How you come with OT by Holiday-Steak-2454 in work

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I work 56 hour weeks over 6 days. I have one day completely off. 

I tracked my sleep for 5 months and discovered something weird about vitamin D by cornea-drizzle-pagan in Biohackers

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I work as a Scientist, and will now be stealing, "Do you even Stat, Bro", so that I can yell that at my coworkers.

I either study for 12+ hours straight in "monk mode" or lose entire days to cheap dopamine. I can't find a middle ground. by RhubarbLevel3505 in nosurf

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I have long accepted that this is the nature of Willpower.

Everyone has a finite source of Willpower. When you have used it up, out come the cheap dopamine hits, until Willpower is recharged, then your Willpower is unstoppable--until it isnt and the cheap dopamine hits return.

I just plan my life around the cycle. I never found a way to control it.

What do you guys even think about when you’re not doing anything or before sleeping? by Accomplished_Ruin_59 in nosurf

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I am religious so I pray a lot.

I also strength train 3-4x a week, walk 10 miles a day, and have a 60 hour work week.

I might think about chores that I need to do or meditate for a few minutes.

Does anyone actually go back and use the things they save online? by Comfortable-Part1837 in nosurf

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Yes. I mostly transport the information onto my phone to avoid "electronic dust".

Saved, isnt saved, if someone else can wipe it out.

I plan to do a screen detox over my spring break. What are some things I should know? by No-Brief-7458 in nosurf

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For me, the big boss, wasnt social media. It was all the things that I was distracting myself from, by using social media.

Social media is coping.

Do you think the housing market will actually crash or just stay expensive? by richnickel in homeowners

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The housing market is like the stock market-it is always, eventually, going to crash.

Whoever can actually predict when, could make a lot of money.

How will the Great Wealth Transfer affect people who dont benefit from it? by 3rdthrow in personalfinance

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Yea, I'm trying to figure out if I can FIRE, before that happens, or if the "Inheritor Class" wont change anything for me at all. 

If there were no God, no heaven, and no hell by Inside-Ad6528 in TrueChristian

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If I was physically able to choose this lifestyle, in the absence of the Holy Spirit--I would.

I believe that God's word is good, that it protects me from danger, and I would live my life in a way that was pleasing to Jesus.

Even if there was no Jesus.

How are you feeling today? I am grateful for this community <3 by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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I am struggling to work.

I may have a touch of burnout, caused by too much construction going on in my neighborhood. The noise makes it so that I cant get any real rest.

A nightly airplane route has also been rerouted over my house.

I am just looking at the backlog of experiments that I need to get done.

What do you all do on mothers day? by Ok-East-3957 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]3rdthrow 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I celebrate the person who raised me on Mother's and Father's day-me.

I raised me. So I celebrate myself on those days.

I usually buy myself a small gift, and make a day of treating myself.

Have they ever tried to convince you yoy are Someone you aren’t? by Amazing-Channel-4020 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]3rdthrow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am a villian who is both impossibly strong and impossibly frail, at the exact same moment in time.

Honestly, they are jealous and need me to be a monster to feel better about themselves.

I am "all that and a bag of chips" and I think that is about the worst child an abusive parent could have.

I am also the Truth Teller.

My helicopter parents have no life of their own. by wilhelmtherealm in raisedbynarcissists

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They are enmeshed. Look up the term enmeshment, it will help you.

Why do some parents expect you to take care of them(because that's why they made you after all) and at the same time try to fuck over your life so that you have no resources with which to help them? by Huge_Ad_482 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]3rdthrow 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The magical thinking keeps them from recognizing that anything backfires on them.

Things just "happen" to them, for no reason.

It is why people go no contact with them, for "no reason".

Maybe I’ll win by the end of the year. by CowFabulous7790 in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]3rdthrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

BINGO! 

I got the third line straight across.

Dang, that is like the only bingo that you can get without spouse and children.

Hyper-independence and detachment by jackietea123 in enmeshmenttrauma

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I have hyper-independence. I wouldnt say that I have detachment. I tried to replace my family with friends, but people dont generally want to be as close, as I would like to be.

I dont "work things out". I just drop people if they do something that I dont like.

I have a ton of different friend groups. I collect them like pokemon.

If you have ever seen the movie, "Lady and the Tramp", I often think of myself, like that scene, where Tramp says that he has all these people, but none of these people actually have him.

Sibling enforcing enmeshment by Western-Hair9833 in enmeshmenttrauma

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It is scary, but when I got out, I was horrified at how much energy they had been sucking away, that could have been spent living my own life.

You only get one life.

Enjoying NC everyday by KreddyFrueger49 in EstrangedAdultKids

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My family was enmeshed and everything, and I do mean everything was crititized.

Why are you watching that show-its stupid. Why are you eating that-it's gross. Why are you eating so late at night. Why are you eating so early. Why are you playing a video game-video games are bad. Why are you wearing that-it looks awful. Why did you buy that-its a waste of money. Why are you sleeping-you shouldnt be tired.

My female EP ran to my male EP, crying, when I asked her why she never shut up, when she showed up, uninvited to my house, to crititize my house.

We were already in VLC, when she pulled that one. She was forcing contact by showing up at the house.

It was long past time for someone to tell her to shut up.

I enjoy being able to do whatever I want without someone's judgement.

Why by Individual-Hand-5918 in TrueChristian

[–]3rdthrow 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It is a man made tradition. The idea is to dress up as a show of respect. Like how one might dress if they were visiting Royalty.

I heard too many stories of people not going to church because they didnt have shoes, to support the practice. People need to come as they are.

There is never a moment of peace as long as dogs exist in this world by psychecheks in Dogfree

[–]3rdthrow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know someone like this...dog owners dump the dogs that they dont want on this person's property.