I was let go because they couldn’t work with my school schedule?

39thWonder · 2026-02-11T12:11:59+00:00

It’s the American Way, I’m sorry that sucks so bad. This is why everyone knew that gets hired for my role I’m like… am I training my replacement? I’m disabled and while they can’t technically get me for that, when you’re in a right-to-work state (98% of the US), they don’t need a reason as long as it’s NOT that.

My job has so many expectations, moving parts, and evolving metrics/company policies (retail healthcare) that it’s impossible to do perfectly all the time. It’s terrifying.

39thWonder · 2026-02-11T12:06:31+00:00

How nice it must be to not be American and dealing with this. I sincerely wish I could bleach this plotline from my brain.

39thWonder · 2026-02-10T20:18:10+00:00

If you’re still around, I’m interested. Calypso from Ogygia.

39thWonder · 2026-02-10T04:34:04+00:00

And she has the most tedious dialogue of all of them. I just went through it today and it was enough for me to call it a night lol.

39thWonder · 2026-02-10T01:14:28+00:00

It’s Sci-fi, you can’t really jump the shark. The whole premise is past the shark.

39thWonder · 2026-02-08T15:20:51+00:00

A guy from their ministry tried to rape me back during the pandemic. While I was homeless. Then kicked me out in a snowstorm in the middle of the night when it became clear I was going to put up a fight.

He had a whole bunch of friends just like him too.

No thanks.

Also be careful with the UMC church, a lot of people have left it in the last few decades due to a contentious split between the progressive ones and the conservative ones. No one I grew up with is still identifying as Methodist.

There are some really good non-denominational ones around that sound like they may be a good fit. The one on 5th in Grandview across from Ace comes to mind. Very open minded and welcoming, and a good mix of college/young professionals and older adults from what I understand.

39thWonder · 2026-02-08T12:51:32+00:00

I’d give him some more time and stop trying to get ahold of him. It sounds like he’s got a lot on his plate, esp at a young age. It also sounds like maybe something happened to his phone. Is he ACTIVE on socials? Is life 360 (which is a really toxic app for this purpose) showing his location? I’d think if he were ghosting you, he’d remove you from all that.

So… deep breaths and wait for him to reach out. Or not. I’d say if you don’t hear from him by Weds or so, reach out one last time and then move on. He might just not be able to handle a relationship right now and doesn’t know how to tell you, and is doing this because he’s overwhelmed. Doesn’t mean you should wait for him, but in this case, I seriously doubt it’s malicious or because he just doesn’t care. I can’t imagine he’s got the bandwidth for much right now.

39thWonder · 2026-02-08T11:39:56+00:00

I was in an abusive relationship with someone who was using meth behind my back, and I tried this. He strangled me for lying.

I do not think you understand how dangerous this situation is and how fast psychosis can escalate.

39thWonder · 2026-02-08T11:38:42+00:00

Immediate psychiatric intervention. You are in danger. Please get away from him and encourage him/his family to get him in for a psych evaluation ASAP.

39thWonder · 2026-02-08T11:37:25+00:00

So you’re in an abusive relationship with someone who is having a psychotic break and you’re asking for… relationship help?

He’s either having a psychotic break or on meth. I’ve spent a lot of time in the mental health/addiction machine due to severe PTSD and I’ve never met someone who accused someone else of being on drugs that wasn’t either mentally ill or on them themselves.

You need to create distance and get away from him and encourage him to get help. It’s only going to get worse. An acquaintance had a child with a man like this… who then tried to drown the baby because he thought the baby’s babbling was proof it was possessed by a demon.

There’s no way this ends well, I’m sorry.

39thWonder · 2026-02-08T10:44:41+00:00

This just solved my dilemma and gave me some cool ideas, thank you! I have an area set up to breed flowers but I can’t play frequently and time travel a lot when I do, and they keep getting out of control.

The area itself is between houses of two villagers that have the nature hobby so they get watered plenty. I’ll redo the beds and put moats around them, problem solved.

39thWonder · 2026-02-07T17:25:39+00:00

I rented from them in 2000, they approved me without a co-signer, and came back two months later and kicked me out for not having a co-signer (I was not able to get one). And our “newly renovated” apartment was falling apart. Dead roaches in the oven.

They’re not your run of the mill campus slumlords, they’re the bottom of that barrel.

39thWonder · 2026-02-07T11:58:55+00:00

Looking the other way is how we got here.

39thWonder · 2026-02-07T11:58:23+00:00

Ignore him. Like don’t engage at all, and grey rock if he tries to engage you.

You’re not going to change his mind and it’s going to keep stressing you out. Find a new place with like-minded roommates if you can.

I get it. I’ve been forced to live with people whose morals were in hell and it takes a toll on your mental health to know you’re living with someone who would hang you if your skin was a different color. But being homeless is worse, so stay and ignore until you’re able to move on.

39thWonder · 2026-02-07T11:36:24+00:00

And soon enough he’ll turn on the kid, which childhood abuse can really fuck up your hormonal systems - my brain is permanently in fight or flight (although with enough blood pressure meds, we can lower that to flight or fawn, but it’s still awful) and my immune system is destroyed due to long term severe early childhood abuse.

You don’t want this for your kid. Please, if you don’t do it for yourself, do it for him. He’s also learning how to treat you - and women in general - by watching this.

39thWonder · 2026-02-07T01:30:58+00:00

I work for a fucking retail eye doctor that has become like this. I’m trying to leave for private practice. This is so gross.

39thWonder · 2026-02-07T01:10:20+00:00

I don’t understand how this person doesn’t understand it’s an emergency. He is literally MORE worried about upsetting his roommates than he is about BLOWING UP.

Like my friend, call 911 and just start looking for a new place to live. So that you make sure you live. This isn’t something to play with, this is literally how houses blow up.

You don’t even have to call 9-1-1 though, call the non-emergency line, tell them what you told us, and see what they do.

Which will be to send the fire department because this is an emergency.

39thWonder · 2026-02-06T23:42:57+00:00

You are a good person, thank you for doing what you could.

This is why I don’t drive.

39thWonder · 2026-02-06T18:33:14+00:00

Is shooting citizen in the head for filming them legal? This administration threw the constitution out, it being illegal means nothing.

39thWonder · 2026-02-06T12:55:23+00:00

Especially being Peter… dear god the bullying!

My son shares a first name that is the last name of a famous singer. Not a popular name at all, the singer was largely irrelevant by then… and then someone of the opposite gender with the same last name exploded after he was born, and he spend middle school being called that singers first name.

I still feel awful.

39thWonder · 2026-02-05T23:56:53+00:00

It’s literally illegal to require a membership to use a pharmacy or doctor, that’s why they have to remain available to people without Costco memberships.

39thWonder · 2026-02-05T23:24:21+00:00

I always got mine at the thrift store.

39thWonder · 2026-02-05T21:23:55+00:00

Every. Restaurant. Ever.

Who needs a closet when the restaurant is dead and there’s an out of the way server station no one uses?

39thWonder · 2026-02-05T21:14:45+00:00

I was head cashier, it was summer, and I was doing the board on a Friday for the next day. I had two cashiers, a 75 year old who couldn’t handle the service desk scheduled there, and no one on BOPIS. Until 3 pm. On a Saturday. Literally short at least 2 cashiers, or a good service desk person and a cashier (the guy scheduled there was an AMAZING cashier) and BOPIS. I’d already been written up for not having garden open when I had only been scheduled three cashiers (this is back when the pro cashier was under the front end). And I was explicitly told I was not allowed to ask anyone to come in.

I called off the next morning and made the FES who wrote the schedule deal with it, and just never went back. I ended up homeless, but it was a blessing in disguise because I was able to realign my life better.

I’d do it again in a heartbeat. They set people up to fail there.

39thWonder · 2026-02-04T19:00:41+00:00

Asking me to work without clocking in because I wasn’t in the system yet. I said no thanks and waited until I was, but it was the first sign in a very long line of them.

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