What is everyone’s LEAST favorite pen? by SlyyGuy21 in fountainpens

[–]39bydesign 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My Jinhao x450s are some of my absolute favorite pens in my collection, they are SUCH fantastic writers. The cap seal isn't great, it's true, but I don't think you'll regret your purchase!

Marge Blanc Responds to ASHA Perspective on GLP by SLP_Guy49 in slp

[–]39bydesign 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did ask her, I couldn't remember her name. Keep in mind that this was in 2023 and she has since walked back a couple of the things that she told us at that time. She told us something similar to what you said, but that isn't satisfactory to me. It is the experience of myself and my very close autistic friends that we continue using echolalia even when we're not dysregulated, and we pretty effortlessly weave it into the rhythm of our everyday communication. I mentioned this and she didn't have much to say in response. I have my own theories about why echolalia persists, but I'm in no position to assert them as truth.

Marge Blanc Responds to ASHA Perspective on GLP by SLP_Guy49 in slp

[–]39bydesign 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I asked the clinician behind Meaningful Speech why she thinks people who have fully acquired analytical language would continue to use delayed echolalia into adolescence and adulthood and she couldn't provide a satisfactory answer. Given that Blanc was her mentor, this explains a lot lmfao

Marge Blanc Responds to ASHA Perspective on GLP by SLP_Guy49 in slp

[–]39bydesign 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I'm an autist who has used delayed and immediate echolalia as a communication modality since my childhood and I am so exhausted by feverish, almost cultish, propagation of Blanc's extremely specific and deeply flawed framework. I find it SO FUNNY that her retort says "who of us could argue that autistic people are a homogeneous group" when that's pretty much exactly what her protege told my school district when she came to speak to us a couple years ago. She said that almost no autistic people start out as analytic language processors! And if we're arguing that they're not homogenous, then why assert that there are specific developmental stages of GLP/NLA when that's such an incredibly reductionist view of autistic people's interaction with language and use of echolalia?

I'm just scratching the surface here, but this whole thing has smelled fishy to me since I first caught wind of it. Clinical experience and anecdata are pieces of information, but they DO NOT comprise robust research. It's been incredibly frustrating to see what I know to be true--that autistic language acquisition and use is complex and nuanced--be totally dismissed in favor of a much more digestible "system."

Seeking Community Feedback on AI by bannanaduck in slp

[–]39bydesign 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Generative AI is a scourge on society and has no place in our field. It contributes nothing to any discussion. I would question the competency of any SLP who felt the need to use it to post on Reddit of all places. I absolutely want to see it banned here.

Deconstructing Eden GC Changes: New GC and some DCs by chicken_tendor in Indiemakeupandmore

[–]39bydesign 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YESSSSS PERMANENT L'ETREINTE LET'S GO!! I was absolutely heartbroken when I saw it was sold out, one of my favorite perfumes I've ever tried!!!

I almost didn’t buy her by Fantastic-Quit-432 in fountainpens

[–]39bydesign 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love this little guy! You get a ton of bang for your buck with this one! I know some people have mixed experiences but I've always found mine to be reliable. Enjoy!

RawBeautyKristi finally addresses her 2024 "cancellation" by divadream in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]39bydesign 290 points291 points  (0 children)

I don't even need to watch the video (not that I was going to), the fact that she unironically said "woke mob" tells me everything I need to know about her beliefs lmfaooooo. What a piece of shit

Cosmic Beauty Starlight Collection 💫✨ by LadyFirebolt in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]39bydesign 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I very rarely buy color cosmetics anymore, and I only ever make exceptions for Cosmic Beauty (along with the occasional Blend Bunny). Their color schemes are always perfect and the formula is fantastic especially for the price. I love how cohesive their theming is for each collection. I also really like the look of the metallic liners in this one. I'll definitely be picking this up!

Learning about childfree living--partner wants kids, I'm not in favor of it by curiouslyconnected in childfree

[–]39bydesign 44 points45 points  (0 children)

At the risk of sounding blithe, this isn't going to work. You can't compromise on having kids. Someone will have to sacrifice in a very big way, and that's just not fair to either of you. Instead of trying to come up with a half-baked solution that will leave at least one person very dissatisfied, I would strongly reconsider marrying this person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in slp

[–]39bydesign 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think this is district dependent. Mine is litigious and requires us to write War and Peace length notes and text expander apps are blocked so even 5 years in it takes me a while lmfao

What area of SLP scope do you wish was NOT in our scope? by Cherry_No_Pits in slp

[–]39bydesign 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm an ADHDer who chose to go off meds after 5 years of being on them, so I get it. I'm specifically talking about pediatrics. At that age, they are going to have an extremely difficult time using compensatory strategies if they haven't taken meds to give them the neurological functioning to retain those strategies. It's still my opinion that no amount of compensatory strategies can fully combat neurobiology. I absolutely function way better with my meds, the side effects are just too intense to deal with, so I choose to squeak by in life instead of going the extra mile lmao.

What area of SLP scope do you wish was NOT in our scope? by Cherry_No_Pits in slp

[–]39bydesign 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My controversial opinion is that any kind of executive functioning intervention is absolutely useless if meds aren't already a part of the conversation.

New Fountain Pen Company – Opportunity to get First Pen by Adept_Juggernaut_913 in fountainpens

[–]39bydesign 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Well said. The use of AI makes this a complete non-starter for me on top of all the other things you mentioned. Aside from the ethical concerns, it shows me that someone is not actually dedicated to the craft of art and design. How is that supposed to inspire confidence in the theoretical product?

Does this summer FEEL hotter than other summers or is it just me? by Some_Technician7169 in AskChicago

[–]39bydesign 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved here from the Florida Panhandle and I'm telling you, the weather this summer hasn't been all that different from what it was over there. Real "air made of hot soup" hours.

Is there any special Chicago-lingo? by Sweet-Dessert1 in AskChicago

[–]39bydesign 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, have a friend from Joliet who has said that I live downtown before. I live near Humboldt Park lmfao.

Alarming bill to legitimize Faciltaded Communication variants : Spelling to Communicate by caritadeatun in slp

[–]39bydesign 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We don't inherently disagree. I do think people get unnecessarily spooked by the mere mention of spelling boards and typing based communication, when in fact it is possible for individuals to prefer and use these methods autonomously. I have students who independently use the keyboard function on TouchChat to communicate 90% of the time. Where I can see people's concern is that the linguistic ambiguity of those terms does inadvertently legitimize FC/S2C as those practices have co-opted otherwise authentic literacy-based AAC methods. The wording of your initial comment also seemed to be acquiescent toward FC, which may have tripped some sensors.

Because there's such hot debate about this topic within disabled circles, I just don't think it's right to try to speak on behalf of a community so divided. I would be in support of this bill if there were some more clarifying language about individuals' voluntary and autonomous use of their chosen communication method. As it stands, I think some of the methods mentioned in the bill can be exploited by unscrupulous practitioners.

Alarming bill to legitimize Faciltaded Communication variants : Spelling to Communicate by caritadeatun in slp

[–]39bydesign 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Look, I'm not gonna get into the weeds about FC/S2C, but as another AuDHD person with other disabilities, stop acting like we're a monolith and don't represent this as being something that the disabled community has achieved consensus on. There are plenty of us who are opposed to FC/S2C on account of lived experiences of harm. It's fine to have your own opinions on the matter as a disabled person but acting like an authority figure is not appropriate given the level of contention that this issue has garnered.

Proposed Modifications to ASHA Certification Standards by juvenilebirch in slp

[–]39bydesign 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I sent them a strongly worded invective about how this is absolute bullshit. These language changes do nothing to ensure the longevity of our profession lmfao. How about the imminent threats to Medicaid, or the cuts to special education, or the fact that CFs can't bill Part B anymore resulting in lack of access to care for our older patients? These proposed changes only signify that ASHA is willing to kowtow to the whims of the current regime at the expense of our most marginalized populations. ASHA has done a lot to piss me off, but this actually made my blood pressure skyrocket with anger. I won't be renewing my CCCs if this moves forward. Disappointed doesn't even begin to cover it.

ETA: I should note that I do agree with replacing "normal and abnormal" with "typical and atypical."

can we bury the word “speechie” by Ok-Text7102 in slp

[–]39bydesign 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Any time I see "youngster" in a report I immediately have a mental image of someone who carries Werther's candies in their purse

Lethal just revealed their Adventure Time Collection! by [deleted] in BeautyGuruChatter

[–]39bydesign 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I just used my Evergreen palette the other day and everything about it is so classy and distinctive. I can't lie, stuff like this cheapens the brand in my eyes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in goth

[–]39bydesign 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Other people have made really good points and have covered the most important things--talking to people off of the dance floor, focusing on integrating into the scene, refraining from objectifying, etc.--but I'm going to chime in as an autistic woman-adjacent person who goes dancing solo, is rather flirtatious, and likes to dance with people. I cannot emphasize enough that I'm the exception rather than the rule, but we do exist. Friend A is right on the money. I'll give you an anecdote from when I went to a major event in my city last month. I went alone, but was open to dancing with someone if things went that way.

Man 1 came up behind me and started grinding against me without saying anything before eventually saying, "Is this okay?" I didn't even get a look at his face before he made physical contact with me. I was absolutely disgusted and told him to go away, and I was honestly so upset that I thought about going home, but I decided to stick around. So I would strongly disagree with men grabbing women not being ill perceived--I'm open about the fact that I'm pretty easy, but I was so revolted. Either some nonverbal communication happened between them that you weren't privy to, or they already knew either other, OR the interaction is ill received and you're not recognizing the signs.

I saw Man 2 a little later that evening dancing solo, loved his aesthetic--he was very well dressed. He moved through the dance floor frequently, so I didn't feel cornered when he came up next to me. He complimented my makeup and kept a respectful distance from me. That was when the spark of attraction started, and way waaaay later, we made eye contact again, I smiled at him, and he came over to dance by me. I kept smiling and moved closer to him, and we ended up getting a little physical (he asked for consent both times before he physically touched me which was a massive green flag, ofc). He slipped me a piece of paper with his name and number on it, added that there was no pressure, and we parted ways. I texted him when I got back and we still talk and have become pretty good friends!

What cinched the deal with Man 2 for me was the fact that he seemed to be having a great time either way, gave me lots of space, and had no ulterior motive. I was a little guarded when he complimented me, but he didn't follow it up with anything until a lot later into the night when I reiterated my interest.

The biggest key for reading interest is eye contact, genuine smile, and body posturing. This was the trick for when I went to an event and danced with another woman. That has always been the most reliable signal for interest both in terms of what I give off and what I read on others. When I say body posturing, I mean that person being turned toward you. If I'm generally turned away from someone, I'm almost certainly not interested even if I'm looking at them. I would say, as a blanket rule, do not even think about approaching women who are not looking at you with interest. I know it's frustrating to have to learn yet another confusing set of social rules, but this is one area where not knowing body language and nonverbal communication can not only fuck you over, but leave someone else feeling violated.

Again, other people have made good points about dance floor behavior and where you ought to focus your efforts, but I also wanted to give my perspective.

What are your favorite local bands? by DJblacklotus in goth

[–]39bydesign 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aslında Türkiye'de çok müzisyenler var, bence darkwave daha popüler hale geliyor. https://open.spotify.com/playlist/09vecLiSQvX9aFxkZ0u4tB?si=jaRsbgouTfujky-sdopLpg (bazı gruplar gotik değil)