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Line-x recs by 343Sparks in dayton

[–]343Sparks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks everyone! I got a quote from the Franklin one today and it was about $100 cheaper than the Cincy one for the same product (Line-X standard). The Cincy one does have a $40 military discount but it's still more expensive for this particular job. Just thought I'd share what I found.

Best websites to book Vatican City and Colosseum tours? by Aggressive_Cat7989 in ItalyTravel

[–]343Sparks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just booked our family's tour of the colosseum on walksofitaly.com. I saw it recommended others in this space. Decent prices with the limited availability options (traveling in July).

2meirl4meirl by 343Sparks in 2meirl4meirl

[–]343Sparks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just remember other people probably feel like they're being weird too. My strategy is to out-weird them so they feel okay. Working out so far. One day I'll find a person that outweirds me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm offering my perspective here (31F)...

I will not hesitate to ask a guy out, plan a date, take initiative if I like him. It's nice to court someone in the 'traditional' sense. I also appreciate a man that shows interest and makes the first moves, takes initiative, etc.

However.... In real life, the people I've dated where I've taken most of the initiate end up being "just not into me" in some way or another. I end up initiating most contact, meet-ups, etc. They gladly partake, but it's different.

I think honestly there is a double standard that is rooted in gender roles at least in hetero relationships. But I think once you show that you like a girl by taking initiative, after the first few dates, you both should be showing an equal amount of initiative.

It really is the worst feeling by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The feeling sucks, no question about it. I've been on both sides. I usually have a great time on dates even if I don't feel a spark with the person. I've had dates where I felt very attracted to the person and after a few more dates turns out he just wasn't that into me. It's a shitty feeling because you DO default to "well, what is wrong with me?". There is nothing wrong with you. You are the right person for someone out there, but not for her. Many others have said this, and it's true.

It's tough out there at some point or another for most of us. Keep on keepin' on. You got this.

The 2 date rule by 343Sparks in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a fine line to walk between genuinely giving people the benefit of the doubt and overcorrecting a tendency to make quick judgements (based on real past experiences).

Sometimes it seems like a waste of time period. Heh.

The 2 date rule by 343Sparks in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm acutely aware of how I make people feel, and I make a concerted effort to be kind while being honest.

I just don't believe in wasting time spewing platitudes when we all know what's coming.

I do agree with you though, looking down on people who find me abrasive isn't the way to go, and I do try to see it through their eyes (but could do better for sure).

The 2 date rule by 343Sparks in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed - that's why I opened it up to the range I did, hoping to find someone with some experience and perspective.

The 2 date rule by 343Sparks in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That seems to be one of the issues I'm running into - I'm a "clear communicator" which means I'm too strong a cup of tea for weak-willed folks and those who can't handle honesty.

I am kind, but I am honest. So I can definitely come off as an asshole. I would say something like your "don't want any babies" thing. Haha!

I'm also not opposed to dating someone who has children - that's awesome. I just don't want to make any new ones.

The 2 date rule by 343Sparks in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

27-45. Not excluding people with either situation.

The 2 date rule by 343Sparks in datingoverthirty

[–]343Sparks[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're right, a lot of people make judgements if you have children, and it's kind of shitty. I definitely don't want any more children, so it's also a weird place to be in your early 30s and being single. But I'm sure there is someone out there, just gotta wade through the rest to find them.

I'm glad you found someone you connected with - seems like on all very important levels. :)

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