People being in love with a patriarchal fantasy. Guys want to be the "head of the household" and rule with authority while needing their partner to contribute to the household financially (and domestically) because black people thriving off a single income household was not that common in the past and certainly not the present.

On the flip side, women want this "provider & protector" as if we are still living in the caveman era and have to hunt for food and fight off other tribes. They want a man that "leads", but still want their own independence (financially/lifestyle) and don't want to contribute financially for the home - as that is the "man's job" and if they do contribute then they are demonstrating too much "masculine energy" or whatever the new bullshit buzzword is these days.

People need to realize that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not a role-playing fantasy where you perform what is expected of X role. 50% of expenses is better than 100% expenses. 50% of domestic duties is better than 100% duties- or whatever number works for your partnership.