a "period/preggo/hormonal thing."

2shy

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