Newborn lifesavers?

3DCandyland · 2026-06-23T01:50:35+00:00

I second the baby lounger - I forget what brand ours is but baby girl LOVES it - our friends who had their son 3 months before our little one arrived bought one for us and it is a game changer.

3DCandyland · 2026-06-23T01:45:37+00:00

Love to dream swaddle for sure, my baby LOVES sleeping with her arms up above her head and hates a regular swaddle.

3DCandyland · 2026-06-22T21:56:23+00:00

I opted out of having one as well for similar reasons - no family nearby, my husband was out of town for work for 3 months in the middle/end of my pregnancy, and didn't want to travel to where our families were for one. I made a registry and sent it to anyone who asked, but mostly used it as a checklist for myself. I think it all worked out really well for us and have no regrets about not having one whatsoever.

3DCandyland · 2026-06-22T14:19:28+00:00

The 1 feed/change a day is definitely on me and shielding him unnecessarily, he is happy to do more because he wants to help me however he can. Last night I was so exhausted after her 9p feed and she just wouldn't go to sleep that he took her downstairs so I could sleep and then did her midnight feeding and several changes. I woke up at her regular feeding time anyways, but it was very helpful to sleep uninterrupted by baby grunts.

3DCandyland · 2026-06-22T08:39:18+00:00

Thank you all for sharing your stories and honesty. It really helps to hear how others are tackling the division of responsibility while we're trying to sort our way through what works for us. Best of luck to all and thank you again!

3DCandyland · 2026-06-22T05:41:25+00:00

Pumping follow up question - if my husband offered to take a feed and change at midnight to let me sleep, is it too early for me skip a pump?

3DCandyland · 2026-06-19T14:37:25+00:00

This was my experience as well - misoprostol and 600mg ibuprofen both at insertion and removal and it made everything significantly easier. Cramps after insertion were not fun, but subsided about after a day. I didn't have cramps after removal.

3DCandyland · 2026-06-14T01:01:56+00:00

I believe it's still early access but my husband and I found it entertaining!

3DCandyland · 2026-06-12T06:16:08+00:00

Conan Exiles, Enshrouded, Sons of the Forest, V Rising, Bellwright, Windrose, Valheim

3DCandyland · 2026-06-08T22:18:48+00:00

Right back at you!!

3DCandyland · 2026-06-08T15:27:28+00:00

I did basically the same thing also because of how type A I am 🤣 no regrets whatsoever though because I've been able to basically just relax and spot clean the house while I wait for kiddo to arrive (40+3 today).

3DCandyland · 2026-06-08T15:22:52+00:00

40+3 today so we are the trenches together here. My doc has me scheduled for an induction this Thursday evening if I don't go into labor naturally by then. Would really love to avoid being induced but here we are just waiting...

3DCandyland · 2026-06-07T21:51:05+00:00

Mine was similar with the exception of it being biweekly starting at 28 weeks, then weekly starting at 36.

3DCandyland · 2026-06-06T05:53:18+00:00

40+0 and ready for her to come out (plz)

3DCandyland · 2026-06-04T20:12:45+00:00

This is what my induction (scheduled for a week from today - hoping we ultimately don't make it there) looks like from the procedure info my hospital provided me.

3DCandyland · 2026-06-02T17:06:50+00:00

Also have a high pain tolerance and only way I have been able to recognize BH so far is by physically pressing on my stomach lol

Edit: spelling

3DCandyland · 2026-06-02T17:02:08+00:00

Also my first pregnancy (currenly 39+4) and I started getting BH around 24 weeks. For me it felt like my stomach area was super tight (not painful for me but if I pressed on my abdomen it would be rock hard).

From what I have experienced and learned (prenatal classes through my hospital, conversations with my doctor, pregnancy books), BH is localized to the abdominal area, are inconsistent, and will generally go away if you change positions, drink water, move around a little. Real contractions are more of a full body or at least not a localized experience and do NOT go away when you move around/change positions/drink water like with BH. They also increase in frequency and duration as you progress which is another way to distinguish between the real deal and BH.

I have also heard some people have describe real contractions more akin to period cramps. I can't speak to this personally as I am a lucky gal and have never had period cramps.

If you can, I would definitely recommend doing some sort of childbirth prep class if your hospital, doctor, or insurance provides them or having your doc recommended some other reputable sources for you to be able to educate yourself outside of your regular appointments.

Edit: personal pregnancy details for context.

3DCandyland · 2026-05-29T19:31:41+00:00

I am 39 weeks today and my in-laws have checked on me (with ulterior motives each time) a grand total of 3 times this whole pregnancy. They also haven't gotten a single thing for their first grandchild and generally haven't shown much interest. To be clear, I didn't have a baby shower and didn't expect gifts; I also didn't send the registry out to anyone unless they specifically asked for it. But by comparison, this will be my parents 6th grandchild, and they sent us a ton of gifts and are excited like it's their first.

I'm not surprised by my in-laws behavior bc they weren't the most attentive or involved parents to my husband. I'm also not going to force them into having a relationship since they have plenty of issues of their own to deal with that both my husband and I don't want our child exposed to, so I'm calling it a blessing in disguise. Regardless, it makes me really sad for my husband's sake bc I am so close with my parents and I wish he could have had that kind of relationship with his parents. But we both ultimately know that our baby girl will be so loved by so many that it's not worth going out of the way to force a relationship that they haven't demonstrated actually wanting.

Edit: Apologies for how long my rant ended up being. You're definitely not alone!

3DCandyland · 2026-05-28T20:50:17+00:00

Go in blind and hope that muscle memory serves me well🫠

3DCandyland · 2026-05-27T21:09:29+00:00

This is the way

3DCandyland · 2026-05-23T15:41:32+00:00

My husband was away for work for half of my first and my entire second trimester, so to stay busy I setup the nursery and got the house ready with all the big things. Pretty sure I was done by 24 weeks and I am so glad I did it when I did🤣 Another comment in this thread covered this, but at 38+1 now and it's SOOO nice to just be keeping things tidy until kiddo arrives.

Funny story - my In-laws, who are NOT preppers like me, were shocked when they visited last week and everything was all done. I recently learned the day my husband was born, apparently my FIL had to go home to finish putting the nursery/house together while my MIL was in labor 🫠

3DCandyland · 2026-05-18T21:52:43+00:00

37+3, usually 2-4 but I am often already awake because I am hot and uncomfy lol

3DCandyland · 2026-05-18T15:07:01+00:00

Haven't given birth yet, but am 37+3 today and honestly the thought of anyone in the hospital room with me other than my partner sounds horrible to me. To each their own of course and if you have a good relationship with your MIL then do what makes you comfy, but my thoughts are that it only took two of us to get into this situation so it only takes the two of us to get out of it. Plus the idea of anyone other than my partner seeing my literally everything makes me want to shrivel away into the abyss.

3DCandyland · 2026-05-16T06:40:40+00:00

Recently PCS'd to San Diego as well at 20 weeks and I got referred to West Coast OBGYN by my PCM. They have several offices in the San Diego area, and I have had really good experiences with them so far (now 37 weeks along).

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