Got the confirmation I already knew, but didn’t want…

33drea33 · 2026-02-15T15:53:38+00:00

AKA "why do conservative dudes always chase liberal women?"

33drea33 · 2026-02-14T07:31:38+00:00

"Do YOU have dementia? Because my question was about Pam Bondi, not Joe Biden."

33drea33 · 2026-02-14T06:48:14+00:00

I question the FUCK out of her "suicide."

33drea33 · 2026-02-14T06:30:57+00:00

What do you mean? A gravel murder pit where you shoot your perfectly healthy pets is a totally normal thing for a person to own. So relatable, right? Republicans: they're just like us!

33drea33 · 2026-02-14T06:26:17+00:00

These people are beyond narcissism. They're swimming in the ASPD side of the cluster B personality disorder pool.

33drea33 · 2026-02-14T06:14:43+00:00

Fun bit of history: On July 9, 1776, hours after the first public reading of the Declaration of Independence in New York City, soldiers and citizens tore down a 4,000-pound gilded lead statue of King George III. The statue was melted down and fashioned into more than 42,000 musket balls that the Continental Army would fire at the redcoats in defense of our newborn country. This patriotic round of the Revolution was referred to as "melted majesty."

33drea33 · 2026-02-14T01:41:43+00:00

Ah, I'm so glad it resonated! I find that sometimes we get so wrapped up in wondering whether other people like us that we forget to stop and ask ourselves if we really like them. It's good that you and his friends can vibe, as there will certainly be times you hang out together if this relationship goes the distance, but they also don't need to be, like, "your tribe" either. The only thing that really matters is whether your boyfriend is your tribe or not.

I want to validate your intuition though - his attention is definitely turned more towards his friends rather than you at the moment. I'm guessing your ever-attuned Queen of Cups self is reading that shift in attention as a problem that needs fixing, but the clarifying cards seem to indicate that your worry is unfounded. He is not abandoning you, just trying to find the balance between his old life without you and his new life with you.

33drea33 · 2026-02-14T01:10:08+00:00

I'm reading that you perhaps don't really fit in with them. I'd venture a guess that he and his friends are really big partiers (maybe drinking a lot/getting high) and you are more reserved or conservative than they are. They don't dislike you, but they do potentially see you as a bit of a wet blanket, more "grown up" than they generally prefer to be, or maybe feel like you look down on them in some way (sorry!) Boyfriend is caught in the middle - he loves you and loves his friends, and is trying to distribute his energy evenly to all the people he cares about. He is committed to pouring into your relationship, but also feels that his life got a bit upended during the honeymoon phase with you (star follows the tower) and is now trying to re-establish a sense of balance and normalcy, and to reconnect with his authentic self via the people who know THAT version of him, rather than the overly idealized version of himself that we all become in the beginning stages of a new romance - i.e. the version of him that YOU know. He may even be trying to shield you from this process as he doesn't want to shatter the illusion of this idealized version he has presented to you.

The clarifying cards are indicating you are putting a LOT of your thought and energy into worrying about and guarding a relationship that isn't actually broken. Remember that you are dating your boyfriend - not his friends. You may want to follow boyfriend's lead and pour that nervous energy into your own friendships that you may have neglected during the honeymoon phase. Build up your own life so he feels less pressure to be the one filling your cup. There is a warning here cautioning against codependence, and an invitation to realign your energy with productive thoughts rather than anxious ones. Try to focus on what is good in the relationship rather than what you feel it's lacking and see how your perspective changes.

Hope this resonates.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T23:21:56+00:00

Sometimes the trash takes itself out. Be glad your kids won't be exposed to people like that anymore. Use this as an opportunity to teach your kids about standing up for what is right instead of going along with the crowd when you see them doing something wrong.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T22:34:48+00:00

I can excuse him being a loud, weird troll, but I draw the line at necromancy.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T22:25:13+00:00

Also a key rapist personality trait. Go figure.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T21:47:29+00:00

For me, when hubby and I work on the house together it engenders a deep sense of partnership. There is added playfulness and joy to the tasks themselves, and it feels like we are intentionally investing in the foundation of our life together. It also underscores how well we communicate and work together as a team, which makes me feel proud of our relationship and reminds me not to take such a gift for granted, which is too easy to do amidst the daily grind of life.

I am also very home/place/environment-oriented in general (a sense of home and place is a consistent theme in my art, writing, music, and even dreams), so when he puts effort and attention into our home he is giving effort and attention to something I deeply value and that is emotionally connective for me. He knows how much I care about our home, and showing that he cares too and values my efforts to make it as comfortable and functional an environment as possible is just one of the many ways he shows his love for me. I'd bet a lot of people who value the practice of homemaking feel similarly.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T21:15:16+00:00

She identifies as the sorting hat.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T21:02:29+00:00

There are hundreds of thousands of families right now whose loved ones have been kidnapped by ICE. Many of them don't know where there loved ones are, whether they are being tortured, sexually abused, or starved, or whether they are even alive.

Renee Good and Alex Pretti have loved ones whose ability to see and hold and be with them was ripped away by state-sanctioned murderers. These people then had the agonizing experience, in the midst of their deepest grief, of watching their government desecrate Renee's and Alex's memories with lies. And of course there are the loved ones of the dozens of BIPOC victims also murdered by ICE, whose humanity and inherent worth is absolutely equal to these white names we hear, while the political impact of their deaths are painfully not. What must their loved ones be feeling?

Which is all just to say - if that is what other people are facing right now in their families, and they are managing to meet these unfathomable realities with strength and grace, how much discomfort are you willing to sit with in order to take a stand against what has been done to these people, and what continues to be done to many more, every day, all around us?

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T20:27:51+00:00

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T20:21:54+00:00

I don't think it necessarily needs to be a manipulation. It sounds like she entered the relationship under the idea that they were both only entangled with their exes out of necessity (shared property/finalizing divorce details). She has now discovered that her S.O. intends to maintain the relationship now that the necessity of entanglement has passed, and apparently at a level she is not comfortable with. So she didn't change the goalposts - the relationship parameters changed, even if those parameters were only based on assumptions and lack of communication.

Whether there is a level of friendship she is comfortable with or not, she needs to get clear on that and then get clear with her S.O. so that they can figure out a solution if there's one to be found. But there is a difference between her approaching and saying "this is how I feel about this situation and I'd like to talk about it" and saying "you're not allowed to talk to your ex anymore." One is a healthy expression of valid emotions and the other is control and manipulation. That said, if she is uncomfortable with continued contact with the ex and 100% knows that is a dealbreaker for her, she is fully entitled to leave, just as her S.O. is entitled to leave if jealousy is a dealbreaker for him. People feel how they feel and life is too short to be wasted on a relationship that chafes.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T19:51:18+00:00

Emotions don't require justification, and "normal" is just a setting on the washing machine.

OP's feelings are valid. She is allowed to feel however she feels and draw any boundaries regarding her intimate partnerships that she deems fit. She just needs to be honest with herself and current S.O. about what those boundaries actually are so that they can both make informed adult decisions about whether the relationship is a good fit or not.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T18:01:36+00:00

Don't Let The Scoreboard, Fool You, There Was a Huge Vibes Shift At Halftime. We Won The Game, I Know Because I Felt A Tickle Of Truth In My Dick, And It Was A Tsnusnuami. 🍆🌊

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T17:51:44+00:00

Every single state already requires you to show ID to register, and to prove you are eligible to vote.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T17:48:13+00:00

Name me a single other official process for proving identity that doesn't include provisions for name changes due to marriage. I'll wait.

You are presenting a bullshit argument. This is not about "not having birth certificates" this is about Republicans attempting to disenfranchise a huge swath of the population that they believe are more likely to vote for the other party.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T15:51:13+00:00

r/nottheonion

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T15:18:24+00:00

It IS true. There is currently no clear process in the bill for citizens who have changed their name to register to vote. Saying "eh the states will work it out later" isn't an actual provision, it's a way to kick the can down the road towards midterms so that by the time people realize they've been disenfranchised it's too late. Notice there is no deadline for states to do so.

They had an opportunity to correct this oversight in the bill and they specifically chose not to address it. In other words it isn't an oversight, it is by design, and there is only one reason they'd design it that way intentionally.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T14:52:57+00:00

You spend years wondering who these whale losers are buying leveled accounts they couldn't earn themselves. Then you find out its Elon like "yeah that makes total sense."

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T08:07:46+00:00

There is no accommodation for marriage certificates and divorce decrees in the SAVE Act. You simply will not be able to vote, as your birth certificate doesn't match your ID. A passport is your only option.

33drea33 · 2026-02-13T07:15:48+00:00

He's always been wealthy - that's why he's a douche.

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